Reginald Fairfield
Senior Member
Muggy again.

Hey stop apologizing or yourself, please...You should NOT take what they do to you and don't feel sorry or such even if that's somehow a rational thing to do doesn't mean it's right. Hope you're safe at your friend's though ;;I did what I did because I couldn't take it. I slammed the doors, screamed, and was hysterical because I couldn't take all the **** you say about me anymore. I could have handled it better, but I didn't. I'm just so upset. I'm waiting to get pick up by a friend.
Often when people are giving others advice they are doing so based on their own life experiences. This may seem hypocritical to the person receiving the advice, but the intention is to make sure that someone else learns and benefits from their mistakes.my mom: *spent her entire young life living in people's shadows, never standing up for herself, being submissive*
Also my mom: "you need to learn to stand up for yourself and be assertive"
bruh where tf you think I got it from![]()
bruh big mood.my mom: *spent her entire young life living in people's shadows, never standing up for herself, being submissive*
Also my mom: "you need to learn to stand up for yourself and be assertive"
bruh where tf you think I got it from![]()
that's just it though, I get that my mom wants me to learn from her mistakes but that's really hard to do when she raised me the same way her mom raised her (she's an extreme helicopter mom, as a result I don't have the proper social skills. doesn't help that I have aspergers as well, it's like a double dose or smth).bruh big mood.
or when parents don't teach you things at all because they're afraid you will "leave" them yeah tf you think some parents are just so dumb.
tell me about chopper moms (and dads), they never taught me stuff and yeah bad social skills from start + asperger's ****ing perfect lolthat's just it though, I get that my mom wants me to learn from her mistakes but that's really hard to do when she raised me the same way her mom raised her (she's an extreme helicopter mom, as a result I don't have the proper social skills. doesn't help that I have aspergers as well, it's like a double dose or smth).
tell me about chopper moms (and dads), they never taught me stuff and yeah bad social skills from start + asperger's ****ing perfect lol
idk how my grandparents even raised my parents bc they are definitely not like that...
Yeah, while I can understand why at parts, it's not a good thing not teaching things and just spoiling; my dad did exactly that and basically pretended not to see my Asperger(he still doesn't and I got it official late in life). I sure have some academic experience but it was topics I found fun and I never got a degree (yet) from it. And yes you need much more experience than just fine academics to do well in life and if you don't get proper teaching in life(tm) you're not gonna succeed much in other areas. And I could definitely have been without spoiling.Yep. I think many of us Millennial folks had those kinds of parents. The thing with Boomers, and the latter part of the Silent Gen, is they wanted to give their kids everything. My dad even said this was a major driving force of his, he wanted us to have everything he didn't have growing up (even though he had an easy WASP American upbringing, lol). So while Millennials got lots of attention and doting, we ended up largely spoiled. There are so many things that have taken me longer to learn as an adult than prior generations. My family didn't teach a lot of basic life skills; much of what I learned in cooking and cleaning, for example, came from working in homes with individuals who have developmental disabilities. Those skills weren't emphasized at home, believe me. Especially as I got older, and went from my childhood to teen years, my family kind of just gave up giving me any sorts of responsibility. They had the naive view that, because I did well academically, everything would be fine. But life is much, much, much more than doing well academically in school. Social and practical skills need to be explicitly taught. These are things that, if my husband and I happen to conceive in the future (we plan on one child in a year or two), we will make a priority.