Lost a villager ~ how to recover from making a stupid mistake

[Dunquixote]

Last night I was trying to figure out the campsite reset trick (which I ended up figuring out) and TTed a couple times in the process because I thought that I accidentally set the "camp" for the day when I went a couple of tries without a camper showing up. And, today, I loaded up my mayor only to find out that Rosie was moving tomorrow. I got her a month ago in a trade for 200 tbt from someone really nice who contacted me right away after I posted in the thread that I was looking for Rosie; it took him about four days or more to get her in boxes but he still was willing to make her packing and give her to me; so this really is killing me that one of the villagers that I bought from him ~ and that he put a lot of effort into getting into boxes ~ is now moving and I can't stop her from moving. Plus, I know it's going to be hard to get her again for a good deal, when I want her, or at all because someone just told me that I can't get another Rosie until I moved in/out 16 villagers. T_T So, now, I'm feel really unmotivated and a little depressed. I've been putting a lot of effort this week in trying to get this one villager out that I got from someone's void accidentally and to make room for a villager that I bidded on a couple of days ago and am still waiting to see if I get him; last night I was getting tired of waiting for my tenth villager, so I decided to do the camper reset trick to see if I find a villager I could move in once I got the unwanted one out. Now, it feels like it doesn't matter.

Anyone have any tips how to cope with this mistake and how to not let it get me down? I have depression and OCD, so telling me just to move on is easier said and done .

 

[ams]

First of all I just wanted to say that I also have depression and mild OCD so I understand completely how something that might not seem like a big deal to other people can feel like it's completely turning your world upside down. And I'm sorry about Rosie.

I've had this feeling with losing villagers a few times and the best thing for me has been to just replace the villager with another one that I like. I often tell myself things like "the villager I lost was with me for, say, 2 months, so that means that in 2 months I'll feel equally attached to this new villager". I know that's not 100% how it works but I feel like that's something that my brain can understand. So far this has actually worked. First I lost Sprinkle and almost wanted to restart the game, but then I replaced her with Bianca who I now like much more than I ever liked Sprinkle. Same thing happened just a few days ago with Lionel (one of my absolute favourites), but I now have Kyle and am starting to warm up to him. So if you can try to think of it as a positive opportunity to meet a new villager and get to know them that might help.

 

[Dunquixote]

Thank you ^^. I really appreciated the response and what you said . That is a very good idea to try to think about it as a positive opportunity. I'm a pessimist at heart but, I know I need to try to be more optimistic in general, so, I guess here's one situation that can give me some more practice at being more optimistic . Thanks, Ams.

 

[Imaginetheday]

I'm sorry. That really stinks. You mentioned you were trying to get a new villager. Can you concentrate on them for now? Or, since you now know the campsite reset trick, you could put your effort into that? Maybe you can think of Rosie as a "someday she'll be back" villager.

 

[Dinosaurz]

Yeah I actually reset when I lost Cheif and managed to get him in my new town, what are the odds?

 

[Dunquixote]

I'm sorry. That really stinks. You mentioned you were trying to get a new villager. Can you concentrate on them for now? Or, since you now know the campsite reset trick, you could put your effort into that? Maybe you can think of Rosie as a "someday she'll be back" villager.

Yep. Right now I think I'm the highest bidder on Roscoe in a thread and I just posted in a giveaway for Pudge, but the decision on who he goes to won't happen until August 1. Tomorrow, I'll be down to 8 villagers unless someone buys the current villager that's in boxes in the thread and then Roscoe gets packing ~ but of course, I'd still have to win the auction first.

I was actually trying to get a temporary villager with the camp reset trick ~ an uchi since I just wanted to finish the PWP list before I looked into getting anyone that I really want; I originally was looking for Drift to be my tenth villager but then I thought I'd get him after I got all of the Uchi PWPs. This was before Bree, moved in from someone's void (who I traded with) and before I decided to let Harry leave so I could get Roscoe. Then, I decided I wanted to get Roscoe and maybe Pudge too; I was thinking about letting Erik go eventually (before Rosie decided to pack her boxes).

Yeah, I'd like to think of Rosie as that, but it won't be the same Rosie that I got from the person who kindly traded me her for the tbt. :/

 

[misspiggy95]

Well if you are attached to the Rosie that was in your town, whoever you gave her to, ask to visit every so often as well maybe.
She will still remember you, and it would be nice to be able to talk to her again
I know I messed up too, and little miss molly ended up moving out in the process.
She was the only original villager I kept in my town, and she was just absolutely adorable.