I've found that NH and siblings don't mix

[loveclove]

TW: dark topics ahead
I try to give her the benefit of the doubt with her immature comments but she has said some EXTREMELY horrible things to me. I spent most of my 6th grade year heavily depressed and at one point was contemplating s***cide, and all she did was ridicule me and told me to kill myself twice when I had done nothing to her. It seems like a small thing, but hearing that when you're emotionally destroyed was one of the worst moments of my life. Later, she "jokingly" threatened to out me as bisexual (I think I threatened some very unimportant thing first, like "I'll tell that you're eating snacks at 2 in the morning", something fairly lighthearted that I wasn't going to follow through on.) I screamed at her because I knew that had the potential to tear our family apart (My political views and sexuality oppose that of which the majority of my family support) and she laughed and told me she was "joking." I still am unable to get over this as she never offered any real apology and, once when I confronted her about it, she denied it completely. I think her exposure to the internet has helped in her turning her out like this, and she has never had to face real consequences for her actions. I can only pray that this year (she will be attending middle school for the first time) will straighten her out

That's so sad, I'm sorry she went this far, immaturity can be really hard to deal with I really hope at some point your relationship gets better, hang in there.It might be better for your sanity to avoid talking with her as much as you can, keep it casual

 

[Shinjukuwu]

Aww bless you! I'm sorry that's happening, you're both really young so I'm sure at some point she will grow out of that. Well, i hope so anyway, and hope you enjoy your experience of New Horizons with no problems

My brother did play New Horizons at the start but has stopped playing it. He only visited my island once and I was getting Bunnie's DiY, when I realised he left but not via the airport, so Bunnie no longer was crafting! So that was really annoying. But he doesn't play anymore

 

[Uffe]

You never be upfront with how much money you have. People want to mooch.

 

[That Marshal Fangirl]

My little sisters are almost 8 (they're twins) and have the "gimme everything because it's only fair" mentality. Too often they've tried to run off with my phone, my 3DS, and my Switch Lite. They're very interested in video games, particularly Animal Crossing, but my mom refuses to get them any devices because she had some kind of parental breakthrough after having me and my younger brother. I've shared quite a lot since my sisters were born but my technology is sacred. I can only imagine the havoc they'd wreck on my New Horizons island if I gave them access. Siblings and video games are a dangerous combo.

 

[Sprinkles_penguin]

Reading everyone's experiences with their siblings (specially the overwhelming number of negative ones there are) really make me realize how different your life is when you have siblings vs. when you don't. I'm an only child and I'd have never though how troublesome some siblings could be. However, I spent a big part of the time in my childhood playing and being alone. My parents were always there, but for a lot of time there were no other kids to play or interact with.

 

[Cottonball]

Im 25 and my brother is older and has no interest in animal crossing

 

[Hobowire]

I wouldn't know the struggle I don't have siblings. I would suggest offering bells by offering chores they could do. If she's nasty about it I'll just keep bring up the opportunity to earn bells by doing the choir.

I guess this build character for her in and out of game character

 

[FRANS_PLAYER]

Update: She just tried to get me to sell her THIRTY iron nuggets for FIVE HUNDRED bells

 

[Pondo]

Man, now I feel kinda bad, ‘cause I can’t exactly relate. I’m the youngest of my sisters & I’m the one who got into the series first, so I’m the one helping them out with the game.

Though, I’m 24, and we’re long past the phase of “give me stuff because you’re related to me and it’s only fair”.

 

[IndiaHawker]

Oh wow, I've read through this entire thread and really feel for you. I always hated being an only child but maybe that wasn't so bad after all (based on not just your own, but others experiences too). The way she's been acting towards you is awful, although I haven't grown up with kids I work around slightly younger than that age group, I can understand at home maybe they act more immature but I'd be genuinely surprised if I witnessed any of the 10-11 year olds, or even a bit younger, acting that way I'd be pretty shocked. She sounds extremely immature and please bear in mind that I'm not a dr but I'd be inclined to think she has mental health issues of her own. However that in no way cancels out your own issues and the only advice I can think to offer as someone who doesn't know your situation fully, is to tell her you're doing your best to get along with her and help her enjoy the game, but her behaviour isn't okay and if she carries on being mean you won't connect with her and help her any more, full stop. (If necessary I'd even consider asking your parents if you can have a bolt on your bedroom door providing you unlock it at their will, considering you sound mature and may allow you to relax and play the game on your own, or just have your own time away from her!) Possibly could try something like "if you're not nasty to me for x amount of time, I'll let you visit Celeste on my island" but at the same time she doesn't sound all that reasonable, and as a 14 year old yourself it's not your job to teach her to be reasonable.

