daringred_
✧ ghost lesbian ✧
and how do you know she is? regardless, she's 12 and trainwreck is a ridiculous term to describe someone of that age.
I've found that NH and siblings don't mix
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and how do you know she is? regardless, she's 12 and trainwreck is a ridiculous term to describe someone of that age.
Idk man, at age 12 I know my siblings and I certainly didnt act like that. I think we all had our moments in the younger years that we are not so proud of, but that is straight up some nasty behavior. I would expect those things from a 6-8 or even 10 year old, but not 12.
Wow, that sounds like you're having a pretty rough time trying to co-exist on your island haha. Whenever I play with my 10 year old brother (keep in mind i'm double his age so this is just a different scenario in general) he's actually very chill and never does anything annoying. He mainly just goes on to recreate his favourite video game characters using pro designs from the internet, and then takes pictures with them on the switch, so I guess there's not much that can go wrong there. I remember once he accidentally saved over one of my pro designs, and when I came back in he was really stressed out over it even though I really didn't care haha.
Back to the main topic though, this sounds more like a general issue than one just related to this game. Maybe try actually sitting down and just even attempt to tell her that it's making you sad, since sometimes a person just doesn't recognise what they're doing is really making you sad. Then again, i'm not a psychologist, so take this all with a pinch of salt.
Back to the main topic though, this sounds more like a general issue than one just related to this game. Maybe try actually sitting down and just even attempt to tell her that it's making you sad, since sometimes a person just doesn't recognise what they're doing is really making you sad. Then again, i'm not a psychologist, so take this all with a pinch of salt.
daringred_
✧ ghost lesbian ✧
hopefully i don't sound harsh, i just think it's important to remember she's 12. most people around that age aren't exactly incredibly mature and iirc she's probably hitting that phase where a lot of girls become quite catty and envious/jealous. like i said, my sister threw tantrums when she couldn't get her way, smashed my consoles and a window. i'm pretty sure she was around the same age but she's since grown out of it now. my pseudo-cousin is 11 now, i believe, and acts very much the same as your sister and i met my fair share of 12 year olds who behaved along those lines during my later years of secondary school too so it's not uncommon either. it's always important to remember that not everyone's going to mature at the same rate or behave the same way at a certain age. best not to hold it against her so young.
I get this all the time!! I live with my boyfriend and his family. Im 28 and his younger sister is 11 and after watching me play ACNH during lockdown she brought the game about 2 months after I did. I gave her a full set of tool, 10 of each fruit, loads of clothes and furniture and all the spare DIY’s I had.
I gave her a pretty good run down of the game and I told her to plan the fruit andin a few days the fruit that grew she could keep selling.
She ate the fruit, sold the clothes and is constantly asking me what do to. She doesn’t like talking to Tom Nook because he’s “boring and just keeps talking” so she doesn’t know what to do next....
I’m bored of repeating myself to her so she’s gonna be stuck on a 2
️ Island for the rest of her days 
I gave her a pretty good run down of the game and I told her to plan the fruit andin a few days the fruit that grew she could keep selling.
She ate the fruit, sold the clothes and is constantly asking me what do to. She doesn’t like talking to Tom Nook because he’s “boring and just keeps talking” so she doesn’t know what to do next....
I’m bored of repeating myself to her so she’s gonna be stuck on a 2
️ Island for the rest of her days wow that’s just.....sad... at that point, that’s definitely not an age issue :/
daringred_
✧ ghost lesbian ✧
of course that's not me trying to say you can't be upset/annoyed/hurt/frustrated by her behavior though because you have every right to be, i just figured i'd thrown in an explanation for why she might be acting that way.
FRANS_PLAYER
coco // 🪢🌙🌻 // i'm up all night to get lucky
This sounds exactly like my sisterI get this all the time!! I live with my boyfriend and his family. Im 28 and his younger sister is 11 and after watching me play ACNH during lockdown she brought the game about 2 months after I did. I gave her a full set of tool, 10 of each fruit, loads of clothes and furniture and all the spare DIY’s I had.
