How to tell your parents you got bad grades?

[RiceBunny]

I graduated with honors, but I got a C in biology in 9th grade once. Telling my mom wasn't hard. I knew she wouldn't yell, scream or think any less of me if I did. I told her I was struggling to keep up, and that high school was so much different. I told her I was able to keep it together for all the classes but biology. She understood and asked me if I needed help. I told her I did, so she got me a tutor for biology.
Telling your parents you got bad grades is only bad if the parent makes it so. I always saw my mom in a different light, so coming to her for help wasn't hard.
If you need help, then ask for it. There's no shame in it.

So if you have a parent that will yell and scream about a grade, then just tell them you need help. Don't walk up to them with just a "Hey, I got bad grades. Please don't yell!". Walk up head up high and say "Hey, I got bad grades so I might need some help". Come at them with a problem and a solution, instead of just a problem. The more chill and grown up you are about this, the better for you. They're just grades that need some help, not the end of the world.

 

[shayminskyforme88]

I do, they're bound to find out eventually anyways, might as well tell them early to reduce the damage when the card comes out.

 

[~Alex~]

I have a feeling they won't be so angry if you show that you want to improve your grades. When you talk with them, explain you want to work harder/improve and discuss solutions with them (examples being going in early and getting help/getting a tutor).
You'll end up showing maturity and they'll be happy to see that you care and you're willing to make an effort.

 

[Mega_Cabbage]

If I were to get a bad grade, then I would just tell them that the class is difficult and promise to try harder. Maybe you should spend more time studying/learning alone and not rely on the teacher to tell you everything. Take notes, pay attention, do extra credit, or anything else it takes to boost your grade.

 

[ADanishMuffin]

When I get bad grades, I just tell them. While I do feel bad when they get mad or disappointed in me, it's still the better option, rather than waiting for them to find out for themselves.

I would also explain things like the what things I'm struggling with and why, why I got those grades, and things like that. While my parents are pretty chill and don't get super mad when I get bad grades, I think telling them these things would help.

 

[KarlaKGB]

i was always a star student

 

[Murray]

i was always a star student

me too i never had this problem

 

[Danielkang2]

At least you're not Asian. (ESPECIALLY Korean) This gif is Soooooooo true. A- will get you 2 years being grounded, abuse and ignored cause they don't treat you as human. 0.o Unless you skip a grade then this will happen if you get a B+.

 

[TheBluRaichu]

 

[Danielkang2]

After school, I study till 12 am-4am 0.o

 

[unravel]

It would be the best not to hide it so tell your parents about it, show it and tell how you feel in school so they will know well I think you tried your best in school I know it's really exhausting. Anyway focus of your failing grade and try your best to improve it. Make a notes on what to do I guess this will help.

 

[Cariad]

I had bad grades in re so I told my parents honestly and I was just honest and they were like oh don't worry it'll be ok then they helped me in those subjects. Honesty is often the trick

 

[epona]

The same way I tell them about my phone bill: leave the report card on the kitchen counter and then run. Get as far away from that building as possible. Go across town. Flee the country. Move to an isolated village in Cambodia and don't come back for at least 4 months

 

[Guero101]

I didn't. Mom would figure it out. then I would lose my electronics and get a Mexican arse whipping

 

[Noctis]

I think you should be honest about it and tell them since they're going to find out via email right? Tell your parents you're having a difficult time with classes and having a hard time understanding. I remember when I failed 2 classes and I was somewhat nervous about what my mother would say (she's pretty much the one in charge when it comes to grades) and she was like whatever. I didn't get any electronics taken away like the other kids do. My parents just wanted me to graduate, so I obviously had to do the job. Doing some packages the school offered to regain the points I lost from all my failed classes did the trick. Good luck on everything though!!!

 

[Kissyme100]

After a good sleep and a cry. I feel better and I'm going to tell them tonight. Thanks for all the support!

 

[baileyanne94]

A bad grade situation is tough, but being honest and straightforward really is the best method, even though it's easier said than done.
You'd be surprised how much even just one day of staying after school/going in early can help your grade I don't think I ever had to go more than once or twice to redeem a bad grade. If you have a phone, set reminders on there about assignments, giving yourself enough time to work on them! If you've been generally stressed, not feeling well, or worrying, let them know about that as well! It can help them go easier on you.

Be prepared for any criticisms they may dish out and accept any consequences, and learn from the stress you're going through now! Understand that your parents just want you to do well and be happy, that's really all they want deep down! I'm sure they're wonderful like you say, and this will pass and you'll have grown from it! No one does great all the time, after all. I'm in college and had a late assignment last week, and have failed courses, so it's just part of the journey!

I'm proud to see that you've decided to tell them. Pick a good time and be brave, you'll be alright! And like everyone else has said, you're not a bad person for getting a few bad grades.

 

[oranje]

I agree with those that have said that you should be honest. If they have constructive criticism to give so you can have better grades, listen to them. Instead of a blame-game, you and your parents can plan what you need to do to get better grades (tutoring, setting aside more time to study, ect).

 

[Leanne]

When it's time to receive report cards I'm always so scared. I hate, hate, hate that time of the trimester when it's time to show your parents how you did ><.

It's always the same story with me. Music, art, English, and Language are always high. Biology is average. Anything else is so low, I hate it.

At least my dad no longer expects me to be a genius like my brothers, and everything is fine as long as I don't fail a class.

But I agree you should just tell your parents how you did. When my dad wanted me to be #1 in my class, I failed classes much more often. It was when I told him that I just find it to hard that he started helping me to get enough grades to pass.

 

[Superpenguin]

I never even tell them lol. I mean as long as I'm not failing a class, they really don't need to know if I got one lousy grade on something. They can't do anything about it anyway, and I a my own biggest motivator not my parents, so...yeah.