some drama with my friends

[Ichigo.]

seriously, why settle when it comes to friends? these girls sound immature and mean spirited, so it's best if you just cut ties. i'm honestly surprised people go through this stuff. i had drama in middle school too, but nothing nearly as terrible as what people seem to experience. but my friends were pretty awesome, so, yeah. find a group of better friends easier said than done, but it's for the best. being around that kind of environment will drive you nuts.

 

[cIementine]

thanks for the helpful and comforting response everyone!

it was really funny and cringeworthy today. I walked into the bathroom and GIRL1 and (ex)best friend were in there. as soon as she saw me she started hugging GIRL1 and telling her she doesn't know what she'd do without her. i would be offended, but i was too busy thinking of how desperate she must be to grab everyone near her away from me to prove a point and slag me off to anyone at any opportunity. she must care to some extent to be so stuck up about it, and i've never seen her like this with anyone.
she was desperately asking to take selfies with the rest of the group once they'd joined us which she has never done to anyone before. she doesn't like selfies, she's doing it to be spiteful and mean-spirited. not everyone joined in because they said it was weird and gross to take selfies in the bathroom.

at lunch, GIRL1 had a club so my 'best friend' was pretty lost without her. everyone was fine and chatty to me and she was literally scoffing and rolling her eyes. she told me many times that she hates when the other girls finish their lunch really quickly and just leave and disappear, so when they asked if i'd finished i said yeah and that i'd come with. they're kind of the clingy girls that hold people's hands and hug and put their arms around their friends 24/7 which proved to get on 'best friend's nerves. today, i participated in it. they're the nicest and cause the least drama so that's where i'm headed.

best friend has just shown me that she isn't my best friend. the only 'sacrfices' she makes for people are the ones where she ditches people and jumps onto the next great obsession or when she gains something from it. she deserves everything she gets, and her and GIRL1 are horrible people and are a match made in heaven. good luck to the two of them. i don't think GIRL1 knows what she's in for.

 

[Ghost Soda]

I found exactly this with the girls at my school.

Honestly, they could be so bi***y about the stupidest of things, and then be completely fine a minute later. Although I wasn't really part of their 'group', I was accepted into their little squad sometimes. Honestly though, I couldn't care less about them. A lot of teenage girls nowadays seem to care about things I really couldn't give a **** about. And the back-stabbing that goes on between adolescent girl groups is unnecessary and completely immature. I dumped them all for the guys xD I used to play football/soccer with them all lol

Wow, you're not like other girls, amirite?

 

[cIementine]

today was pretty tragic. the day started off normally and ok but at break 'best friend' and GIRL1 and another girl who had texted me last night asking if I was ok and told me I should sort it out with them (which I thought was suspicious anyway) confronted me. this girl told us to talk it out and I just said 'are you sure about that?' and then they both started rampaging at me. it was pretty horrible and I was really upset but I said my fair share in return. everyone took her side so in pe I got changed with another girl called Amy who has always been really nice. When it came to lunch, she just left, and the girl who texted me last night (let's call her GIRL2) came up to me and asked if I was still sitting next to them at lunch because after all, I am 'still part of the group' (she says it like it's some sort of cult), to which I declined and declared I made plans to eat lunch elsewhere today.
In reality, I had no one to eat lunch with so just sat crying in a toilet cubicle for the whole of lunch. Coincidentally, the group came in, and best friend and GIRL 1 were thinking of where to find me so they could just argue with me and I'd be outnumbered. That's all I heard, and I was pretty upset they were desperate enough to go out of their way to give me a hard time.
After English, Lily (who is in my friendship group) came to me saying she was looking for me at lunch because she didn't want me to be excluded from the group. I just said thanks for her concern and went to my next lesson. Similarly, another girl in my friendship group who I am quite close to came up to me after school and told me about 'best friend' and GIRL1's plan to rid me from the group and how they were going to come to me at lunch but they couldn't find me which she says isn't fair because I'm her friend and they can't just get rid of someone like that. She also told me that they're now mad at her for saying it isn't fair. I told her thanks for standing up for me and that I already knew they were looking for me and it was to start an argument.

Today could have gone a lot better, and I'm not sure what to do next.

 

[boujee]

All you need to worry about is if one of them girls touch you. That's it. You shouldn't care what they have to say and if they keep talking tell them what are they going to do about it? Is it going to change your life? No. It's school, you would hardly know any of them afterwards. Just be more concerned about physical touching. Y'all can square up. lol let that be your final statement. If they don't want to listen, tell them it is what it is and if there's any more problems we can square up. Anyone can catch these hands. If they want to be petty you can be petty too.

 

[cIementine]

All you need to worry about is if one of them girls touch you. That's it. You shouldn't care what they have to say and if they keep talking tell them what are they going to do about it? Is it going to change your life? No. It's school, you would hardly know any of them afterwards. Just be more concerned about physical touching. Y'all can square up. lol let that be your final statement. If they don't want to listen, tell them it is what it is and if there's any more problems we can square up. Anyone can catch these hands. If they want to be petty you can be petty too.

thanks, that's good advice. i'm working on finding a new group of friends since I can't trust any of them. I've already let myself out of the group so it's ridiculous they're discussing 'getting rid of me'. Thanks, they won't matter in a few years, you're right. I go to school to study, not get involved in some petty drama.

