What's Bothering You?

[Princess Mipha]

Just want to tell you, you are not wrong for wanting to nap and sleep longer. I still feel bad for wanting more sleep and wanting a nap and I still don't understand how people have energy or time or desire to do much of anything else while caring for a young child and taking care of a house. Nicholas is 2 and I still feel like I can barely keep up with the house and anything other than taking care of him most of the time. (I will say, this is more so the case lately because he's decided he no longer needs naps. ).

Just know that everything you're feeling is normal, and you are not doing anything wrong for wanting rest. You definitely deserve it! Been thinking about you and hope you enjoyed your first Christmas and New Year with your little one

Thank you, that's actually really reassuring to hear that you're feeling the same. Nina is still waking up 2 - 4 times a night and the doctor told me to try and let herself calm down alone, but that's pretty hard as she'll cry for 10 or more minutes and that will wake up my fiancé who really needs the sleep in order to drive around for his work.. and somehow she really just won't fall asleep or be tired enough to simply not cry

And thank you, we've had a really amazing first christmas and new year!! I hope you had a nice one aswell ☺

 

[Neb]

The girl that laughed at me last week made a speech about how ableism has affected her friends and partners. She laughed at an autistic person for stimming on camera, but she still acted like she cared about my people’s treatment by society.

I’m used to being treated like a creep for my autistic traits. It’s something I and many other people deal with on a daily basis. In fact I’m more comfortable telling people I’m nonbinary or pansexual than being autistic. The stigma around my disability is that bad. What I’m not used to are hypocrites who claim to care about disability rights, but then treat an autistic person like garbage. It’s not okay and I wish I had the ability to stand up for myself.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

The girl that laughed at me last week made a speech about how ableism has affected her friends and partners. She laughed at an autistic person for stimming on camera, but she still acted like she cared about my people’s treatment by society.

I’m used to being treated like a creep for my autistic traits. It’s something I and many other people deal with on a daily basis. In fact I’m more comfortable telling people I’m nonbinary or pansexual than being autistic. The stigma around my disability is that bad. What I’m not used to are hypocrites who claim to care about disability rights, but then treat an autistic person like garbage. It’s not okay and I wish I had the ability to stand up for myself.

it took me about 7 months to find the courage to tell my internship supervisor that I'm autistic and I had to do it over email, I couldn't do it in person. it's pretty unfortunate but society stigmatizes autism so much that those of us who potentially are willing to speak up, just can't.

I try to speak up for myself, and as I've gotten older I understand more what my non-negotiable needs are (no matter how "weird" they may seem; when I go to my internship or anywhere alone I always bring one or two stuffed animals with me, though I often hide them from others' view due to fear of judgment). im honest to god at the point where im tired of trying to be something im not and if people have a problem with that they can actually **** off.

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it's now been almost 4 days and no reply, idk what to do

(edit: typo)

 

[Foreverfox]

Thank you, that's actually really reassuring to hear that you're feeling the same. Nina is still waking up 2 - 4 times a night and the doctor told me to try and let herself calm down alone, but that's pretty hard as she'll cry for 10 or more minutes and that will wake up my fiancé who really needs the sleep in order to drive around for his work.. and somehow she really just won't fall asleep or be tired enough to simply not cry

And thank you, we've had a really amazing first christmas and new year!! I hope you had a nice one aswell ☺

I remember when we first moved Nicholas from his bassinet in our room to his crib in his own room at 4 months old, we had to let him cry for 20 and 30 mins before he'd finally calm down. I was absolutely beside myself the whole time and I'd be our room crying because he was crying in his room lol. It's totally normal to not want to let her cry, that's maternal instinct!

 

[Mr_Persona]

When you message someone and they're obviously online but ignore your message for days or weeks. And if you reply back to their response but they never say anything back. Just rude of people.

 

[Foreverfox]

When you message someone and they're obviously online but ignore your message for days or weeks. And if you reply back to their response but they never say anything back. Just rude of people.

I feel you. I really, really hate being ignored. It's my number one pet peeve. There is just no need for it. Like, it doesn't take long to send a reply of any kind. Even if the reply is not one you'd want to hear, it's at least better than nothing.

 

[Alienfish]

I feel you. I really, really hate being ignored. It's my number one pet peeve. There is just no need for it. Like, it doesn't take long to send a reply of any kind. Even if the reply is not one you'd want to hear, it's at least better than nothing.

Same or when they just purposely avoid your question/message it's like okay if you don't like me, at least tell me straight out you don't want be messaging you like

Also tried finding a cash deposit ATM here since the map said there should be one where I went. Nope only withdraw ones like okay maybe update that webpage or tell exactly where it is...

