Lonely person looking for a full BFF list!

[Sloom]

Just as the title says, I'm lonely and looking for BFF's.

I currently have 1 BFF and I think you need... 20? To get a full list? Idk lol.

Anyway, my FC is under my avatar ^^.

Btw, you don't have to be active, as long as you come on occasionally ^_^.

Unfortunately, there is a form you need to fill out. But it's quick ^^.

FORM:
Is FC under avatar?:
Will you come to my town or...:

See? There was a whopping 2 questions!

That totino person was driving me crazy.
Also why can't we all just relax by playing video games?
Life is (kinda...not really) simple!!!!
And omg, DID 4 PEOPLE POST AT THE SAME TIME WTH

i tend to get pissed off about issues i care about and tend to go off on people, so i should honestly try and calm down before posting haha. however i do agree with gyro on the grounds that when people who are actually affected by these issues speak out (even if its agressively) tend to be the ones getting banned and shut down by people. i also think that people should really research before making threads, and making sure they know what they are posting about before posting. eg the thread about trans children transitioning. by the looks of it the OP meant medically, but it wasn't specific so it caused confusion eventually leading to threads being locked.
i also think that the mods should be better at handling these situations? like i appreciate the work they do to this forum such as stepping in when neccessary and banning people, but more warnings should be handed out for people who are notorious for hateful behaviour (eg, if somebody said "i think gay people should all die", the post should be removed and the user should get a warning, at the very least). also i think if a thread is locked (unless its a troll thread) a post should be made explaining why its locked from a mods pov.

tdlr if "being nice" means not standing up for yourself, then no. but if it means having respect for people, then yes.
It is good to stand up for justice and good morals. Being nice basically means calm, respectful, and trying to sort out differences in a peaceful way.

The problem is, if the admins tried to do that, they may end up banning the people you seem to defend. Aka, those fusterated by the topics and negativity, albeit them also sometimes getting too out of hand (like everyone else can). It is hard for admins to read throug tons of pages, trying their best to figure out what's going on. You can't blame them for it, compared to other sites, they are doing a good as heck job here.

Hopefully people will be more considerate and thoughtful when creating threads in the future.

 

[Angelo Brouwer]

Just added you. Add me too!

 

[Relly]

FORM:
Is FC under avatar?: yes
Will you come to my town or...: yes

 

[Angelo Brouwer]

Yes and yes xD

 

[Sloom]

Like literally everyone who posted on this thread in the last hour or so has contributed salt.
Y'all need to learn to go without salt; what do you think poor people did thousands of years ago?

Also the salt on other social media sites is bothering me too :/

Today i went to the doctor (its been years) and I had to do all this bloodwork plus get 2 vaccines. I was there for hours and they took like 6 tubes of blood and i almost backed out but i did what i was suppose to do it and i literally never felt so horrible in my life. I wish I just passed out like a normal person but instead i got incredibly sick light headed nauseous heart beating and it felt like it lasted forever. the worst feeling ever. and ive felt so incredibly sad all day for no reason. im just so depressed and alone.

I'm gonna be vague as hell here to not namedrop and gossip but "slightly misinformed person" is inaccurate and as a sidenote: "transgender" itself is an adjective so the correct phrasing would be "transgender person" or "trans person"

I've gotten my example from being on this site longer than I'd have liked to.

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Also this

"I've gotten my example from being on this site longer than I'd have liked to."

I mean you could leave. Not that hard.

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I agree that people should be a bit nicer but it's hard when so many people suck and think that their better than everyone. If you confront them they act like they are the victim when they are the perpetrator, they don't get banned so their behaviour doesn't get any better.

They usually are the staff's little buddies so they never get banned (don't care if the staff denies it, we have biases but these people in particular never seem to be banned despite continuously acting like bullies) and what really irks me is that these bullies are usually young adults picking on children who aren't fully educated on many things so don't tell me/ask me to be nice to them because I won't.

I agree that people should be a bit nicer but it's hard when so many people suck and think that their better than everyone. If you confront them they act like they are the victim when they are the perpetrator, they don't get banned so their behaviour doesn't get any better.

They usually are the staff's little buddies so they never get banned (don't care if the staff denies it, we have biases but these people in particular never seem to be banned despite continuously acting like bullies)

and what really irks me is that these bullies are usually young adults picking on children who aren't fully educated on many things so don't tell me/ask me to be nice to them because I won't.
Firstly, I would like to say I've witnessed and been on websites where the admins basically team up with anyone who starts conflict and prey on poor innocent childern. I have never found that to be the case with this website and I don't think it is good to turn a forum against it's "goverment" so to speak.

I agree that these adults shouldn't pick on childern, it is wrong, and they need to stop acting more immature then the actual kids.

Still though, there is no excuse for your own behaviour. And you don't have to be nice per say in the way you can't call them out on BS, but you need to be peaceful and not hateful. Since then, without paying close attention, there isn't even a difference in how you both look.

