What's the difference between wanting someone and having them as your "dreamie"?

[Dayna]

What's the difference between wanting someone and having them as your "dreamie"?

I was at an auction earlier tonight, and after I bid, someone asked me "is he your dreamie, or do you just want him"?

I found it a little rude, to be honest (but I'm honestly not taking it seriously. This is an interesting chat I wanted to have with you guys!). I feel like if no one wants said villager (no bids were placed for a while), and I bid, and then someone comes along with some other bid and shouts that said villager is their dreamie, do they suddenly get dibs? Are they the auctioner's automatic favorite?

In my opinion, I feel like wanting a villager is almost the same as having them as your dreamie. If I get that villager, I'm going to treat them right. It's not like I'm going to hit them with a net or give them ugly catchphrases and clothes. I guess it makes it seem more convincing that you'll care for them if they're your "dreamie".

Thoughts?

 

[RoseNitemare]

Hm. I think it's because some people want to buy the villager and then auction them off for a higher price, and obviously if that villager is your dreamie then you wouldn't do that. Some people want to make sure that their villagers are going to good homes, and aren't going to just be cycled out again.

 

[Spooky.]

I think there are villagers that you might 'want' because you're looking for a specific personality type or just because they're cute or fit in with a theme of a town. I think a villager being a dreamie is more like one you have to have because you totally adore them regardless or anything else.

 

[Dayna]

I see! Thanks for the insight. I never thought about selling any villagers, but now I can see why people would be defensive over their dreamies.

 

[Arabelle]

Well, from how I see it, dreamies are like permanent villagers you want in your town. If not permanent, at least for a loooong time. Cyclers or others who give away or hold auctions for villagers probbly want to make sure that the villager would be going to a good home rather than being traded or sold to another player shortly.

When I had 2 towns I had Julian in both towns and so I decided to give him away from 2nd town and I made sure that person really wanted Julian and wasn't gonna take advantage of me giving him away by selling/trading him later. She showed me dreamie proof (in sig) and posts where she was looking for & bidded on other auctions for Julian.. Maybe I was kinda being too picky but I could have sold him for like 10+ million bells (idk how much he's worth, but back then, yeah) but instead I gave him away for free so yeah.. I wanted him to go to a good home.

 

[al-tirah]

I think just "wanting someone" means you want them for now but you might cycle them out later but "having them as dreamie" means you're going to keep them for a very long time.

 

[elliebeebee]

I wanted Renee when I saw her in an auction but I've wanted Phoebe since I saw her picture

 

[Kindra]

It was really rude of someone to say that to you. Even if you only wanted the villager to resell, I don't think that should have any impact during an auction.
An auction should be about the highest big, not who wants the villager more. :/
It's not nice to pressure someone like that. I've unfortunately seen that happen a lot. Someone is outbid and then they get really antagonistic towards the person who made the higher bid, trying to guilt them into backing out.
I hope it didn't put you off or make you withdraw your offer. ;(

 

[HoennMaster]

Regardless of the answer, that was rude. Honestly, I knew really though of Dreamies as anything more than villagers you really want in your town, but apparently that's not the case with that user.

 

[Classygirl]

If I am looking for someone at this point they are a dreamie, some higher on the chain than others. However I have had the experience of getting a dreamie, myself by cycling as in Marshall and Flora and then just not clicked with the villager so that does happen. At this point I know who I am dying to have and where and with who, but there is always that chance after a long time they will leave or will not be what was expected for some and that's ok.

As far as dream proof, I understand giving away a villager ie Marshall accidental tting move out he was number one then and I could have sold him but did give him as was frustrated and have had not the same case but similar a popular given cheap and resold for outrageous and that hurts too.

But no one should question if you want a villager who you may love forever versus someone saying it's a dream, aren't they all if you are really wanting them? It depends on the person, but I think someone should not have their bid knocked over or ignored because someone claims to want them more there is no way to know that and am sorry that happened to you. Who are you looking for as I start my holding town final town then start setting up a cycle after finish off my dreams or at same time I can keep an eye for you.

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With auctions, just as a note, it should be only highest bid regardless. If they want to sell to a specific person it should perhaps be a selling thread with a rule or dream proof required and they are taking liberty to choose to whom they sell based on their own feelings. An auction you take the chance of a resell so if they are worried about that then set the high bid at the max so the person can't resell it for more if someone is willing to pay max it's their right to do whatever they please. If they only want to give then do a give for dream proof.

I had to say this as for a while now the old auction, selling, and trading expected rules and procedures have not been being properly followed leading to people feeling hurt or favoritism or not wanting to bid, there should be clear rules across the board I think but that's just me. And if an auction an end time or buyout listing is a must have so winner is winner and there is no gray area. But that's just my opinion, hearing what happened with you made me mad and I have been seeing the system be cracked for a little bit now a few months.

