[rant] have you already encountered someone you won't trade with again?

[Ralsei]

Yes, 2 of them, I actually got scammed on the very first week lol, this person posted a thread looking for merengue, judy or marshal and they were offering Raymond, I knew something was off because they kept accepting every offer they got but I decided to take my chances anyway, they agreed to trade Raymond for merengue, (yes, I know it sounds like an obvious scam but in my defense I originally offered all 3 villagers they were looking for) and then after taking her they deleted their reddit account, they were also so weird like they really wanted to send me his poster for some reason, I wonder if they were trying to send me a mean letter or something lmao.

My second bad experience was with this guy who made a billion threads (again, on reddit) looking for the same villager, I offered him to them and told them I needed a bit of time to TT him out, they accepted but then someone else offered the villager and the OP accepted after telling them how other people "backed out", apparently this person didnt just accept my offer, he had like 5 of us wasting **hours** of our time to get the villager in boxes, just to take someone elses offer anyway, at least have the courtesy to let us know youre not interested, what a jerk.

 

[senbeiiscool]

I voted "Yes" for someone I would never trade again, but I like giving people the benefit of the doubt that there are more good people than bad. 99% people I've traded with are great, fantastic, amazing. But it's that 1% that really punctures a hole in your heart that makes you genuinely upset. It sucks, it really does, but remember that there's some really great people in this community and it's ok to look past it!

I enjoy trading in this community so much more than using Reddit or the discord because those streams seem so cutthroat and honestly makes me stressed. That being said, there's great people on all platforms so I wouldn't worry too much OP. Although the one person you traded with was rude and did stuff against general etiquette, I'm sure there are many more that are good. If it helps, stick to trading where you can leave reviews (such as here) and it'll generally weed out any poor behaviour

 

[xSuperMario64x]

Haha when I told him that it's not okay to take things without asking and that he should give it back, he just said that he couldn't drop it lol. Defo not an honest mistake, I'm also very trusting haha so it was bound to happen at so oh well

Oh yeah, in that situation I would be angry too. That's when you just shut off the console to disconnext internet services before the game autosaves.

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My second bad experience was with this guy who made a billion threads (again, on reddit) looking for the same villager, I offered him to them and told them I needed a bit of time to TT him out, they accepted but then someone else offered the villager and the OP accepted after telling them how other people "backed out", apparently this person didnt just accept my offer, he had like 5 of us wasting **hours** of our time to get the villager in boxes, just to take someone elses offer anyway, at least have the courtesy to let us know youre not interested, what a jerk.

I had an experience similar to this where someone was like "Oh yeah I have [name] villager for you, I'll get her in boxes soon!" and then a whole day passed and I just waited and waited. Then they message me like a day and a half later and they're like "oh sorry about that I'm but irl, I'll get her in boxes" and then I literally never heard from them again. I eventually accepted an offer for the same villager from someone else who was much quicker in getting her to me.

I had to keep my game frozen on the same day for like 3 days straight waiting for that other person, because I had an open plot and didn't want it to be filled. It was ridiculous.

 

[Capeet]

Yep, there's one person. Made me get a villager into boxes for them saying they had an open plot but then half an hour later they invited someone else in and had me hold their villager for more than a day. They apparently kept trying to make other trades to get said villager even though i had already promised to get her into boxes + later when they knew the villager was already boxed up. They eventually got her from someone else while i was busy for a few hours lmao. They also lied about what they were doing and generally misled me. I'm still angry at the complete lack of respect.

 

[haramura]

Man, reading all these messages is a little upsetting. I'm sorry you guys had to deal with situations like those It's easy to say "oh it's just a game" but it can be really hurtful to see people be so purposefully awful for such marginal gain.

It also makes me realize how lucky I've been; I've only opened up my island once, but I let people from the Nookazon discord server & here come and enter. Eventually I was waiting on so many people to come I started telling people if they didn't want to wait for the other people to show up they could go to the villager's house themselves, right by all my rare flowers. Thankfully everyone was wonderful & respectful, and not a single flower was harmed, but it would've sucked to find out later on.

I never thought about how the feedback system here could 'force' people into giving positive review because of how harsh the negative views are. I liked the feedback system because I thought it would hold people accountable, but it's easier to see how it's imperfect now. While I've never had an issue with Nookazon so far, I only use the discord, so I literally don't even see people's ratings before I trade with them (yikes!). That server is also so big it's really hard to manage, even reading messages is a heraculean feat sometimes. Still, I hope you guys managed to report everyone who scammed you :/

I dunno, it's just frustrating. Like obviously there are some kids in the mix I think, but people being obviously malicious, it's like, what's the point? It's just a game so just be a decent human being you know. You're scamming real people for pixels.

