rude comments about your island

[brockbrock]

I'm sorry that person was so rude to you!

My best advice to you is that it's okay to feel hurt, upset, sad, whatever emotions you are feeling. While you need to feel your emotions and process them, don't let this random stranger hold you hostage emotionally because you are worth so much more than that! Sometimes people blow us away with their commentaries and behaviors, and there's nothing we can do about them as we don't control anyone but ourselves. You've put the work in, you've poured your heart and soul into your island, you are happy with it and enjoying your game which is one of your biggest passions - all of that matters and is wonderful. That random bozo's childish words? They don't matter.

Hugs to you! <3 <3 <3

 

[kotinni]

aww virtual hug!

my therapist said that it's important to practice "cutting" the link when confronted with something negative that hurt you rather than benefit you. when you encounter something like this, we all will immediately have an emotional response, catch yourself doing that, breath, and practice rationally treating it instead of emotionally, and not let it trigger you to be feeling negatively. it's definitely so much easier said than done, however it is really worth it in the long run as it has helped me deal with a lot of negativities that are not constructive / dont help me grow.

thanks for posting / sharing tho! loved reading everyone's responses and now feeling all warm and fuzzy :3

 

[chibski]

I'm so sorry that happened to you I could never imagine making fun of someone's island! Everyone has their own tastes and if you're happy with your island, that's all that matters! Personally, if it looks like someone puts effort into the way their island looks, then I'm happy for them, even if it's not my thing. That's especially rude of them, considering they were guests and you were taking time out of your day to host them. I would have kicked them out then and there. You (and Celeste!) don't deserve to be around that kind of toxicity.

 

[Splinter]

What did they say?

 

[Chris]

In the politest possible way: screw what other people think. As long as you like it then that is all that should matter.

You will never be able to please everyone. There is always going to be someone who disagrees with you, or dislikes you, or something that you do. Different people have different tastes and that is never more true than when it comes to aesthetic choice. e.g. unpopular opinion, but I think cutesy/pastel/kawaii towns are dull. That doesn't mean that they are objectively bad - it's just the complete opposite of my style and therefore doesn't appeal to me. Likewise, the person who criticised your island likely did so because it doesn't meet the criteria for what they would personally find aesthetically pleasing. But that doesn't matter because it's not their island; it's yours. Their negative comment says nothing about your island and instead speaks volumes about their personality.

 

[ThomasNLD]

I`m negative about my own Island as well, but it would still really suck if someone else made a negative comment about it. In the end, with all negative feedback, it often says a lot more about the person spouting it then the person it is aimed at. I hope you will come to a point you can feel that for yourself, because its such a shame to let a nice experience like this game be ruined by some random person.

 

[JKDOS]

Could have been trolling. Some people get enjoyment out of teasing others, so they probably don't necessarily mean what they said.

 

[Figment]

They sound like a troll. They had to put energy into typing a nasty comment. Why take that energy into saying anything if they weren't purposely trying to make you feel bad? That's on them, not you.

I'm sure your island is lovely. Don't take their negativity to heart.

 

[Mairen]

Sending you lots of love and hugs. I'm another person who's really bad at handling unkindness, I'm a complete softy and any kind of meanness or bullying thrown my way can really knock me off my feet.

If you are ever feeling unsure about your island, I'd love to visit it and would be willing to share any ideas on areas you aren't sure of. Dont let that one meanie get you down though. As you can see, this community is full of really awesome people. Just reading all of these comments people left in this thread warmed my own heart up.