I gave her a pretty good run down of the game and I told her to plan the fruit andin a few days the fruit that grew she could keep selling.
She ate the fruit, sold the clothes and is constantly asking me what do to. She doesn’t like talking to Tom Nook because he’s “boring and just keeps talking” so she doesn’t know what to do next....
I’m bored of repeating myself to her so she’s gonna be stuck on a 2
I gave her all the fruit, a slingshot, vaulting pole, and a ladder days before she would even get the recipe, money, and 2 full outfits. She has no knowledge of the game and won't listen to my tips (Remember to arrange your houses in a more neighborhoodly fashion, you don't want to spend money rearranging them later! Make sure to always have backup tools in case they break! Paying off debt is important, remember to always check for Nook Miles! Buy more inventory space early on!) stuff like that and she won't listen 
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I agree with you that it was a bit harsh to call a 12yo a train wreck. I disagree with you a bit bc she should be held accountable even if the younger sister is “less mature”. From what Frans has been saying, she seems to get away with these things regularly. You learn empathy pretty early and while yes pre-teens are catty and immature, this is an important developmental period where she needs to learn what’s ok and not ok to do to others.
It’s her game, let her suck at itThis sounds exactly like my sister
FRANS_PLAYER
coco // 🪢🌙🌻 // i'm up all night to get lucky
Thank you! I recognize that she is young and very irresponsible and I try to not hold things against her, but there are days where she is really making me mad. I honestly pity her because she has no personality of her own and loves to copy mine, I just wish she'd be nicer
To see from the positive side, she can't really do much damage to your island unless you give her permission to dig and cut down trees. At worst she can take your fruit and smaller things like that, which grows back. I still understand why you're upset about this, so if having her over is a hassle then you could just stop having her over all together maybe?
FRANS_PLAYER
coco // 🪢🌙🌻 // i'm up all night to get lucky
Haha yes, I'm getting revenge for all the times she's bullied me by letting her wallow in debtIt’s her game, let her suck at it
daringred_
✧ ghost lesbian ✧
sounds sucky but, as the older sibling, you might have to take the first step. if killing her with kindness doesn't work, it might just be best to firmly sit her down and explain why her attitude etc. and if that doesn't work, maybe your parents? or just flat out ignoring her and distancing yourself. maybe that'll make her realize she's behaving poorly and needs to change.
FRANS_PLAYER
coco // 🪢🌙🌻 // i'm up all night to get lucky
Good advice! Unfortunately I have tried, but she is incredibly stubborn and does not do well with admitting her faults AT ALL. She always loves to play the victim, no matter what. I spent a lot of time venting on Instagram for about a month because she is just so verbally abusive, but she somehow found out and got me in trouble. She's not really good with confrontation as the last time we had a "family talk" it ended up with her screaming and crying that I was "mean" to her :/
daringred_
✧ ghost lesbian ✧
looks like the last option might be the only one for you. either that or just waiting it out, which obviously sucks but there's not much else you can do unfortunately. most 12 year olds don't have a lot of self-awareness -- i didn't, and i was what adults considered mature for my age lmao. have your parents spoken to her about it without you there? that might help, maybe. i wouldn't know, my parents let my sister get away with everything and get her own way because they couldn't be asked to handle her tantrums and/or the repercussions so rip.