 

[Uffe]

In New Leaf, yeah, someone came to my island. It was someone I thought I could trust, as this person was someone I got to sort of know. They went over to my perfect fruit trees, took the fruit off of them, gave me their fruit, and then left. I wasn't happy about that. Best thing to do from now on is just build a fence around your airport if you're inviting people.

 

[swifterly]

I honestly don't really understand why people get upset when visitors look around their island without asking... I never would have thought to consider it rude, except for I saw tons of people complaining about it here so I now know not to do it.

Of course, this probably has a lot to do with the fact that NH is the first game where I've actually interacted with the online community. I've played AC since I was 7, but in WW and NL I only kept to myself or played with irl friends. In WW and NL, I can DEF understand why people wouldn't want anyone running off, because visitors could do wayy more damage.

In NH, though, I'm genuinely curious... Visitors can't destroy flowers, can't chop trees, can't dig fossils, can't take any items unless they were left lying on the ground... The worst that could happen is plucking flowers, stealing fruit, or buying a limited time item at Nook's Cranny. I guess I'm just wondering, is the panic more of a holdover from the online culture in past games, where visitors could do much more damage? oh and i also have literally no idea why someone would care if a visitor talked to their villagers

of course since i've learned it's a huge faux pas, i wouldn't do it when visiting. and i do understand some of the worry, since the one time i opened my island for free during a meteor shower, someone stole 31 customization kits I forgot I left on the ground :/

 

[shirocha]

Somebody came over for a free DIY my villager was crafting, and asked to look in my shops as well. I said okay, and I was wondering what was taking so long until I heard the sound of them learning the DIYs I had left out T__T I had them in a fence, but I guess that you could still get in from the side.. It was Sad LOOOL

 

[Sloom]

I have! I do a lot of trading, and so far have had 3 people try to scam me.

one of them tried to steal 30 star fragments from me when they promised gold nuggets in return, one of them tried to take my nook tickets and end the session before I could adopt a villager and the third tried to steal marshal from me without paying. I usually go into trades expecting/preparing for the worst and being ready to exit out. none of the scammers made it out successfully, luckily. pretty crappy humans if you ask me, plus there was basically nothing I could do about it since they just deleted their accounts after

on the other hand tho, so many people in this community are so nice. I've had 3 people offer 10-50 nook mile tickets as an extra tip when villager trading just for being late. I once went to buy black roses from someone for 50k each and ended up coming back with 36 black roses, 2 golden watering cans and 2 gold roses for free. and finally, I offered 150 nook mile tickets for Judy and a wonderful soul told me they felt bad and asked for just 50.

suffice to say I've definitely had mixed experiences lol. but I would definitely say, don't let scammers put you off. just always be ready for them whenever you go into a trade and prepare to hit the home button and quit out. and if you're offering turnip/shop/free diy services definitely fence everything in or make sure there isn't anything good lying around so you can't have things stolen from you while you busy somewhere else lol

 

[aericell]

I honestly don't really understand why people get upset when visitors look around their island without asking... I never would have thought to consider it rude, except for I saw tons of people complaining about it here so I now know not to do it.

Of course, this probably has a lot to do with the fact that NH is the first game where I've actually interacted with the online community. I've played AC since I was 7, but in WW and NL I only kept to myself or played with irl friends. In WW and NL, I can DEF understand why people wouldn't want anyone running off, because visitors could do wayy more damage.

In NH, though, I'm genuinely curious... Visitors can't destroy flowers, can't chop trees, can't dig fossils, can't take any items unless they were left lying on the ground... The worst that could happen is plucking flowers, stealing fruit, or buying a limited time item at Nook's Cranny. I guess I'm just wondering, is the panic more of a holdover from the online culture in past games, where visitors could do much more damage? oh and i also have literally no idea why someone would care if a visitor talked to their villagers

of course since i've learned it's a huge faux pas, i wouldn't do it when visiting. and i do understand some of the worry, since the one time i opened my island for free during a meteor shower, someone stole 31 customization kits I forgot I left on the ground :/

How I see it (aside from people stealing stuff off of the ground/plucking flowers) the key thing is permission. You let someone into your island to do a certain thing like talk to a villager to get a recipe, visit shops, etc., and that's all you expect them to do unless you express that you're okay with them wandering around. I personally don't mind if people want to look around, but I usually state that in my posts/messages. If you decide to do other things on someone else's island without their permission, it can be disrespectful.

 

[voltairenism]

I didn't have any bad experiences in-game, just someone wandering around and asking me to give them everything they saw (it's okay though I just was very skeptical), but I wouldnt trade again with people that are very dry, talk in all caps or be like, very weird and robotic, idk. They make me feel like I'm lower than them, a broke noob that is begging for items.

