Overprotective parents?

[Beardo]

My parents are pretty chill with most things. I have a lot of friends though, with horribly overprotective and unreasonable parents.

 

[Alienfish]

Yes they were, a lot worse when I was younger but they are better. Like they never taught me stuff and pretty much thought I knew nothing and I could never got to friends without them being like WHO IS IT TELL ME ABOUT HER/HIM.. And they lashed out for the smallest 'mistake' since they wanted me to be miss perfect with good grades.

 

[Foxxie]

Firstly... Willam *eep*

Also *is a parent* My parents were actually pretty trusting and laid back and I definitely try to pass that on to my two boys

 

[DarkOnyx]

My mom used to be so overprotective! Now she's not as bad.

 

[penguins]

my mom is so chill
probably bc she knows my brother and i are such losers that we wouldn't do anything bad anyway
plus i never go out like at all so

 

[Beardo]

Firstly... Willam *eep*

Also *is a parent* My parents were actually pretty trusting and laid back and I definitely try to pass that on to my two boys

Willam gives me lifeee


Also, that's good to hear. I tend to harshly judge overprotective parents (I know I shouldn't, since I'm not a parent and it's hard to raise a kid and make sure they're safe) I mean, I understand wanting to protect your kids but when you won't let them go over to their friends houses or go do anything with their friends at all, it seems a bit ridiculous.

 

[Foxxie]

Willam gives me lifeee


Also, that's good to hear. I tend to harshly judge overprotective parents (I know I shouldn't, since I'm not a parent and it's hard to raise a kid and make sure they're safe) I mean, I understand wanting to protect your kids but when you won't let them go over to their friends houses or go do anything with their friends at all, it seems a bit ridiculous.

It is a really difficult call though, honestly! Like, you will never actually understand how difficult being a parent is, until you have kids yourself... sometimes there is a massive urge to wrap your babies up in bubble wrap and lock them away, the worry that something bad will happen is very overwhelming sometimes and it is actually a bit of a fight *not* to be over protective... but being hurt and being able to pick yourself up again (both emotionally and physically) is a big part of life, so yes I agree that young people should have an amount of freedom, to prepare them for the big wide world.

I just realised I am waaaayyy more mature than I give myself credit for

 

[unintentional]

My parents are pretty chill with most things.
There was this girl, however, in eighth grade who was very sheltered (from everything) and I got into a fight with her over certain rights and she told one of her friends on me and got mad when they said "she needed to chill." I never met her parents, but they wouldn't let her see any movie with a rating higher than G.

 

[Alienfish]

It is a really difficult call though, honestly! Like, you will never actually understand how difficult being a parent is, until you have kids yourself... sometimes there is a massive urge to wrap your babies up in bubble wrap and lock them away, the worry that something bad will happen is very overwhelming sometimes and it is actually a bit of a fight *not* to be over protective... but being hurt and being able to pick yourself up again (both emotionally and physically) is a big part of life, so yes I agree that young people should have an amount of freedom, to prepare them for the big wide world.

I just realised I am waaaayyy more mature than I give myself credit for

Yes you can realize sometimes how annoying it is, that's why some people should have not gotten children at all. Or at least let someone else adopt them. Not saying you or anyone else here a parent is bad, but these "you can't know until you've done" is just too cheesy in some conversations...

 

[oath2order]

My father was protective.

My mother, though, when I went to high school, was basically "Look you're responsible just tell me where you're going and be back when you get back"

 

[Amichann]

my mom is so chill
probably bc she knows my brother and i are such losers that we wouldn't do anything bad anyway
plus i never go out like at all so

Same. My mom trusts me a lot since I don't do anything but stay home and watch anime lol. I guess that's a good thing though because when I do go out, she trusts where I am and that I'll get home when I say I will. She also trusts all of my friends since they've been my friends for a really long time.

 

[Alienfish]

My father was protective.

My mother, though, when I went to high school, was basically "Look you're responsible just tell me where you're going and be back when you get back"

My mother is still like that lol probably because I live at her place but she is too worried sometimes

 

[Togekiss]

My mom used to be overprotective, but she's pretty calm now. It's my dad who's the overprotective one, stuck in my side like a thorn.

 

[Locket]

No one cares unless I come back after 3-5 hours. I could be out for the 5 hours while my mom is sleeping though.

 

[Foxxie]

Yes you can realize sometimes how annoying it is, that's why some people should have not gotten children at all. Or at least let someone else adopt them. Not saying you or anyone else here a parent is bad, but these "you can't know until you've done" is just too cheesy in some conversations...

I would love to hear your opinion in another 10-15 years time, maybe when you have experienced a little more of what life really has to offer. The reason that people say that you can't understand it until you have experienced it, is because it is true. If you find that "cheesy" then maybe it is safe to assume that you have yet to experience and thus, truly understand it.

I don't mean that to sound disrespectful or rude, but I do find your comment a little naive if I am honest. We have all been through the "parent's are this, parent's are that" phase... all of us. I was just trying to give another perspective into why parents do sometimes over-react and over protect.

Also, I am curious to hear what your standards for being able to have children are (ie. you state that some people shouldn't have them). Can we really place limits on who can or can't have children? What would your criteria be? And how would you take into consideration the fact people's lives after children change considerably from what they were prior? ie. people who you may consider unfit to be parents, might really come into their own when given the opportunity to try, or people who you would think make amazing parents that might actually find it too much and treat the child poorly as a result. I can't say that such social conditioning sits well with me to be honest.

 

[Brackets]

my parents were quite protective. Like if i was going out they'd want to know exactly what i was doing. they trusted me though, so they weren't on my case all the time.

 

[loreiid]

My parents monitor my internet history and keep tabs on everything I do. I have mostly anxiety about always pleasing them and saying/doing the right thing, I know they just monitor me because "they care" but it can be a little much.

 

[Alienfish]

my parents were quite protective. Like if i was going out they'd want to know exactly what i was doing. they trusted me though, so they weren't on my case all the time.

Mine are/were more interested in who lol..

 

[Mega_Cabbage]

Yeah my parents are kind of overprotective. I've never even been to a sleepover and I'm already 17. I can't even go to the park/playground by myself even though it's less than a five minute walk away.

 

[Brackets]

My parents monitor my internet history and keep tabs on everything I do. I have mostly anxiety about always pleasing them and saying/doing the right thing, I know they just monitor me because "they care" but it can be a little much.

That's awful. You should be able to have some privacy :/