Peak for you BMT. I think you should try give your mom like attitude and if she abuses you block yourself. Make her know that you're not weak and that she can't treat you like your just a sock laying on the floor covered in chocolate (Maltesers, Not Kit Kat, wouldn't make sense). Anyway, Don't move out since you'll probably regret it. Or another choice is speak to her from your heart, look her in the eyes and make sure she feels your pain.
Also, I think you should see a psychologist I guess, People online may not be able to give you good advice, But it could make you feel better and make people feel your pain.
Sorry and hope I helped, Just go eat food and drink juice and you'll feel better.
I've already tried telling her how I feel, each time it ends in these arguements.
To be honest it's the main reason I'm considering changing my name. That and she was a slut and slept about and got me by accident (Happy 16th birthday present from her that pearl of information).
I've already tried telling her how I feel, each time it ends in these arguements.
To be honest it's the main reason I'm considering changing my name. That and she was a slut and slept about and got me by accident (Happy 16th birthday present from her that pearl of information).
Ah, I see. You were an accident and see didn't want you. Does she treat your sister like crap aswell or does you sister look up to your mom because that could then lead her to become a slut aswell. Anyway, I would probably say you should stay with a relative or a close friend who wouldn't mind you staying at their place, Well until you find a place of your own and a job.
Well I'm only 15, So my advice would probably not be as much help
Ah, I see. You were an accident and see didn't want you. Does she treat your sister like crap aswell or does you sister look up to your mom because that could then lead her to become a slut aswell. Anyway, I would probably say you should stay with a relative or a close friend who wouldn't mind you staying at their place, Well until you find a place of your own and a job.
Well I'm only 15, So my advice would probably not be as much help
My sister goes out to parties and drinks. But no, she isn't a slut. My little sister doesn't like my mum much at times and yea, My sister is treated really well by my mum.
I know some of you 'hate' me. But chill it for a moment.
Today I had another arguement come fight with my mum. One of many I've had recently, it's kind of fraying my nerves and really ****ing with my head. Like she keeps making out she's had ''reasons'' to do the things she's done to me in life, or she has magical moments of Amnesia where she doesn't remember certain events and because I can I am wrong and 'mental'.
Like, Examples of such:
She threw me out at 10, made me stand outside the door for 3 hours while I pleaded to be let in and she simply gave a smug smile, telling me how she wanted me out of her life and how she'd ''Explain'' to my sister about the situation over some hot chocolate. She let me in breifly because our neighbours were coming home and she didn't want them to know. Afterward sge threw me back out and slammed the door in my face, I waited outside 10 minutes crying until I walked off to find my friend (at about 6:30pm) I arrived to his after an hours walk to find he had gone out so I walked to the Karate club I went to (which starts at 8:00, so it was dark), I arrived near the end of it (So about 9:00/9:30pm) and one of the mothers there took me back home."
Now, I confronted my mum on this and she made out it NEVER happened, giving me a confused look and a dirty look, quickly telling me I was lying and making it all up (which did briefly make me think I was wrong). She then asked my dad (who had been out to fit windows that day until late) who didn't know about it, he pretty much said the same thing but laughed (as he does).
It was only when I asked my sister she assured me it did happen and she remembered it clearly.
Example #2
I basically had a go at her for calling me a ****** and telling me how I would fail all my exams because I am an idiot only DAYS before I was to pick which levels I would do and weeks before the exams.
She made out she has NEVER done this, never ever called me something mean (which she has, including telling me how I should be locked up in a mental ward because I was just that) and how she only did in arguements in the heat of the moment.
Again, my sister laughed and even pointed out SEVERAL times she has done it to be a *****. Basically one of the main problems I had such low self esteem problems in school.
I REALLY dunno what to do. I can't move out (I lack money and people who'd take me in, I've been taking interviews for jobs but getting none due to my college hours). If I stay here I am worried I might go nuts and even physically hurt her (Which has been growing in me recently, and I am actually a VERY placid guy irl, I haven't been in a fight physically since I was a child).
I am considering going for my last option and moving back to Germany, although it'd ruin my relationship with her entirely.
This arguement started anyway over problems in college (I went from top of the class to being in the bottom due to illness). I know people will say ''Why haven't you REPORTED her? Like gone to social services or something?" well.. I don't want to for my sisters sake. She'd be put in care and I'd feel bad putting her through that. My mum tried to force me to tell her this but I didn't dare.
TL;DR? My mum's trying to make out that she has an excuse for YEARS of abuse on the basis I am 'a troubled child' and that it's perfectly normal to do the **** she has done. Then said I am lying when I tell her I am pissed off for what she's done and she's never done it.
Oh boy. You've really got a lot going on. You could try writing her an essay, as she will see you spent a lot of time on it and sometimes words are more affective when they're on paper. I guess I recommend sticking it out through college, maybe seeing if you can stay with a friend? Or can you figure out a dorm situation as your college? I'm only 14, so my advise probably isn't the best. I wish you luck, what your mom is doing is not right at all.
I'll say right now I haven't read the rest of the thread besides the first post, but I've got some major family issues as well, so let's sit down and talk about this.
You're in a bad situation, yes this is sort of normal nowadays, but throwing it back in her face will get you nowhere. It's not worth the trouble and you'll end up biting off more than you can chew. Until you're old enough to find your own place and move away then you can't really do anything. The woman IS your mother, and yeah you'll have some huge fights, but in the end she's your family, and it's worth more to have family than no one at all.
Now I've been abused, neglected, nearly sold for valuables, and do I sit here complaining about my mom? Sometimes. But she is my mother, and I still have a little respect left for her. Do what you have to do but don't kill ties to your family. Let it slide for now, and when you get the chance to move out, you'll see that she needs you more than she thought. Let that be your ace in the hole.
Actually no. I told them I don't pity those who commit suicide.
I said to the person I feel sorry for their loss because loosing a friend (no matter the circumstance) is hard.
People have different ways of expressing their emotions, parents especially. I think the best thing that you can do is recognize the wrongs and make sure you don't do the same. We can't change others, only ourselves.
I'm sure there are things in YOUR life that you've done, that you, yourself frown upon. That 'slut' kept you in her house and fed you. Regardless, on different opinions in one way or another she still cared for you. & atleast she owned up to her mistakes. I don't know about you but if I ever found out my child was calling me a slut to a bunch of people on the internet I'd be pretty mad. Sure, all we see is you calling her a slut here. Who knows what you've said or done to her in person?
I'm sure there are things in YOUR life that you've done, that you, yourself frown upon. That 'slut' kept you in her house and fed you. Regardless, on different opinions in one way or another she still cared for you. & atleast she owned up to her mistakes. I don't know about you but if I ever found out my child was calling me a slut to a bunch of people on the internet I'd be pretty mad. Sure, all we see is you calling her a slut here. Who knows what you've said or done to her in person?
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