marzipanmermaid
*insert Pikmin noises*
the "super" represents the supernatural fandom which is also bad imo :/
I had no idea... I guess that explains a lot, when I think about it. I thought it had to do with superheroes too, lol.
the "super" represents the supernatural fandom which is also bad imo :/
I'm totally about being different. I probably should've worded it differently and included the full post that I put on FB. It just gets irritated. You have a whole sea of girls claiming not to be like other girls and it's just like, "What's wrong with these *other* girls? Nothing. What's wrong with you? Nothing. You like different stuff, cool! You don't have bring other people down just because they don't like what you like. Like, what's the point? " There's just this irritating girl on FB who's just always like, "I'm not like other girls because I actually know about comic books. I'm not a fake nerd girl like all these other girls pretending like they do on here with their shirts. I bet they don't even know anything about the heroes." Did you ask them? How do you know? Lol, like I know a bunch, but I'm not making a point to publicly archive it to prove to people that I'm just as "into" stuff as them. I get that girls kind of have to show off their knowledge of stuff to be taken seriously in fandoms though so maybe that's it? I don't know how to explain. Like, awesome! You're into totally different stuff. Good! I totally don't fit half the "supposed" girl mold anyways so I know what it's like. But what makes you think they don't know just as much you and just don't flaunt it? I think it's awesome when girls are girly, when girls aren't girly. I'm a little of both. Whatevs. I think it's cool that everyone is into different stuff. But why do people have to use that as a bad thing...? You're not better? You're just into one thing, while they're into another. I don't know how to word it. It's just always kind of bothered me because I've never seen someone say "I'm not like the *other* girls" without tacking on some insult to girls that are just different in their own rights. Maybe that's just me. I don't know.
Really wish I could word this better. I don't want people thinking I'm like, being rude or saying everyone needs to be the same and fit the gender roles that society has given us, because that's bull in and of itself, but that's for another day.
I probably shouldn't have commented, lol. Oh well.
I know what you're getting at. A girl saying that 'she's not like the other girl's' reinforces gender stereotypes on both parties, implying that there's something wrong with being feminine (and that you're conforming to societal ideals if you do - but that gets complicated when you think about personal choice), and also that liking 'boy things' and 'girl things' are mutually exclusive e.g. your examples of comic books.
You don't have to define yourself by what you aren't and putting others down.
Yes! This! Thank you. I was like, "I know what I'm trying to say! I'mma ramble and hope someone understands what I mean..."
Yes, that's ok!I find it really hard to articulate my thoughts sometimes.
It used to annoy me as well, but I think there needs to be an understanding of why there are girls who feel the need to define themselves as 'not being like the other girls'; it's the media and society who define what a 'normal girl' is and many girls don't fit that stereotypical image. Hence some feel the need to prove themselves to others in such terms (like you said in male-dominated fandom space).
Attention. They don't get any from the girly girl group. If anything they're made fun of and marked as a "weirdo". So then these very same girls are left feeling different, alone and unwanted by everyone. Then they go into the "male-dominated space" and find out that they're not just wanted there, but that guys see them as goddesses that walk the earth. Put 2+2 together and there you go. People just want to feel special and wanted.
This is me during school and we're going to watch a movie. I'm always like "wtf why are people screaming, they're f*****g 16 years old it's just the dark and it's day time, grow up"
This is me during school and we're going to watch a movie. I'm always like "wtf why are people screaming, they're f*****g 16 years old it's just the dark and it's day time, grow up"
People who post on the internet to diagnose something they might have or ask for a advice on a website that doesn't specialize in that certain situation. For example, don't ask people if you have something like cancer of the kidney or social anxiety (for example) on yahoo answers or reddit, go to a doctor or something.
oh lord.
yikes, I did that. Big mistake.