[rant] have you already encountered someone you won't trade with again?

[juneun]

The ACNH Discord has its fair share of incredibly nice, understanding people, but also a lot of people who rub me the wrong way despite nothing bad actually happening in my trades? It might be the very attitudes of some on there who seem to treat ACNH as a business rather than a game? Maybe I'm just overthinking things.

I've had people I've traded with who seem surprised I'd give things away for free and others who demanded things from me and then back up and act like nothing happened.

Like any other community, there's all different types of people, but I think the fast paced nature of Discord is both a pro and a con. You can interact with so many people in one day, but then it becomes easier to bump into unsavory people.

 

[Meira]

Luckily I haven't encountered any bad situations. I'm usually quite cautious and sometimes check out people's profiles to see what they've been up to around the forum if I haven't seen them before

 

[Babylon]

I have been turned off the online stranger stalk exchange market for good. The host was really organized with messaging and fencing but they were so incredibly rude! Someone had connection issues and the host was on a witch hunt trying to figure out who kept crashing the session. He was accusing people one by one and demanding they fix their internet. Ugh it was awful especially because I’m so non-conflict.
This was a TBTer who posted their turnips and I just ignored them so I’d never accidentally deal with them again. It just seems wrong to abuse your guests verbally over something as small and unintentional as internet connection.

 

[Millysaurusrexjr]

I've never had a bad experience with trading in ACNH/ACNL; well except for this one time during New Leaf where I traded TBT to buy IGB, and the person never got back to me. I think they were super busy in real life or going through something, so I just left it.

Other than that, I've always had an average to great time trading, visiting, hosting. And I think it's all due to this forum. I trade nowhere else.

At least the only damage people can do is shaking fruit trees and plucking flowers, which can be grown back. Scams I believe are possible to avoid by being quick with the sleep mode button. I can't really speak to trading villagers in NH though, haven't done that.

 

[lieryl]

i don’t think i’ve had a bad experience yet but it sucks that happened to you. i host on here and discord mainly for celeste and i can say i do trust visitors from tbt more so than those on discord. last night i was accepting visitors for celeste here while i was afk doing assignments. i let people run free and try to find her (because the most damage that could’ve been done was maybe to my flowers but they grow back) totally unmonitored and everything went extremely well. it was free to enter but some people left tips that i was surprised to find still there when i finally had time to close the session and turn in for the morning. after reading through the message log i saw that some people stayed behind to lead people to celeste which made me really happy and i wish i remembered their tbt user so i could thank them with NMT because they made the process so much easier.

there’s always gonna be pretty bad people, but i think the good usually outweighs it ^^

 

[morthael]

big yikes to some of the experiences on this thread and sorry that it happened when it really shouldn’t have!

i haven’t really had any bad experiences so far since i’ve only used this forum to trade and everyone i’ve encountered so far has been generous and kind, and i hope it stays that way (knocks on wood). but there was an encounter that i wasn’t comfortable with recently that kinda soured my mood when it comes to hosting. long story short, i was hosting people over without a fee to get a rare DIY and a user on here came and took it which was normal enough. maybe an hour later i was looking through nook’s cranny and they had gone around and auctioned it for an exorbitant amount of bells when i was giving it away for free. it was just so... icky? like i get it, it’s not like i put on my post not to sell it or anything and sure, it was their’s after they took it but to resell it for such a high price? it felt so dishonest and like i’d been taken advantage of - maybe i would’ve been fine if it was a low amount of bells but man, i’m just so :-/ idk i still feel complicated about it even now, but lesson learned i guess. next time i’ll post a “do not take to resell” or sumn.

 

[Luxsama]

i don’t think i’ve had a bad experience yet but it sucks that happened to you. i host on here and discord mainly for celeste and i can say i do trust visitors from tbt more so than those on discord. last night i was accepting visitors for celeste here while i was afk doing assignments. i let people run free and try to find her (because the most damage that could’ve been done was maybe to my flowers but they grow back) totally unmonitored and everything went extremely well. it was free to enter but some people left tips that i was surprised to find still there when i finally had time to close the session and turn in for the morning. after reading through the message log i saw that some people stayed behind to lead people to celeste which made me really happy and i wish i remembered their tbt user so i could thank them with NMT because they made the process so much easier.

there’s always gonna be pretty bad people, but i think the good usually outweighs it ^^

Thats so sweet!! Same here tho, I only like discord for quick and fast trades but for hosting events I keep it exclusive to this forum. Idk but I just trust the people here more and the community feels more wholesome here

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big yikes to some of the experiences on this thread and sorry that it happened when it really shouldn’t have!

i haven’t really had any bad experiences so far since i’ve only used this forum to trade and everyone i’ve encountered so far has been generous and kind, and i hope it stays that way (knocks on wood). but there was an encounter that i wasn’t comfortable with recently that kinda soured my mood when it comes to hosting. long story short, i was hosting people over without a fee to get a rare DIY and a user on here came and took it which was normal enough. maybe an hour later i was looking through nook’s cranny and they had gone around and auctioned it for an exorbitant amount of bells when i was giving it away for free. it was just so... icky? like i get it, it’s not like i put on my post not to sell it or anything and sure, it was their’s after they took it but to resell it for such a high price? it felt so dishonest and like i’d been taken advantage of - maybe i would’ve been fine if it was a low amount of bells but man, i’m just so :-/ idk i still feel complicated about it even now, but lesson learned i guess. next time i’ll post a “do not take to resell” or sumn.