 

[Leela]

Stories like this make me wish you could see visitors' icons on the mini map. I'm thankful it's less common to have bad experiences here. I haven't really had one yet; sometimes visitors are still learning online etiquette, but having been there it's good to be gentle if it's an innocent mistake.

 

[0orchid]

Fortunately only good experiences so far I only use this forum to do trades because I think the rating system helps vet scammers to an extent. Any time I've had a trade on my island they've asked to do anything outside the trad like shop. I do the same when I trade on other islands. I don't do a ton of trades so maybe I'm just lucky but I also think this community is 99% nice.

 

[sunchild]

i've had mainly great experiences trading and hosting with people from this forum. the only negative experience that comes to mind is when i was hosting my island for a villager crafting DIY.. i left out a bunch of free DIYS i was giving away for anyone that needed them.. and one person just goes and grabs every single one without even so much as reading what they were which just kinda made me go :/
but thankfully i've had mainly good experiences with visitors.. if they came for something and wanted to look around my island or go to nooks i've always had people ask beforehand.

 

[Darcy94x]

I once paid a girl 5NMT to get into her village to sell my turnips on a Saturday, she took the nooks tickets and ended the session

 

[nammie]

Fortunately no, I mainly trade on tbt and reddit and since there's rating systems it's easier to tell when someone will be trustworthy imo... I've def heard a lot of mixed reviews on using sites like nookazon though!

 

[LatenDale]

I feel quite lucky reading this thread. I've had over 80 people come to my island, I've let them run around and do what they like and so far no one's taken anything. No one's plucked flowers or shaken trees. I've had over 10 people recommend I fence off my money trees, but no one's shaken them anyway. I've never left anything out on the floor that wasn't part of the specific trade so no issues there. Multiple times I've had 4+ people on my island for Leif, Sahara or Celeste, no issues there aside from entering/leaving cutscenes. Admittedly, I've had no one from here or Reddit.

Pretty nice community overall.

 

[Loreley]

This happened to me a few times already, but I believe they didn't mean any harm. I usually say yes to exploring/shopping if people ask, so I figure when someone ran off on my island, they rightfully assumed I would agree anyways. So they probably just didn't bother asking, because typing is so tedious. That's rude, yes, but I didn't have anything stolen so far. Some flowers were plucked once (one of each species, which didn't bother me that much since they grow back).

Overall, this didn't bother me that much. I traded again with some of these people and just stated that I was in a hurry and don't have time for them to shop or explore this time.

 

[Pyoopi]

That's a weird person. I don't understand how people aren't nervous when entering someone else's island the first time.

Like when I appear for a diy and the host let's you run off to the villagers house, I'm always really cautious because I don't know their map layout. I don't want to run and I try to stay on paths (one time I had to cut through a flowery area because I lost the path, lol).

I only had one visitor that disappeared like yours during a villager crafting session. I thought she was in my shops, but she seriously was gone. I think she was in my cliffs, probably fishing and while I don't mind that, just ask first. I'm not telepathic.

Then I said I'm ending the session because I need to leave and she pressed the (-) button without saying a word. It was strange but not worrisome.

 

[purple_vixen]

I recently gave Zucker away (for free) to someone from here who said that he was their dreamie. I was scanning in Amiibos to get my own dreamies, so the same day as the trade, I was planning who my next campsite visitor would replace, and looking on the 'Looking for' thread to see if that helped me decide who to kick out. The same person was trying to sell Zucker there, then on the same board that Zucker had been adopted from. I can see the temptation to sell on a villager for bells and NMT, but it seems especially rude to do it on this site, where I am regularly posting, and will see. If they'd told me that they wanted Zucker to resell, I would have picked another home, where Zucker would be loved

This person had no feedback, because they were new, and I left positive feedback after the transaction - they were polite and communicated well, turned up when they said they would. I have contacted the mods to ask if I can amend the feedback, but haven't heard anything back, yet. This has made me a bit wary of homing villagers to people who aren't forum regulars, or at least people who I have spoken to before, which is a bit sad

Edited to add: Sorry - I should have added that I must have dealt with over 200 visitors/me visiting others since NH's release, and 99.9% of interacts have been really positive. It is just the odd person who takes things without asking or who steals whilst you're trading/cataloguing with someone else who spoils the experience for everyone. I know that I can trust most of you without having to fence off areas and follow you around, so I try to focus on the good that I see. I don't want to go the fence route, so now I only PM Dodo codes and try to keep track of who's visiting myself, rather than posting public Dodo codes or using turnipexchange. I do feel more secure using this site because we have a feedback mechanism.

I am so sorry for everyone in this thread who had been scammed. I should have said that, too..