How to tell your parents you got bad grades?

[Kissyme100]

So my mid term report card was handed out to me and..... I'm not doing that good in a couple of classes. I'm really stressed out about telling them, I want to cry just thinking about it. My grades are bad in Bio because I don't really understand it and didn't hand some things in. My grades in math aren't that good because my teacher doesn't remind us to hand things in (I know that's not his job but still.) My parents are amazing and they deserve a child who gets good grades and I'm really scared to tell them.

Help.

 

[Mariah]

Why do you have to tell your parents in the first place?

 

[spCrossing]

I don't, but they found out via Home Access...
And they scream.... a lot...
HELP..

 

[Lovelylexi]

Aww, I'm sorry. I know how that feels, I've let my grades slip before and dreaded having to tell my parents... so I didn't tell them. I waited until they found out on their own and then I really got in trouble.

It'll be for the best if you just tell them. They won't be as mad if they find out from you telling the truth. Try explaining to them why your grades aren't the best and they might understand more.

 

[Kissyme100]

Why do you have to tell your parents in the first place?

My school has emailed every parent about them.

 

[Mariah]

My school has emailed every parent about them.

They don't check your grades on their own?

 

[thatawkwardkid]

Wow, you're really stressed out about grades. If your parents aren't too strict, then do what I do. I tell them I have bad grades while laughing and making it seem like no big deal. I don't usually tell them, but when they see the letter with my grades, that's when I tell them.

 

[35mm]

You say "They deserve a child that makes good grades" as if making bad grades makes you a bad person. I know how it feels to get crap grades all the time, and if your parents are as amazing as they say they are they'll try and get you help.

 

[Radda]

Tell em and don't hide em.They can help you out with it.

 

[Lovelylexi]

If they're going to get an email about it, definitely tell them yourself.

 

[Tessie]

the best thing i say is "mom, dad, i got an f on my test but everyone failed it too, average was a 20"


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oh i think you were the one i helped answer your biology question.


maybe you should go to tutoring? tutoring is the best, one time i was failing so bad, i failed 3 of the 4 tests, and i started going to tutoring sessions and ended up almost getting a 100 on the last test and it bumped me up to a B. i went from an F to a B because of tutoring

 

[Fuzzbyroo]

My parents don't really need to know about my grades since I'm paying for my course so I don't usually tell them (bad or not).

 

[Kissyme100]

They don't check your grades on their own?

I was supposed to bring it home but I got scared...

 

[RayOfHope]

Don't hide it, because that makes things even worse. Be honest, say your grades are overwhelming you, and if you can be honest and responsible about it your parents should appreciate it.

Don't feel like a bad person for having bad grades. Grades are not a judge of your worth as a person, or as a son/daughter.

 

[Kissyme100]

the best thing i say is "mom, dad, i got an f on my test but everyone failed it too, average was a 20"


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oh i think you were the one i helped answer your biology question.


maybe you should go to tutoring? tutoring is the best, one time i was failing so bad, i failed 3 of the 4 tests, and i started going to tutoring sessions and ended up almost getting a 100 on the last test and it bumped me up to a B. i went from an F to a B because of tutoring

Yeah, you did help me. The question was worded really badly, NOBODY understood it.

I tried saying that in the past... it didn't help. I'm going to try asking for help more often.

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Don't hide it, because that makes things even worse. Be honest, say your grades are overwhelming you, and if you can be honest and responsible about it your parents should appreciate it.

Don't feel like a bad person for having bad grades. Grades are not a judge of your worth as a person, or as a son/daughter.

Thanks for your comment, I'm feeling very overwhelmed with my grades and other personal things. I honestly feel like a failure right now.

 

[Solaeus]

I do it as soon as possible, it always seems to go
better that way (the relief is sooner). But hey,
don't sweat having a rough bump.

 

[RayOfHope]

Thanks for your comment, I'm feeling very overwhelmed with my grades and other personal things. I honestly feel like a failure right now.

You're not a failure! If you just gave up and didn't care what happened to you or your grades, that would be failure. Your concern for your grades and your potential improvement shows that.

I feel like I've heard some kind of saying for this situation. Your low points don't define you, it's how you deal with them. Something like that. I hope it makes sense, anyway.

 

[samsquared]

Tell them what to expect and the steps you're taking to fix it.
Before your report card comes in, attend tutoring sessions to back up your claims.

The thing about failing is that it teaches us lessons that we otherwise wouldn't learn properly. Everyone fails at something at some point in his or her life. What you have to do is get to the root of the problem, the thing about you that makes you unable to learn or apply the material, and work at that part in order to help yourself.
Failing because you never turn in daily work? Increase your accountability or make sure you'll ace the test.
Can't focus on your homework? Disconnect from the internet, etc.
More detailed problems leaving you unsure where to even start? Isolate the steps, find parts that you know how to do and work with the information you're given first.
Etc. etc. Everyone learns differently, so we all have individual problems. Because teachers kind of don't have the time or energy to get to the root of the problem with 100+ students, we have to do it ourselves (by using Khan Academy, lol).
Or you could just make yourself overly available to the teacher by being at every tutorial, but even then, there's no guarantee they'll help you and your parent will be pretty inconvenienced by that option, so unless Mom or Dad vivaciously volunteers you for that, I'd say not to do it.
Honestly, how good your grades will be from the launch point will reflect their importance to you (and/or the flaws of your teachers). If your parents' pride matters to you, you'll find a way. Do your best!

And don't feel crushed every time you get a bad grade. Your parents have gone to school, too. They understand that it'll happen sometimes, and as long as you're making an effort to be better, you'll generally receive little punishment.

 

[f11]

You don't.

 

[RayOfHope]

You don't.

Not a very responsible option.