I hope any of this helped in some small way and I wish you every bit of luck with the situation you're in <3 You sound like a great sibling, considering!!

 

[FRANS_PLAYER]

Oh wow, I've read through this entire thread and really feel for you. I always hated being an only child but maybe that wasn't so bad after all (based on not just your own, but others experiences too). The way she's been acting towards you is awful, although I haven't grown up with kids I work around slightly younger than that age group, I can understand at home maybe they act more immature but I'd be genuinely surprised if I witnessed any of the 10-11 year olds, or even a bit younger, acting that way I'd be pretty shocked. She sounds extremely immature and please bear in mind that I'm not a dr but I'd be inclined to think she has mental health issues of her own. However that in no way cancels out your own issues and the only advice I can think to offer as someone who doesn't know your situation fully, is to tell her you're doing your best to get along with her and help her enjoy the game, but her behaviour isn't okay and if she carries on being mean you won't connect with her and help her any more, full stop. (If necessary I'd even consider asking your parents if you can have a bolt on your bedroom door providing you unlock it at their will, considering you sound mature and may allow you to relax and play the game on your own, or just have your own time away from her!) Possibly could try something like "if you're not nasty to me for x amount of time, I'll let you visit Celeste on my island" but at the same time she doesn't sound all that reasonable, and as a 14 year old yourself it's not your job to teach her to be reasonable.

I hope any of this helped in some small way and I wish you every bit of luck with the situation you're in <3 You sound like a great sibling, considering!!

Thank you She actually has had her own struggles in life (she is currently dealing with a possible ED) but I still don't think that warrants the terrible treatment I have received from her. I do indeed have a lock on my door that I lock more regularly now because of her. People are always telling me that "she's young" or "she's immature" or "she doesn't understand what she's saying" but I have to disagree. She knows full well what she is saying. Thank you again for the helpful advice, everyone on this thread has been so kind! I didn't mean for it to get this dark, but I felt like I had to explain why exactly I hold a grudge against her and it isn't just bratty 12 y/o behavior. Nevertheless, I hope everyone (including you) knows how appreciated the support is ️

 

[IndiaHawker]

Thank you She actually has had her own struggles in life (she is currently dealing with a possible ED) but I still don't think that warrants the terrible treatment I have received from her. I do indeed have a lock on my door that I lock more regularly now because of her. People are always telling me that "she's young" or "she's immature" or "she doesn't understand what she's saying" but I have to disagree. She knows full well what she is saying. Thank you again for the helpful advice, everyone on this thread has been so kind! I didn't mean for it to get this dark, but I felt like I had to explain why exactly I hold a grudge against her and it isn't just bratty 12 y/o behavior. Nevertheless, I hope everyone (including you) knows how appreciated the support is

Nope doesn't make it okay at all and I'm glad this thread has helped you. I just sincerely hope that she gets help and gets her head together and matures soon, and respects you and the game as you've been more tolerant that I'd have been (especially at 14) and probably more tolerant than the vast majority too! Your game should be able to be your happy place (hence my town name of Utopia!) regardless of your sister. Sending all the good vibes

 

[wanderlust//]

My sister and I mess around, but to an extent.
For example, I’ll hit her with a net and steal one of her bell bags or items on the floor and run all willy-nilly around her island Of course, I always drop it at the end lol.
Also, sometimes I’ll accidentally shake a tree or trample a flower or two. No hard feelings.
If I’m especially mad I’ll smack her villagers with a net once or drop a diy she already has lol. (I know, I know, I’m the freaking devil)
Keep in mind she’s 15 and I’m 1 year younger.
If your sister is going to be immature then just don’t let her come over Anyway, I’m really sorry she’s acting like that!