 

[Hypno KK]

I'd say that there are the same thing since dreamies are basically villagers that people want, and I personally don't tend to use the word to talk about the villagers I want. I guess that some people make a distinction between the two but it seems kind of pointless to me.

I understand what the person who said that was trying to say, though. Some people want to make sure that the villagers they're giving away for free won't be resold later at a higher price, so maybe they wanted to check how much you wanted that villager.

 

[Tap Dancer]

There are villagers I'd love to have, but my only real "dreamie" is Maple. I don't even know if even she counts because I certainly wouldn't pay for her. I adore her, but I can live without her. I already know the only way I'm getting her is if she shows up in my campsite when I have a space open.

 

[toadsworthy]

It was really rude of someone to say that to you. Even if you only wanted the villager to resell, I don't think that should have any impact during an auction.
An auction should be about the highest big, not who wants the villager more. :/
It's not nice to pressure someone like that. I've unfortunately seen that happen a lot. Someone is outbid and then they get really antagonistic towards the person who made the higher bid, trying to guilt them into backing out.
I hope it didn't put you off or make you withdraw your offer. ;(

yes an Auction shouldn't have stipulations like that... highest bid wins period. I sometimes do have my own dreamies or other villagers I like pop up in my cycling town and if so I specify in my OP. Its kinda annoying when people here expect something and then not specify in their first post...

 

[cosmic-latte]

It was definitely unreasonable for the to say that, but dreamies are your most desired as opposed to villagers you like but don't necessarily want as much as dreamies.

 

[lithiumlatte]

I can understand someone asking if they're a dreamie if for example; the seller lost them by accident and was one of their dreamies that they had no intention of selling. I guess you'd want them to go to someone else who will look after them? But otherwise, yeah I agree it should normally be just highest bid.

 

[Beardo]

To me, want comes off as "I want this villager in my town, and have wanted them for a short period of time" while dreamie comes off as, "I WILL DO ANYTHING TO GET THIS VILLAGER IN MY TOWN AND WILL NEVER LET THEM GO EVER!"

 

[Snazzapple]

I guess it makes sense since you don't want some one to take your villager and let them be greedy and make more profit. And if the person wants it as a dreamie you'd help them and have a safe feeling that the villager won't end up in your main street. It happened to me quite a few times a villager would end up in main street of my town only days/weeks later of some one adopting them and leaving me heart broken. So I guess there's another reason why people care about that so much. So then the difference of the dreamie and just wanting is, dreamie that single person is the going to keep them as long as they can unless the dreamie moves out without a word, which you will feel good because well? they'll keep 'em as long as they can. On the other hand a person who just wants the villager will auction them off for more money or better villagers as soon as they can! It's just like that. It makes me feel bad but that's the truth!

 

[Dayna]

Who are you looking for as I start my holding town final town then start setting up a cycle after finish off my dreams or at same time I can keep an eye for you.

No worries! It wasn't someone I was super die-hard about getting, but it seemed like a good opportunity to have someone cute in my town that I'd like to get to know. Thank you for being so considerate though!

To all: Don't worry, it wasn't on this site's forum! I really like the community here!! Wowzas!!

 

[Extra]

I don't get it eather you know because i don't care who takes my villagers and who doesn't all i care about is thta they get out of my town and enever come back and if they do i will force em out. although some villagers are cool like kyle he's cool. i wish he didn't move out of my town you know. i would pay people to take merengue and beau out of my town though, i dun like em you know it's really obvious on why i don't or how i don't but it's true no matter what s what you know. kyle is cool because he looks like a german shepphered and has a vest and rare furniture in his house that i want because it's so cool you know like the flower bouguet and other stuff like card box shmuff and things it's cool it really is you know that? of course you do becase he is so cool that i want him back in my town i seroiuse ly thought of restarting becayse he left my town withought me knowing shich made me so sad i cried.

 

[jacey.sunshine]

I understand from being a cycler their point of view, but also as a buyer your point of view.

Dreamies can be hard to obtain, therefore cyclers want to help those people most of all. The ones that will want to keep them forever rather than just for a bit. I do find that semi rude but also they probably just want a forever home for them. Who wouldn't if its a more popular villager? We don't want that person to turn around and just sell them for more or void them.

I know some people put dreamies, and then other desired villagers, Because lets face it out of 333 villagers you can't always get that solid 10. Maybe just write your signature as dreamies and desirables?

If it happens again maybe just post so and so is your dreamie and you want said villager for a forever home or something along those lines. Or why not create a list of animals you desire in your signature for future references?

At least there are ways to avoid this in the future good luck!