Think of two people debating something hatefully, if you aren't paying attention, even if one person is right (in your opinion), it still just sounds like arguing.

im pretty sure the mods wouldnt ban people without considerable proof that this is repeated behaviour ? like i feel for most people once they get a warning or an infraction they'll stop
eg, if u post smth thats against the rules, and u get a warning for it, u know for next time not to do it, right?
Yes, that is what they do, as far as I know.

I got a couple warnings myself, acknowledge my mistakes and do my best to never, ever repeat them.

 

[Angelo Brouwer]

You open!

 

[Sloom]

uhhh probably, some people on here have a tendency to resort to passive aggressiveness and personal attacks the moment someone even slightly disagrees with their beliefs.... if someone says something insensitive/ignorant maybe try to educate them (nicely) instead of being rude - the chances of someone changing their opinions after being mocked and insulted is pretty slim this is a discussion forum, not a let's-try-to-see-who-can-act-the-most-petty forum.
oh and if you're going to post in threads about politics and religion and all that other controversial stuff people just love to get angry about, at least try to do some research on the subject first? and don't go in expecting everyone to agree with your opinion...

I agree. The things that people say to one another in YouTube comment sections are absolutely disgusting. How can you have so much hate for someone you don't even know?

For example, people tell each other to drink bleach. I watched a video on what happens if you do that. It's awful; you have to get your stomach pumped, and your insides get dissolved and you essentially have to get a new stomach. People just tell each other things with no idea of the consequences. That person you told to end their life might be suicidal.

The Pokemon Boards are the worst on GameFAQs. It makes 4chan look like heaven.

 

[Relly]

Can I add you Angelo?

 

[vessia61]

FORM:
Is FC under avatar?: my FC is 5413-0441-7146
Will you come to my town or...: my gates are open right now I will add you in a bit !

I need more BFFs also! ^^

 

[Sloom]

"But, I mean do you ever see anything -- and then you wonder why CNN is doing relatively poorly in the ratings"

Quote from Donald Trump.

We can all learn from this, no matter how many times your nice comments become silenced by the media. Always remain positive and determined.

I hope you all have a wonderful day

aggressive lgbt people. That's it.

When I first came to this site, I only went through the animal crossing sections of the site. I thought everyone here was nice and cuddly, and nobody was mean. I did lots of trades and stuff and this place made me happy. From the good experiences I have had here before, I wanted to return, so I did.

This time, as I was more of an official member, I decided to look through the other parts of the forum. I looked through here. What's your favourite food, What do you look like, etc. etc....looked nice.

Then there were political threads. One about abortion. I didn't really like abortion, so I just said that, and got attacked. Big fight the whole day, I got put down a lot. But I still stayed here. It wasn't that bad, there were others who also didn't like abortion.

Then comes the lgbt part. A thread named "are you straight?". I said yes, someone else says "straights are scary", I ask why, and then a big list of things like "they kill us and we are scared and we don't have equal rights." Ok I understand. I say "I know, but there isn't much to do since there are people in the world who hate lgbt, but I guess you'd need to do your best to be with supportive people and stay safe, maybe America will support you more, kinda supporting already, blah blah" and then flame war.

People are like "you don't know what it's like", "we are getting killed y'know", "you better not put that opinion here", etc....

Now, a user here (you probably know but I won't say names) is quite aggressive with their opinions and thoughts, and are quite mean when someone says a small thing. I found them quite annoying and rude, especially when someone isn't even being rude and they give hate to them. I was looking through threads, and I saw people ACTUALLY telling them that they are aggressive and rude, their statements aren't valid, etc.

Seeing that flame war made me...kinda happy. (tell me I'm disgusting I know)

Now, BEFORE you start arguing with me, read this:

You don't see me saying "eww lgbt is disgusting and horrible the worst thing ever", do you? Guess what? My family is exactly like that. EXACTLY. They definitely hate lgbt, against it at all means. Obviously inside, as a part of the family, I don't like it either. I admit. I am admitting the truth. On this humble forum, I'm just trying to show respect to the users that are lgbt because I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. I know more that half of the people here aren't straight. Are you grateful of how I wasn't showing complete disrespect towards you?

But, sadly....all I got in the end, was hate. Hate hate hate. More and more and...more.

Being nice to lgbt+already disliking it inside+lgbt supporters hating me=lgbt is quite bad.

Basically, you guys kinda showed me that the community is full of people who are aggressive and only want their way 100%. It sucks, really.

(I reworded a lot of things I said in this, for the sake of my sanity. Sorry to the nice lgbt people.)

 

[Vanillaton]

Is FC under avatar?: Yes
Will you come to my town or...: Either is fine with me

 

[tempacc]

ill add!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Angelo Brouwer]

ofc you can

 

[Sloom]

Carpet, I distrust.
So quick to dirty.
Filthy you are, as a sock can attest.
How can I groove on carpeted flooring?
My jam sessions sabotaged by you and only you.
Sock or shoe, I cannot move how I do on wood or tile.

