What gender are you?

[Leela]

i don't want to sound ignorant but i really don't get the genderfluid / demigirl/boy thing. Like... do people really think about their genders and *feel* like their genders that much? i'm a girl but i don't go 'ohhh i feel like a female', I just feel like me. I just don't really get what 'feeling' like a boy/girl is supposed to be like.

True. I don't sit and think "Mmm, I am a female" (awkward wording but nvm). I think more about my personality than gender... but maybe I don't think about my gender too much because people tend to assume I identify as female anyway. I'm not sure on that one.

 

[M O L K O]

Male.

I don't really understand all the 'identifying as x' stuff. I'm just a man and I'm male.


People can do what they want to though. It doesn't really effect me sooooo yea.






My 'gender war' senses are tingling.

This is it, this is the best post, close thread.

OT
gender stuff is so weird to me, like -puts on dress- I am girl? -puts on pants- now I am boy?
-puts on earrings- +2 fem powers -puts on baseball cap- +4 male powers????
Is it a switch in my brain like ... ok im feeling like a girl today..nah male, nah girl, nah male nah....

I'm very confused on this subject and I'm always trying to learn more but I just get left with so many questions but I respect they/them stuff but I'm not calling ppl animal pronouns or w/e the **** ppl have come up with.

 

[EmmaFrost]

I think the most important thing to realize is that whether or not you are aware of what all the different genders mean, respect the fact that not everyone identifies as simply male or simply female.

This.
And declaring that you "don't understand" something doesn't change the fact that it's real. It shows you'd rather be dismissive than informed.

 

[Tap Dancer]

And declaring that you "don't understand" something doesn't change the fact that it's real. It shows you'd rather be dismissive than informed.

Well, really, I don't understand, but that doesn't mean I'm not open to learning. I looked at a link that defined a lot of things, and I'm still very confused. I need the "For Dummies" version. If simplified info could be provided, I'd read it. You don't learn if you don't ask.

 

[Beardo]

So we finally get a thread that recognizes more than male and female, and people are complaining... why?

 

[Stalfos]

Morrissey said it best.

 

[-Byron]

i don't want to sound ignorant but i really don't get the genderfluid / demigirl/boy thing. Like... do people really think about their genders and *feel* like their genders that much? i'm a girl but i don't go 'ohhh i feel like a female', I just feel like me. I just don't really get what 'feeling' like a boy/girl is supposed to be like.

The world would be a much better place if we could profoundly understand each others subjective experiences, wouldn't it?

 

[Moddie]

I've read a few comments here stating confusion with a few of the terms and such.
I'll try and explain as simply as possible and I thought I'd share one of my favourite charts. It think it's clear and it helps a lot of people. The main thing to remember is that gender is a spectrum. Not just male and female.

[If image is difficult to see here's a link to a larger image.]

Bigender - Identifying as two genders, normally male and female. You could identify as both at the same time and/or you can go back and forth between them.

Androgynous - Between male and female, or entirely genderless

Genderfluid - Switches between genders.

Non-binary - Umbrella term for those who's gender is neither male or female.

(I identify as non-binary. If I have gotten the definition of any of these wrong - please correct me.)
Most of these definitions overlap, but I wanted to include a lot as many labels as possible as many people will identify with a particular term as oppose to a general, less specific one.

 

[Tap Dancer]

The only problem (?) with that chart is sexual orientation shows heterosexual, bisexual, and homosexual. The fourth one isn't listed: asexual.

 

[Brackets]

i wasn't saying that genderfluids don't exist or anything. But i was just saying what is feeling like a girl/boy supposed to even feel like?

 

[-Byron]

Is asexual a sexual orientation, or is it the lack of one? I would think that if you were asexual the scale simply wouldn't apply to you.

 

[Stalfos]

I've read a few comments here stating confusion with a few of the terms and such.
I'll try and explain as simply as possible and I thought I'd share one of my favourite charts. It think it's clear and it helps a lot of people. The main thing to remember is that gender is a spectrum. Not just male and female.

Thanks. This makes things a bit more understandable.
Reading this I'd probably say I'm non-binary but I voted "I don't like labels" which is also true.

 

[Moddie]

The only problem (?) with that chart is sexual orientation shows heterosexual, bisexual, and homosexual. The fourth one isn't listed: asexual.

Whoops, my bad, I didn't realise I added the older version of the chart. I should have noticed that being ace myself. ^^;
I've updated it now to show the second version which includes asexuality.

 

[Tap Dancer]

Is asexual a sexual orientation, or is it the lack of one? I would think that if you were asexual the scale simply wouldn't apply to you.

Asexual means you're not sexually attracted to anyone.

 

[honeymoo]

I'm a boy

 

[Moddie]

Is asexual a sexual orientation, or is it the lack of one? I would think that if you were asexual the scale simply wouldn't apply to you.

It's a lack of sexual attraction. The scale doesn't apply to us, no, but it's important to remember asexuals exist.

 

[Aryxia]

i wasn't saying that genderfluids don't exist or anything. But i was just saying what is feeling like a girl/boy supposed to even feel like?

I don't think that when you're cis it's a conscious thought, but I was talking to my friend, who has been diagnosed with gender dysphoria, and for them being addressed as a girl just feels wrong; at times it can physically manifest itself in their chest. In their case it has led to depression and anxiety, which they have overcome. I think this post was the one I found easiest to understand when I was learning about genderfluidity

 

[infinikitten]

If you don't know what it "means" to feel like your assigned gender, then congratulations: you are cis! haha

Honestly, it's kind of a luxury (not the word I'm looking for but I just woke up, gimme a break here) to be 100% content with the gender other people assign you at birth. Feeling like it doesn't fit you, and trying to explain that to the people around you, is an incredible struggle. Being confused makes sense, because if you always feel like "you" and have no qualms with said assigned gender, it can totally throw you for a loop to hear other people say that they don't "feel" like [insert gender identity here] - so I'm happy y'all are asking questions instead of being rude arseholes and I just wanted to say that.

I'm really not in the right headspace to tackle any of these questions myself - it took me like twenty minutes to write that paragraph (I'm so tired, send help, ughhh) but yeah. Personally extending a big ol' fashioned "thank you!" to those of you who are trying to keep this civil.

 

[SockHead]

Where is booger? I put down male because thats the closest i saw

 

[Tap Dancer]

Personally extending a big ol' fashioned "thank you!" to those of you who are trying to keep this civil.

People are being much nicer in this thread. I appreciate it too.