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OH MY GOOOOOOOD. I am so freaking mad because there is this guy in the hotel who keeps requesting wake ups and other people keep messing up but since it's me whose here he keep getting mad and yelling at me and I just can't. I sent an e-mail to everyone cause it really pissed me off, and the customer is pissed off and it's so stupid! Like if people just did what they were supposed to, literally just write me a note or tell me when they get relieved by me, but no, they didn't do anything and now I'm the one getting the blame...

You want LGBT people to be nice to you? Then you have to hold up your end of the bargain as well. If someone tells you you're being hurtful, no matter how aggressive they are, acknowledge it and work to change your behaviour rather than playing the victim.
I agree with everything but this part of your post. Even if their feelings of being hurt are valid, being a part of lgbt or any other group does not give a person the right to behave however aggressively they want. I’m not saying to coddle ignorant people, but to understand that respect has to go both ways, especially if you’re hoping for the other person to see your point of view and change their behavior

like i said i don't really care, i just thought it was best to keep it to myself. you can remove it if you want
Done. But don't be afraid on sharing your perspective on things. Sugar coating words, even to the extreme will never satisfy some people. Just try to be passive on those situations and never be the aggressor. (It will make them look bad if they argue with you)

What in the world is going on here?

I try to make a positive thread to end conflict, not ignite it.

People are different. Everyone is unique and different. Isn't that what makes life special? People are allowed to be who they are, there is nothing wrong with LGBT people. They deserve respect and equality just like anyone else. They are normal people, there is nothing wrong or bad about them.

I hope that everyone here can please, please TRY to be more understanding?
 
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Better luck next time!"

Is that supposed to make me feel any better, to show a small sign of sympathy? Because all it feels like is you taunting me, telling me I didn't do a good enough job. And yeah, I'll keep trying, but your additional side-comments or what YOU call 'sympathy' ain't gonna help me.

Course it couldn't do that. I just wanted to try and remind people is all. I find it ironic this thread became a place of conflict. Idk anymore, I'm going back to the Museum and the Basement. Too bad Unicorn acted this way, I wish they tried to be less angry.
I mean, to solve the conflict I think people need to discuss things, whether there's tension in the air or not... As long as people aren't insulting each other and explaining their views calmly and in a considerate manner, I don't see any issues with commenting on this thread. Maybe I should try and tone it down a bit though lmfao, or Tom's gonna swoop in and start infracting or some **** smh

I agree with everything but this part of your post. Even if their feelings of being hurt are valid, being a part of lgbt or any other group does not give a person the right to behave however aggressively they want. I’m not saying to coddle ignorant people, but to understand that respect has to go both ways, especially if you’re hoping for the other person to see your point of view and change their behavior
My point is 1. If a LGBT person is being aggressive towards you that isn't a reason to be lgbtphobic 2. Their aggression doesn't mean you should wave off everything they're saying because they're a Mean Gay and then use that to victimize yourself over and over again.
 
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being nice isnt the same as tolerating whatever crap other people say lol but i feel like this is what this thread is actually about so uh no. if someone says some cruel stuff it's not rude to shut them down or call them out.
it's not like brewsters has been a nice place and now suddenly is ruined by big meanies

also since this seems to be something people have a problem w: lgbt people dont owe anyone eternal Lov abd Acceptance and i really really really don't care about some cis person's feelings about the transgender community because it's always based on stuff like "they got angry at me for misgendering them" or "i did something hurtful and someone reacted, that really is reverse oppression at its finest"
there are no excuses to being transphobic, even if you don't "agree" with anything trans related you have no excuse to tell people that because saying that stuff makes you a crap person. if you hate someone who happens to be trans then that's fine like whatever but if youre going all rainbow backpack, the down with cis bus is real and decide to hate on the entire transgender community then that's you being an awful person. there are no valid reasons to be transphobic (or anything else like that but since this pretty much is what's being discussed i thought i wouldnt be super vague lol) and people getting upset about you doing or saying hurtful things isnt bullying

My point is 1. If a LGBT person is being aggressive towards you that isn't a reason to be lgbtphobic 2. Their aggression doesn't mean you should wave off everything they're saying because they're a Mean Gay and then use that to victimize yourself over and over again.
Obviously you shouldn’t judge a group based on the bad behavior of some individual members. Unfortunately though, individuals have to be aware that their behavior will more often than not reflect poorly on the groups they belong to. By behaving aggressively they are making it harder and harder for people already biased against them to be sympathetic of their situation.