 

[iamnothyper]

as you go through life you'll realize that some people just aren't worth your time. this seems like one of those situations.

 

[cIementine]

as you go through life you'll realize that some people just aren't worth your time. this seems like one of those situations.

i'd be more than happy to go along my way but they keep dragging me back into it. thanks, they're definitely not worth it.

 

[Celestefey]

Gosh, young teenage girls can be so petty at times. I've been there and done that myself. I'm glad to say I wasn't the person who started the drama, and from your story, it seems like you're in the same position that I was in, or a somewhat similar one. Really, all I can say is that things will get better. It seems tough and unbearable right now but, these people are not good for you and it's not possible for you to maintain a healthy friendship with them. They're being too childish and immature for their own good, it's not worth your time. Even if you go back to them, they're still going to give you grief in one way or another, so do not bother with them anymore. If it were a small falling out, I'd say there's a chance you could apologise and sort things out, but it clearly isn't.

Please, just go out and make new friends. You said about that Amy girl who was nice, why don't you talk to her more if possible, or just anyone you sit next to in classes who you quite like. Just ask them politely if you can hang out at lunch, and don't let it terrify you. The chances are they will say yes, and what's the worst that can happen? They could say no, and that's that, and I doubt they'd even say no. I don't want you to do what I did and settle for friends who make you feel like crap all of the time. It's horrible. School is hard as it is, and we already go through a significant amount of stress as it is, so you don't need to add to it with petty friendship problems that your so-called friends are causing.

When you leave school, you will realise quickly how insignificant those people are to you. You will probably not keep in contact with them and you will be glad that you didn't, because whilst the majority of some people grow up, some people just remain nasty. You'll find it much easier to make friends. Sure there are still some petty arguments that happen, but it's really not over something so ridiculous. I mean I'm in sixth form, and I can say I'm glad that I am no longer in year 10 or 11 again. People are so immature, you don't realise how much you grow up. You seem like a really mature and grown up person who doesn't tolerate rubbish from friends and doesn't cause drama, so I am sure you will be able to befriend other people like you, and I'm sure you'll be able to get through this and make the right decisions.

Good luck, and if you need any more help, feel free to PM me.

 

[TheGreatBrain]

It's really a shame that teens behave this way. Unfortunately, adults do the same. I'm having problems at work with quite a few women. They talk bad about other workers behind their backs. ( mostly me). And theres very little truth to what they are saying.They also like to shun me, and shunned this other girl for about a week. Three of these girls are over 55 years old. Their behavior is discusting. I just do my work and only talk to them when it's work related. One thing this has taught me, is to never gossip, and to not believe the gossip that they say about others. I hope this experience will help me to be a better person.

 

[cIementine]

Gosh, young teenage girls can be so petty at times. I've been there and done that myself. I'm glad to say I wasn't the person who started the drama, and from your story, it seems like you're in the same position that I was in, or a somewhat similar one. Really, all I can say is that things will get better. It seems tough and unbearable right now but, these people are not good for you and it's not possible for you to maintain a healthy friendship with them. They're being too childish and immature for their own good, it's not worth your time. Even if you go back to them, they're still going to give you grief in one way or another, so do not bother with them anymore. If it were a small falling out, I'd say there's a chance you could apologise and sort things out, but it clearly isn't.

Please, just go out and make new friends. You said about that Amy girl who was nice, why don't you talk to her more if possible, or just anyone you sit next to in classes who you quite like. Just ask them politely if you can hang out at lunch, and don't let it terrify you. The chances are they will say yes, and what's the worst that can happen? They could say no, and that's that, and I doubt they'd even say no. I don't want you to do what I did and settle for friends who make you feel like crap all of the time. It's horrible. School is hard as it is, and we already go through a significant amount of stress as it is, so you don't need to add to it with petty friendship problems that your so-called friends are causing.

When you leave school, you will realise quickly how insignificant those people are to you. You will probably not keep in contact with them and you will be glad that you didn't, because whilst the majority of some people grow up, some people just remain nasty. You'll find it much easier to make friends. Sure there are still some petty arguments that happen, but it's really not over something so ridiculous. I mean I'm in sixth form, and I can say I'm glad that I am no longer in year 10 or 11 again. People are so immature, you don't realise how much you grow up. You seem like a really mature and grown up person who doesn't tolerate rubbish from friends and doesn't cause drama, so I am sure you will be able to befriend other people like you, and I'm sure you'll be able to get through this and make the right decisions.

Good luck, and if you need any more help, feel free to PM me.

thank you so much, this means a lot! I am pretty scared about asking people if I can sit by them at lunch, but i'm sure they'll be fine about it. it's really annoying that they're going out of their way to make me miserable just because I called one of them out about how they treat people behind their backs. i'm just going to hold my head up high and not give them the satisfaction.

 

[cIementine]

I got a text from the same girl last night just saying hi, but then she started asking 'who were you actually with at lunch?'. I said I'd rather not get into it now, have a nice weekend. And she said 'I will, but I'm going out with GIRL1 and 'BESTFRIEND''. To which I then said, 'cool! have fun'. She said 'Trust me, I will'.

This was a really horrible end to the conversation. I've not said a thing wrong to this girl. If this continues in such a spiteful manner, would it count as bullying?
She's just relishing in the fact she's been invited out somewhere for once, since they've always left her out. It won't last, lol.