That as soon as you list your preferences you're like every name in the book.
"Does it matter if it's a boy or a girl!?" Depends on my sexuality.
"Ew body parts you transphobic piece of ***!"

Gender and sex are two different things, I have no idea where sexuality became equivalent to gender.

I got summoned for jury duty again!


omg and I just stabbed in the thumb myself really deep with a piece of glass and its freaking me out and hurts!

Honestly this attitude is incredibly harmful. Marginalized people (not limited to lgbt people) never owe you "gratitude" because they received the bare minimum of human decency, because this implies that they somehow didn't deserve it to begin with.

I have no opinion on whether you should leave or stay but to keep making your total lack of respect towards the lgbt community about your own wounded feelings is legitimately selfish and tiresome. You admit you actually do have a prejudice due to your family's views so at the very least I think you should stop actively engaging in conversations centered around lgbt-issues until you've educated yourself more, because it's clear you're not ready to discuss these topics maturely with actual members of the community.

 

[Vanillaton]

I'm visiting another town for petitions but I'll add you all as soon as I've finished

 

[Sloom]

rip Cherub's edit... I agree, though. Some get pissed off when people don't agree with being trans/gay/etc and they're happy to jump down people's throats at the sudden mention of LGBTQ, yet they're happy to say they "hate straights" or something hjsksks maybe kinda offtopic and not what you were sayng, but I agree anyway, lmAO. The majority of my online friends aren't straight/cis, but some LGBTQ people are pretty ****ing agressive. It's a shame some ****ty people manage to affect the reputation of the whole community ;;

Honestly this attitude is incredibly harmful. Marginalized people (not limited to lgbt people) never owe you "gratitude" because they received the bare minimum of human decency, because this implies that they somehow didn't deserve it to begin with.

I have no opinion on whether you should leave or stay but to keep making your total lack of respect towards the lgbt community about your own wounded feelings is legitimately selfish and tiresome. You admit you actually do have a prejudice due to your family's views so at the very least I think you should stop actively engaging in conversations centered around lgbt-issues until you've educated yourself more, because it's clear you're not ready to discuss these topics maturely with actual members of the community.

I could dissect this all day but if your allyship is based on whether people are nice to you it's not allyship and was never allyship in the first place. Guilt tripping people into liking you because "there are worse people" is not going to gain you respect from anyone let alone LGBT people, and is not allyship. Calling us aggressive after we call out harmful behaviour is not allyship.

You want LGBT people to be nice to you? Then you have to hold up your end of the bargain as well. If someone tells you you're being hurtful, no matter how aggressive they are, acknowledge it and work to change your behaviour rather than playing the victim.

As a side note, you did not say this as you said:

 

[Angelo Brouwer]

I'm visiting another town for petitions but I'll add you all as soon as I've finished

Add me too!

 

[vessia61]

ya sorry lots of ppl in my town right now and others want to come by XD i will add in a second lol.

 

[Sloom]

"I know, but there isn't much to do since there are people in the world who hate lgbt, but I guess you'd need to do your best to be with supportive people and stay safe, maybe America will support you more, kinda supporting already, blah blah"
This was your actual quote:

Quote Originally Posted by ~Unicorn~ View Post
well I'm straight and not like that to lgbts, but really lgbts have to learn to deal with those kind of straights because there will always be people that are against lgbt and billions of religious people in the world. Not much you can do about it but just be with people that support you. Not everyone will just accept and respect you, people are different and there's harmful people but you need to avoid, America is probably the most lgbt-accepting country I guess that's the most acceptance you can get there.

But really, I don't find much people to be homophobic or something that bad unless they are highly religious or think lgbts are the worst thing in the universe, lots of people don't really care about them (like me) or accept it. So don't be so fearful of getting killed or something but don't expect everyone to like you as well.
And this:

Quote Originally Posted by ~Unicorn~ View Post
lol I knew I would come back here and see people complaining about what I said. But seriously not everyone is gonna accept you, that's the way it is

The bolded is what people had a problem with, and frankly if you take a look in the thread no one is really being aggressive towards you. Were they emotional? Sure, because you, a person who has never experienced homophobia first-hand, waved off homophobia as if it's easily ignorable and basically said we have to put on our big boy pants and just live with it, said what could be interpreted as "I don't care about LGBT people", told us how we should feel, and then victimized yourself. People told you how this was a toxic mindset, and you took it personally.

I'm not going to tell you to leave the site, and I'm not going to call you horrible because that's exactly what you want so that you can prove your point about these Evil LGBTs™ but I am going to tell you to take a step back, reflect on yourself and what LGBT people are saying to you, and perhaps why we're saying these things.

 

[vessia61]

ok my gates are open and ppl are added