 

[Mick]

Shopping for clothes and it's always the same frustration. Why does men's clothing (mostly) only come in various shades of dark? I am so tired of looking at dark blue, dark green, black, and gray lol. Send help

 

[Alienfish]

Shopping for clothes and it's always the same frustration. Why does men's clothing (mostly) only come in various shades of dark? I am so tired of looking at dark blue, dark green, black, and gray lol. Send help

The Hippie Shake do have some male/unisex clothes if you like retro shirts and stuff. Also I suggest going to vintage or even second hand stores, sometimes they've cool stuff.

 

[Foreverfox]

Shopping for clothes and it's always the same frustration. Why does men's clothing (mostly) only come in various shades of dark? I am so tired of looking at dark blue, dark green, black, and gray lol. Send help

I feel the same way, only about toddler boy clothes lol. It's like, once they move out of 24 month size, the clothes stop being cute. It's all loud and obnoxious clothing.

 

[Alienfish]

I feel the same way, only about toddler boy clothes lol. It's like, once they move out of 24 month size, the clothes stop being cute. It's all loud and obnoxious clothing.

I'd say it go for female clothes too, it's all mostly basic colours stuff or just ugly/cheap pattern so most stuff I do buy online or vintage/second hand stores.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

Shopping for clothes and it's always the same frustration. Why does men's clothing (mostly) only come in various shades of dark? I am so tired of looking at dark blue, dark green, black, and gray lol. Send help

my problem with buying men's clothes exactly. I much prefer to wear men's clothes but I also like wearing lots of colors, though tbh lately I've been wearing lots of darks and neutral colors in fear of being incorrectly perceived as a woman lol
(I already look super effeminate in the face so any clothes that can help are a blessing for me)

 

[Mick]

The Hippie Shake do have some male/unisex clothes if you like retro shirts and stuff. Also I suggest going to vintage or even second hand stores, sometimes they've cool stuff.

Retro is not quite my style, but thanks for the suggestions! Will have to keep those in mind. I do find that hunting for things in second hand stores is always way more fun than looking at a sea of images online.

I usually end up buying plain shirts (which are easier to find in actual colours) or ones with game/pop culture reference prints, then pair with white/gray for zip up hoodies and jackets. It works, but it feels like it's just the same every time, haha.

 

[Alienfish]

Retro is not quite my style, but thanks for the suggestions! Will have to keep those in mind. I do find that hunting for things in second hand stores is always way more fun than looking at a sea of images online.

I usually end up buying plain shirts (which are easier to find in actual colours) or ones with game/pop culture reference prints, then pair with white/gray for zip up hoodies and jackets. It works, but it feels like it's just the same every time, haha.

No probs, it's definitely not for everyone so I get it. And yeah if I want something non-specific or just stuff that I cba going for online, for sure!

Yeah, since I have to pair mine with cardigans or stuff at work I just get those(cardigans) in plain colours as well and styling them with whatever I feel like wearing for the day (I work in a cold storage/archive place most days so).

 

[Beanz]

i feel so awkward

 

[Midoriya]

The girl that laughed at me last week made a speech about how ableism has affected her friends and partners. She laughed at an autistic person for stimming on camera, but she still acted like she cared about my people’s treatment by society.

I’m used to being treated like a creep for my autistic traits. It’s something I and many other people deal with on a daily basis. In fact I’m more comfortable telling people I’m nonbinary or pansexual than being autistic. The stigma around my disability is that bad. What I’m not used to are hypocrites who claim to care about disability rights, but then treat an autistic person like garbage. It’s not okay and I wish I had the ability to stand up for myself.

It frustrates me to no end that people still do this. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. I used to be too afraid to speak up about my disability, but thanks to becoming more social and taking speech classes as I grew older, I’m not anymore. My mom was someone who touched the hearts of whomever she talked to before she died, and that kind of lives on in me and helps as well.

Nowadays one of the first things I say to new friends, employers, or anyone who wants to associate with me is that I’m autistic. And if they don’t want to associate with me anymore because of it, that’s on them, not me. I don’t like confronting people about some things, but I am not afraid to confront anyone about my disability, because it’s part of who I am. I believe that one day you too can do the same.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I'm so cold

 

[_Rainy_]

I woke up today not feeling too great, I couldn’t force myself to go back to that house. I’m trying not to ruminate, but the more I think about it the more it doesn’t seem right at all. I shouldn’t go into detail, but going there is too hard on my mental health. I need to get out of there even if it means picking up more hours with one of my other clients even if it means I’ll only have one day off.

 

[daringred_]

saw the arceus leaks, and half of the new pokemon forms are so ugly, i'm sobbing. they look like those AI generated pokemon i saw the other week.

 

[Mr_Keroppi]

FLOP