[rant] have you already encountered someone you won't trade with again?

[Lazaros]

i don't think this fits into the ACNH rant thread, and i'm unsure if one already has been started elsewhere, but i'm curious:
has anyone on here run into a trading partner (whether onsite or offsite) that they definitely won't trade with again?​

'cause, i had an experience like that yesterday - two, to be exact.
i'm not going to touch on the first one, but the second one still makes my blood boil:
i made a listing offsite for a sought-after DIY item i was selling. generally, i let my buyers choose their own price because overcharging them just feels wrong and i personally don't really know what to sell them for. anyways, my buyer came to my island and i don't really wall up my airport area because i can't find a nice way to incooperate it with my island, because my res. services is so close and i also trust people. maybe that was a mistake. they didn't take anything because i literally had nothing on the floor, but they asked me if they could visit my leif - to which i responded with yes, because they generally were really nice. while they were busy buying shrubs and stuff, i went off to my cranny to go get a shovel because i was doing some gardening around the plaza area and that thing had just broke - aaaand i thought i could trust them. mistakes were made. they basically took off before i could get back, were nowhere to be found and hadn't asked. they also didn't respond to any of my messages i sent them ingame/via discord. at this point, i was pretty much pissed and close to losing it - until i saw them re-surface around my cranny and them just taking off to my airport. when they had left, they finally replied to my discord messages, saying that they looked around my island, looked at my shops and "went into my house for inspiration" ... which are all things i never allowed them to do and generally speaking, i know it's my fault for being too trusting to begin with, but honestly, what gives? sometimes i really think human decency is lost on some people. if they had asked, i wouldn't have said no, but they just didn't, and frankly, it pisses me off.
after i told them, on discord, that i did not appreciate this kind of behavior and also stated why, they chose to ignore this instead and complimented my island which ... yeah, no.

has anyone had similar experiences?

 

[thatveryawkwardmayor]

i think the best is to ignore them and leave a negative review. theres a ignore button somewhere when you click on someones profile so you won’t have to encounter them again

 

[kjetta]

I mean, sure it wasn't good practice of them to wander around your island without permission, but it's also not good practice to leave someone you don't know unsupervised (even if was to just grab a shovel at the Cranny).

Like @thatveryawkwardmayor says, if you don't want to trade with them elect to ignore them in future, but maybe learn from the mistake. It doesn't take physical barriers to ensure you know where a visitor is at any point.

A side note, I elect to confirm with any visitors through Discord that we will use Discord to communicate whilst they're on my island. It might be however that this person was engrossed in the game and therefore missing your messages on Discord.

 

[raqball]

Yes.. I invited people to come sell turnips (I had a very high price) for free. No fee and no donations wanted. I even put a notice to not shake and take the fruit off my trees or pick my flowers. One guy shows up, sells his Turnips then proceeds to shake all the fruit off my trees and take them..

I left negative feedback and put him on ignore so I don;t ever make the mistake of inviting him to my Island again...

 

[Katie97]

It would be nice if everybody just had the courtesy to ask but I wouldn't get worked up about it, it's just a game so don't let it affect you negatively

 

[Briar]

I'm sorry you had to deal with a bad visitor. Thankfully, my trades have all been pretty straightforward so far, so I haven't encountered anyone like that yet. The people just came, we traded, and then they left. There was one time where Celeste was near my airport and someone asked if they could talk to her, which I allowed, but they left right after talking to her. There have been times when I was visiting another island and another visitor did questionable stuff though, so I'm definitely cautious when I have visitors.

 

[haramura]

It sucks this happened to you, but I think it's fair to make the assumption that so many people - especially on Discord - are playing AC for the first time due to the life situation we're all in right now. So I don't think people really know or understand the social norms of visiting an island to trade. While I would never personally do those things when visiting an island, I can also see why someone (especially someone who is younger) might not know any better, or think it's impolite.

Still, it's no fun when it happens. Hope your trades are better from here on out!

 

[moonolotl]

gosh thats terrible! im generally a very paranoid person and so as soon as someone i dont know bolts off without asking im closing the game lol

 

[Miss Misty]

I'm sorry you had that happen to you. Playing online with people you don't know seems very precarious. I'd leave negative feedback and ignore the person from here on out. They might be young or new to the franchise, but if they're old enough to be playing online then they're old enough to apologize when the host of an island they visited is annoyed at them for something they did. Just my 2 cents on the matter.

 

[Munyo]

Yes. But nothing bad ever happened during my trades, but some people make me wait very long times for some reason. Like I understand life circumstances > Animal Crossing, but please just tell me what's up and such instead of having me wait for very long periods of time and not knowing what's happening. Also... When someone's trading recipes... I hope they understand that I have orders to go through and cannot wait for them to learn the recipes on my island. I just don't ever say anything to people and always leave positive reviews because I don't want to be rude.