FRANS_PLAYER
coco // 🪢🌙🌻 // i'm up all night to get lucky
They've tried but she doesn't listen. She thinks I'm their favorite, which may be true, but I know for a fact that my parents like spending time with me more because she has always been extremely rude to them
I am the oldest of 4 children (2 girls, 2 boys). I am now 24. I remember I used to hate when my parents made my sister tag along on all my activities and going out with my friends lol now I like when we go out together
I imagine this is hard to understand as you're still 14yo, but I remember when I was a preteen and was starting to figure out who I was and what I liked, I copied a lot of people's styles and hobbies to try them out. Around 16 or 17 is when I started to feel confortable with myself and left the confusion behind a little. I think that's fairly common and you don't need to pity her. She will develop and find her own personality as she grows, but that happens in the teenage years for most people, I don't even think you have it all perfectly figured out yourself
but I think the tantrums and jealousy are all part of that development... The oldest usually matures faster to help the parents (at least that was my case), I have always been far more organized, emotionally mature and independent than all of them, I traveled to Europe all alone the day after my 18th birthday lol, and my sister used to want to be like me a lot. That made us fight a loooot because I expected more of them. I imagine she looks up to you but can't organize her emotions at all so she reacts the imature way . Try not to label her, she is still a child (maybe a very misbehaved one, and I know that's pretty annoying), and will change a lot, and so will your relationship with her! You just need a bit more patience. Try to only giving her things you won't really miss, so anything she does with it won't bother you. I know bells do a lot for you in the beginning of the game and they stop having so much value later on, so maybe you won't miss the 70k so much and your relationship with her is more important! Idk, don't know y'all, respectfully trying to help!
I hope I helped in some way, reading your comments made me have major memories lol
We're all adults now (twin brothers have 19, she has 22 and I'm 24, 25 soon) and we're friends, this phase will pass!
FRANS_PLAYER
coco // 🪢🌙🌻 // i'm up all night to get lucky
TW: dark topics aheadI am the oldest of 4 children (2 girls, 2 boys). I am now 24. I remember I used to hate when my parents made my sister tag along on all my activities and going out with my friends lol now I like when we go out together
I imagine this is hard to understand as you're still 14yo, but I remember when I was a preteen and was starting to figure out who I was and what I liked, I copied a lot of people's styles and hobbies to try them out. Around 16 or 17 is when I started to feel confortable with myself and left the confusion behind a little. I think that's fairly common and you don't need to pity her. She will develop and find her own personality as she grows, but that happens in the teenage years for most people, I don't even think you have it all perfectly figured out yourself
The oldest usually matures faster to help the parents (at least that was my case), I have always been far more organized, emotionally mature and independent than all of them, I traveled to Europe all alone the day after my 18th birthday lol, and my sister used to want to be like me a lot. That made us fight a loooot because I expected more of them. I imagine she looks up to you but can't organize her emotions at all so she reacts the imature way . Try not to label her, she is still a child (maybe a very misbehaved one, and I know that's pretty annoying), and will change a lot, and so will your relationship with her! You just need a bit more patience. Try to only giving her things you won't really miss, so anything she does with it won't bother you. I know bells do a lot for you in the beginning of the game and they stop having so much value later on, so maybe you won't miss the 70k so much and your relationship with her is more important! Idk, don't know y'all, respectfully trying to help!
I hope I helped in some way, reading your comments made me have major memories lol
We're all adults now (twin brothers have 19, she has 22 and I'm 24, 25 soon) and we're friends, this phase will pass!
I try to give her the benefit of the doubt with her immature comments but she has said some EXTREMELY horrible things to me. I spent most of my 6th grade year heavily depressed and at one point was contemplating s***cide, and all she did was ridicule me and told me to kill myself twice when I had done nothing to her. It seems like a small thing, but hearing that when you're emotionally destroyed was one of the worst moments of my life. Later, she "jokingly" threatened to out me as bisexual (I think I threatened some very unimportant thing first, like "I'll tell that you're eating snacks at 2 in the morning", something fairly lighthearted that I wasn't going to follow through on.) I screamed at her because I knew that had the potential to tear our family apart (My political views and sexuality oppose that of which the majority of my family support) and she laughed and told me she was "joking." I still am unable to get over this as she never offered any real apology and, once when I confronted her about it, she denied it completely. I think her exposure to the internet has helped in her turning her out like this, and she has never had to face real consequences for her actions. I can only pray that this year (she will be attending middle school for the first time) will straighten her out
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