This is what I fear the most too when doing giveaways. Some people are just greedy I guess

 

[Chachamaru]

I have only had 1 experience out of so many kind people who have traded with me and been EXCEEDINGLY generous and kind that made me kinda go "huh okay, wtf". I think I bought them like 3 or 4 nook miles items, one being the teacup ride (5,000 nook miles mind you) I expected two (re-orderable) items in return, and they only showed up with one.

I should've realized because the way they responded to me confirming the trade (for both items) was super curt/short like "I can get you the ___ for them". They just seemed to have a little bit of an attitude problem to begin with, kind of entitled and a little bit snappy. I just let it go and now I remind myself to not trade with them again. It wasn't even worth a negative feedback,

Everyone else has been awesome though. Very thankful to all the wonderful members who have helped me out here.

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You guys know you can hit the minus button or whatever to end the session and send them home right? I do it at the end of every trade to make it super quick.

 

[UglyMonsterFace]

To be honest, I don't think it seemed as though they were being malicious or rude on purpose. They probably thought your island was beautiful and thought it was okay to just explore. Doesn't sound like they stole anything either, just looked around. While this is kinda of annoying and nerve-racking to have this happen with a stranger, I think it all comes down to them not knowing proper etiquette that has been in place with those of us who have played previous instalments before. It sucks that they stopped responding but maybe they felt ashamed or embarrassed that they offended you? I'm sorry you had to go through this but don't let it discourage you

 

[morthael]

You guys know you can hit the minus button or whatever to end the session and send them home right? I do it at the end of every trade to make it super quick.

there’s supposedly been problems with save data corrupting by doing that or sometimes it can cause communication errors too so people have been recommending to leave via airport just in case! but more power to you if it’s been working well!

 

[Chachamaru]

there’s supposedly been problems with save data corrupting by doing that or sometimes it can cause communication errors too so people have been recommending to leave via airport just in case! but more power to you if it’s been working well!

EEEEEh WHATAAAA... Okay, yeah, wow, I had no idea, but thank you.. I wont be doing it anymore in that case. Geez.. Thats scary.

 

[morthael]

EEEEEh WHATAAAA... Okay, yeah, wow, I had no idea, but thank you.. I wont be doing it anymore in that case. Geez.. Thats scary.

yeah, it rocked my world when i found out - but there’s been a couple threads about it on tbt as well i think, if you want to read up on it.

 

[PinkyPoo]

I had a bad experience on Nookazon. I was selling a DIY for the extra long log sofa and I got an offer of 10k bells for it. I realized I listed it wrong and told the person hey it’s the DIY, sorry if there was any confusion, I’m new to the site. They said that’s ok, they hope they can craft it. So I told them what the recipe is, two log arm chairs. They didn’t have the chair DIY, so they didn’t want to do the deal anymore. Ok that’s fine, I don’t want to sell you something you can’t make, that’s just not how I play the game. Then they told me to be clear next time and they gave me a bad review with no comment! My first review too! We didn’t even do the deal and I was trying to be helpful. Ugh!

 

[LindseyKate04]

I probably enjoyed reading this thread more than I should. It feels like gossiping about rude customers at my old retail job, which is the only fun part of retail.

Everyone I've dealt with in NH has been completely lovely, and I only had one I didn't like in New Leaf. It was more weird than scammy as it wasn't a trade, but it really bothered me. I was on a public Tortimer island for some reason that I can't remember and I had caught a bunch of sharks and beetles that I was (obviously) going to bring back and sell. This lady showed up and kept insisting that I go on a tour with her. I didn't want to in the first place, but I also genuinely had to get off the game to go somewhere irl. I explained that, but she refused to let me go and was blocking my way out so that I had to play with her. There might have been another way out that I wasn't aware of, but I ended up having to flip the wifi off on my 3DS so that I could leave. I was so bugged that I lost all of those sharks

 

[kasane]

i haven't had a bad experience with anyone yet, but to those who did, i'm sorry that those people don't have human decency over a video game

the only people that have a bad impression on me are the ones in discord who charge a 10nmt entry fee to visit a special npc or buy something from timmy and tommy. 1 or 2nmt i understand but 10???