 

[Lazaros]

i think the best is to ignore them and leave a negative review. theres a ignore button somewhere when you click on someones profile so you won’t have to encounter them again

unfortunately it was an offsite trade, so nobody from TBT was involved, but yeah. i made sure to block them and definitely won't allow them back on my island. </3

I mean, sure it wasn't good practice of them to wander around your island without permission, but it's also not good practice to leave someone you don't know unsupervised (even if was to just grab a shovel at the Cranny).

Like @thatveryawkwardmayor says, if you don't want to trade with them elect to ignore them in future, but maybe learn from the mistake. It doesn't take physical barriers to ensure you know where a visitor is at any point.

A side note, I elect to confirm with any visitors through Discord that we will use Discord to communicate whilst they're on my island. It might be however that this person was engrossed in the game and therefore missing your messages on Discord.

thanks for the input! yeah, it was my own mistake, one i definitely should learn from.
the fun thing about it is, while we never agreed on a communication method, they only asked me things over discord. when i asked them stuff ingame, they also weren't in the cranny or ables, so they would have seen it and didn't respond. though, as stated above, they just won't be allowed back on my island and have to look for someone else if they wish to trade.

It would be nice if everybody just had the courtesy to ask but I wouldn't get worked up about it, it's just a game so don't let it affect you negatively

i totally get what you mean! i just had a pretty crappy day overall yesterday, so that ruined my mood even more, and i'm still kind of sour about it. thank you for your kind advice, though!

also, thank you to everyone else for their insight and kind words as well! ​

 

[Sicariana]

I've really only experienced people either not getting back to me in a timely manner or at all. If you don't want to trade anymore, just lmk instead of leaving me hanging.

 

[tybalt_cake]

luckily not , but i almost got scammed in another site for trading , i was selling an item for some nmt and someone on discord wanted the item , however , their discord seemed suspicious for some reason , and when i saw the profile of the person in that site , it had reviews about how they are a scammer.

also for the sake of god , please do not let people alone in your island , always follow them until the trade ends , no matter how nice they may look.

 

[moonbox]

I'm sorry this happened to you, luckily doesn't sound like they did any serious damage!

Do you think maybe you were interacting with a kid? some of the ones I've seen on AC are just... somewhat clueless and unintentionally rude. They have enough savvy to make trades and such... Just be careful in general, we don't know for sure!

 

[Khaelis]

Not yet, though I have been ghosted a few times on here, but that doesn't bug me much. I expect I'll run into someone a bit "bleh" eventually, though.

 

[Biancasbotique]

if not happy with a session, I am more than glad to click on power button. problem solved he he

 

[Arithmophobia17]

there was a person on discord recently where i set up a trade where i was paying bells and they were giving me kk songs i needed. i got to a point where i was giving them a lot more bells than the songs were worth (like 250k for like 6 songs, i didn't want to bother asking to lower and they seemed pretty nice). all goes well until i got to register the songs and they gave me a song i specifically said that i had asked someone else to order for me and another song that i already had and hadn't asked for. i just ghosted them after that, like i get it if it was a mistake but if you can't go back and read some of the conversation again to figure out what i was looking for..? plus they messaged me again saying they had other songs (including one of the ones i had originally asked for!!), and i just felt like i couldn't trust them. like i would've probably ended the session but when i was checking which songs they had dropped i saw most of the ones i had asked for and figured the rest were fine...

 

[Lazaros]

I'm sorry this happened to you, luckily doesn't sound like they did any serious damage!

Do you think maybe you were interacting with a kid? some of the ones I've seen on AC are just... somewhat clueless and unintentionally rude. They have enough savvy to make trades and such... Just be careful in general, we don't know for sure!

yeah, i'm glad too! i had picked my stuff up before they came over because i was cleaning up anyway.

and no, not really! they had a photo of themselves as their pfp on discord and they looked a bit older than me (i'm 19), so my safest bet is that they probably just purposefully ignored me, or genuinely didn't notice i was trying to contact them.

 

[bobthecat]

I made the bad mistake of inviting 2 people at my island at the same time so when I thought both of them had left one had snuck off and was going around my island without permission (I don't mind if you wander but if you don't ask in the first place they're up to something sneaky ) I wasn't really paying attention till the next person came to trade and when they were leaving as soon as it was about to finish loading the other person obviously dc on purpose annoying both me and the girl who had to come back because it didn't save for her.

I normally leave a lot of full stacks of wood and other material around my crafting area including gold! but luckily out of chance I had put this in my storage the day before. The only things that were left out were 50 customisation kits and my spare diys. (which they took) the spare diy are for my friends only so this is very rude and I was upset.

I was very annoyed and felt it must have been a child or very young player that would do that because it's so petty and sneaky. It could have been a lot worse if I left my gold out.

I thought it would be ok because they seemed very polite at first and the trade went fine with no issues. But please be careful and don't let anyone wonder around your island especially if they're being sneaky and dont ask you!

 

[Aliya]

Yes I've had a few, but I can't recall if they are on here or not since I trade on a few different sites. It's just common sense/etiquette things like running off without asking after a trade, shaking trees, and leaving quietly/resetting everyone.

I am able to craft or order anything around my island. I am happy to help people out if they just ask!