Yes, I wish people could see through the anger, understand where it is coming from and take away something worth learning. However, sympathizing is very difficult for most people when faced with aggressive opposition. Purely psychologically, you can’t expect someone to listen and change their behavior for you when you are yelling and antagonizing them

I think we mostly agree though, and don’t really need to go deeper into this. I’m in no way trying to say people’s anger is unjustified; just that it’s pragmatically not beneficial for improving the situation
 
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I'll add you, is this ok? I'm in desperate need of friends too and I'm extremely lonely and bored when I don't hang with someone on new leaf. Thanks!
 
I have to program a game demo in just under four weeks.
I'm totally screwed hah.

How are you getting on with that?
I submitted my piece on Friday and...well. Three weeks for feedback will end up driving me crazy to say the least =P

Godspeed Moko, I'm sure it'll be fine!
Thank you Yeah I think I did it right but they want two of the questions/guidelines on both parts and tbh I can't really shorten it down much more cause then it wouldn't be 450+ words lmao..

Obviously you shouldn’t judge a group based on the bad behavior of some individual members. Unfortunately though, individuals have to be aware that their behavior will more often than not reflect poorly on the groups they belong to. By behaving aggressively they are making it harder and harder for people already biased against them to be sympathetic of their situation.

Yes, I wish people could see through the anger, understand where it is coming from and take away something worth learning. However, sympathizing is very difficult for most people when faced with aggressive opposition. Purely psychologically, you can’t expect someone to listen and change their behavior for you when you are yelling and antagonizing them

I think we mostly agree though, and don’t really need to go deeper into this. I’m in no way trying to say people’s anger is unjustified; just that it’s pragmatically not beneficial for improving the situation
All I'm gonna say on this is we are not responsible for homophobes/transphobes and it's not our obligation to cradle them until they respect us.

If someone wants to be a child and hate all LGBT people because some gay dude with a Reaper avatar was mean to them on an Animal Crossing forum then that's their own fault and it's on them. If they don't want to do their own research because their feelings were hurt for 5 minutes opposed to our 10 years then that's on them.

I used to be all "We must coddle and bend over backwards for the straights!" but while we maybe get them peeved off for a few minutes their mindsets are killing us off and I'm tired.

In conCLUSION, I think we should stop segregating ourselves. Whatever gender you identify as, or whatever gender you're attracted to, it doesn't give you an excuse to act a certain way. If you want to be respected or w/e, do the same to everyone else ;;

I think we should stop with the "I've had an argument with [this type of person] so now I'm gonna hate the whole community"... and instead just look at the person individually, rather than alter your opinion of all the people sharing similar traits/indentities/etc. Jumping down each others throats with this manufactured outrage would be a bonus too. I enjoy debating but like
 
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I think people should grow up and stop being nits.

If you dont like LGBT people (Not LGBTS, that isn't possible) avoid LGBT related threads, you tend to be ignorant people so you should EDUCATE yourself before typing because you will be the "victim" of angry people who have to deal with people like you all the time. It's annoying and you will never understand. So shut up and learn about what you're talking before you talk about it.

If you don't like politics dont involve yourself in those threads, you are in control of your hands and you are the one who taps into those threads. Not your Grandma, I usually see these people who are like "Oh boy, another one of these threads I'm just going to sit here and whine about it because I can. Even though I could avoid the thread but no, that's too simple. I want my voice to be heard because I'm a hero"

If you dont want to be around rude people block users and report them, and avoid Brewsters because it helps. We will never get rid of those people, so we have to tolerate them. It's just the way it is online and in real life.

I also want to note those people who form little groups to make people miserable. Using your identity as an excuse to bully or harass people is really awful especially when you target people who are uneducated about what they are talking about, educate them and if you can't succeed then move on. They typically go after young teens (not intentionally, it wouldnt be okay if it was an adult but attacking children is far worse) who are uneducated about LGBT+ people (typically because of their Parents) and those people who go after these CHILDREN are ADULTS and usually the same people. I have a problem with these people because they are just plain nasty and represent their communities appallingly, shameful because they are hypocritical bullies. You think you're righteous heroes because you claim to "want equality and acceptance" when you are doing things which have the opposite effect. You may be around 20 something but you certainly have more growing up to do, sugar. Even if it is unrelated to LGBT+ issues you still attack people about their race, calling me a "whiny white boy from Tumblr" is really ugh. Like why mention that at all? Why can't I just be a "whiny boy from Tumblr"? (Which is both untrue and ironic because they whine all the time, lmao)

I'm gay/asexul btw and I have never used that as an excuse to attack someone, I have pm'd people to say, "hey, this was kinda rude and here's why...." Being civil is not hard at all and explaining things to uneducated people is both rewarding (if they learn and accept) and mature.

This is just my take on how people can avoid rude people and the people we should probably avoid. I'll continue being rude to these people or I will just ignore them.

End of rant, don't bother replying if it isn't nice. Lmao.

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I'm trying to make a point here and make people understand how they look to other people. You damage this forum really badly which is a shame.
 
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