 

[Dustbird]

I... really don't get the problem with someone checking out your island "without your permission". Even less so when they aren't even allowed to talk to an NPC? What's the worst thing that could happen? No offense, but some of y'all really have some weird issues.

(Obviously not talking about scammers or the such here, those really are scum!)

 

[chibski]

I've never personally come across anyone I wouldn't trade with again, but that's only because I try to avoid letting people come to my island in general. Even so, there was a girl who asked if she could stick around my island to look around because it was "so pretty", and I was too anxious to say no even though I wanted to terraform. She didn't do anything wrong and was very nice, but it still rubbed me the wrong way. If I'm trading or giving a villager away, I just want to do that and be done with it.

Just a small rant, I've come to hate the ANCH discord server and have stopped using it entirely. There are a handful of good people, but too many people there seem too sketchy and there are too many scammers. People charge dozens of NMTs for mediocre villagers, turnip prices, DIYs, etc. and it's gotten out of hand. The ACNH economy is pretty screwed and I blame the stupid server. I even had a friend snapchat me "only 2m" with a picture of RODNEY in boxes because she's a new player and apparently her opinions on pricing are shaped by that server.

 

[udinafrog]

I guess that's because I'm new in the game, and I like seeing others people's islands, that I didn't think having a look around could be considered rude. Luckily I think I've always asked before doing so, so I hope no one has been offended by it. It's just been the usual when someone came to my island too, that they said hi, looked around, talked to the villagers, did some shopping and it wasn't an issue. In fact I was pretty surprised the two times when someone came to make a trade, just did it and then just went away. Guess I am pretty relaxed in this game and not much in the trading-negotiating-selling side... But is good to learn this, I'll be extra careful now.

 

[AshdewCrossing]

I... really don't get the problem with someone checking out your island "without your permission". Even less so when they aren't even allowed to talk to an NPC? What's the worst thing that could happen? No offense, but some of y'all really have some weird issues.

(Obviously not talking about scammers or the such here, those really are scum!)

I'm in the same boat as OP where I'd be iffed if I invited someone to my island for a trade and they started wandering my island. While yes, it's just a video game and will have literally 0 repercussions on my actual life, it feels a bit like taking an Ubereats order at your door and your driver suddenly starts hanging around in your yard or walks into your house like "Hey! Nice house!"
I have huge areas of my island dedicated to breeding hybrids, so if the visitor trampled over my flowers I'd be pissed that I'd have to wait an extra day for them to propagate. Additionally, I leave DIY recipes or random items out (drop item) because I might want to pick them up with my alternate character, or want to move them to a new location but haven't decided where yet, and someone will ill intent might pick them up without my permission.
So basically yes, it really doesn't matter if someone picks up my items or tramples my flowers. I'd still be pissed though.

edit: to clarify, I don't have a problem with people who ask to look around. This is in regards to situations where someone wanders around without permission.

 

[pocky]

My bad experience was sort of my fault and could have been avoided if I had been more patient. But the other two people involved were also horrible to trade with.

I had a villager crafting a popular recipe so I advertised it on a Discord group Im in. This sort of thing requires a lot of patience as I only let one person in at a time to avoid confusion, but it generally goes smoothly because most people understand and are patient.

Because of the popularity of the recipe I got a lot of people interested and I started off by giving my Dodo code to the first person who reached out to me, Person A, as they had already told me that they were ready.

10 minutes later Person A was still not in my island. So Person B started to get impatient. Because Person B had made me a really good offer, I didn’t want to lose them as a customer so I went and messaged Person A to see if they were still available/willing to go through with the trade. After another 10 minutes of radio silence I decided to give the Dodo Code to Person B.

Person B shows up and immediately after Person A shows up as well. I apologized to the both of them but figured I’d be able to handle having two people in my island at once.

Person B went into Marshal’s house and got the recipe. And then Person A went in to do the same.

At this point Person B attempted to leave, but couldn’t because Person A was in the middle of talking to the villager. They tried a second time right away but Person A was still in the middle of getting the recipe. Instead of waiting for them to get out of dialogue, Person B simply did the thing where he minimized the game and closed it without saving.

I got the message that Person B had left quietly and immediately after got a message from them on Discord saying that the gold ores they had promised me were still in his inventory and that the DIY was no longer in his possession. Then asked if he could come back.

However, leaving without saving it made it so Marshal had stopped crafting.

Person A who was still in my island informed me that the NMT she had brought over were back in her inventory and that she hadn’t been able to get the recipe. Since I had an extra of the recipe I traded with her for the NMT and she thanked me and asked if we could be friends. I said yes.

Since those two were the first I let into my island for that recipe I lost every other customer that was waiting. But the nightmare doesn’t end there.

Remember when I said that Person A had asked to be friends? Well, for the next 4 hours or so she proceeded to send me a bunch of vulgar, nonsense jokes about her genitals and Tom Nook. I ignored all of it but she wouldn’t stop. Had to eventually block her.