Have you ever lied about your age online in New Leaf for a reason or just not to tell?[close thread]

[Mr_Persona]

You can delete the thread! Ty

 

[lyradelphie04]

I've done it to make better friends too!! Except not with younger kids haha, I tend to heavily dislike the immaturity and lack of understanding of my sense of humor. I'm 17, but I have, not here, told people I'm in college, 20-22 range. Whoops. But like you, for the most part I don't share my age online, I find it too defining of my personality when people are so much more than their age. One of my best friends is a 93 year old neighbor!

 

[Mr_Persona]

I've done it to make better friends too!! Except not with younger kids haha, I tend to heavily dislike the immaturity and lack of understanding of my sense of humor. I'm 17, but I have, not here, told people I'm in college, 20-22 range. Whoops. But like you, for the most part I don't share my age online, I find it too defining of my personality when people are so much more than their age. One of my best friends is a 93 year old neighbor!

I made friends with a 70 year old, and she was so nice to help me out with items and a villager! I don't know what happened to her, I haven't seen her online in 2 years now.

 

[Divinityy]

hi!
ummm as someone whos a minor, this is incredibly creepy and uncomfortable. right now im at an age where 18 is okay and fine to be friends with, as irl i have friends that age, but if i were younger and i found out my friend was that much older than me? thats really unsettling. im saying this out of experience and ik my experiences arent exactly like everyone elses, but does it not come across as potentially creepy or .. idk, just not right to you? you're 18, im sure you can comprehend how weird it is to hear an 18 year old pretending to be 14 or younger just to be with younger kids.
theres plenty of people your age who are nice! if someone says that youre too old to be friends with them, thats not a valid reason to blatantly lie about your age. thats not respecting their and possibly others' boundaries and wishes. i don't mean to attack you but i just think that this is a really uncomfortable thread to see.

 

[mikapuno]

hello!! as a minor, i would feel uncomfortable and kind of creeped out if i found out that i was playing with a much older person pretending to be close to my age. you might not have any bad intentions but this just doesn’t feel right to me :> if you’d like to make friends closer to your age, there are plenty of threads for older gamers to make friends !! :> there’s a lot of welcoming and kind players on this forum so you don’t need to lie about your age !! it sucks that some people are mean, but if it’s someone’s wish to only play with people who are their age, you need to respect it :c not trying to be mean, just trying to respect the privacy/boundaries of others, as there are a lot of new and younger players on the forum who may not feel comfortable socializing with strangers who are a lot older than them online !!

 

[edrinaline]

i think you should delete this

 

[EtchaSketch]

I'm not a minor, but this does come off as incredibly creepy. That may not be your intention, but it definitely comes off that way O:>

 

[UglyMonsterFace]

I also find it strange for an adult to pretend to be younger to be friends with 14 year olds or whatever. You might not have bad intentions but there are plenty of older people playing this game that you don't need to lie about your age to. If a child tells you you are too old for them to play with, there must be a reason, either they aren't allowed to by their parents or they just don't feel comfortable, and as the adult, you need to respect that. I understand a kid/teen lying about their age to seem older but a grown up pretending to be a child is not good at all. And then do you just pretend to be childish? I know if I was a parent, I wouldn't want my kid to interact with someone lying about their age like that. Because you never know what their intentions are. So you should be careful because of what doing this might look to others..

 

[Corrie]

Yeah, I'm not okay with this either. I'm 25 and almost feel creepy even speaking to anyone that I know that is under 18. I'm not doing anything creepy but I still feel odd about it and would completely respect if they felt weird due to the age difference as well. I'm always honest about my age to keep everyone who comes in contact with me comfortable.

 

[Alyx]

The topic of age never really came up and by the time New Leaf came out I was over 18. I wouldn't be comfortable lying about my age - it doesn't feel right. Almost feels illegal now. I was in someone's podcast that never made it past one episode - he wouldn't tell anyone his age but it was obvious he was young and was having a hard time dealing with the fact that nobody was listening to his podcast and then I began to feel uncomfortable even speaking to him so I ended up unfollowing and unfriending because he wasn't being honest, and was making me uncomfortable, thinking I was talking to some really young kid. I don't like having to put on some kind of filter, if I accidentally let a bad word or something uh, not for kids, slip out, I don't want to feel so responsible for them. Honestly I do connect easier with children than other adults, but I'm not actually comfortable doing that outside of a school or controlled setting.

 

[AppleBitterCrumble]

chair ❤ but make it electric

(im just joking its a tik tok trend)

in all seriousness as an 18 year old who has been playing the game since I was 5, I would personally feel creeped out/betrayed if I found out someone was lying about their age to seem younger. I think overall people just need to respect others wishes, like if I see threads of people asking to be friends with 22-25 year olds I dont even bother clicking on it because morally that just feels wrong of me to be an age that I am not.

 

[Corrie]

I'm gonna add an example: I was heavily into the Miraculous Ladybug fandom on insta. My sister joined as well and we got added to all these group chats. She managed to make friends on there and when she told me these were all teens from ages 16-19, I had to leave and delete my account on there. She was 18 so it was fine for her but I just felt like I was doing something wrong. There are probably people my age on there but there are just so many teens. I used to be a teen and I used to be in these fandoms but now that I'm older, I find it harder to "fit in" properly.

 

[celesludenberg]

This is considered predatory, not gonna lie. I am 24 now but have been a victim of a predator in the past and it’s not cute. I would be severely uncomfortable if I found out an internet friend I thought was 14 like me was actually over 18.

 

[tinycarrots]

You should make friends your age. Tbh this is kinda gross in my opinion. It's not respectful to lie to friends and its especially disrespectful to lie about being a kid when you aren't. Ive been down this road before where I was a child and someone way older than me lied about their age. It can really scar a kid, good intentions or not.

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

even if your intentions are pure, lying about your age in order for kids to talk to you is malicious in nature. theres a good chance it will hurt them if they ever find out that you were much, much older than 9-12 and it has much scarier implications. there really isnt any point in lying to get your own way.

 

[Xara]

when i was 11-12, i used to tell people that i was 16. i don’t know why i did this either than the fact that i was a liar lmao

 

[Lurrdoc]

I don't see any reason to lie about my age.

 

[marea]

Friendships are built on trust, you shouldnt lie about your age just to befriend someone. My parents dont allow my brother to hang with people who are older than him and i am sure the parents of some of these kids feel the same way so dont do this! I am sure you are a kind person and mean no harm. You will find plenty of nice people here who are around your age!

 

[Jas]

i've never lied about or concealed my age - i am 20, so i feel completely uncomfortable being friends with people a lot younger than me and always actively try to make my age known so others don't feel uncomfy lolol

 

[hamster]

ive lied about my age in the past. said i was older than i was so i could get the COOL kids to like me, but in reality they didnt care as i was only usually a few years younger. i didnt have any ill intentions but obviously i shouldnt have done that, especially because i dated TWO people and said i was 1 year older than i was which might not be much of a difference but they put their trust in u u know. i wouldnt like it if i was talking to someone that i thought was around my age but they turned out to be way younger, that would just make me really uncomfortable

i think its way different than saying ur younger tho, cuz that just seems predatory. its not normal for someone older than 18 to want to be friends with kids as young as 9. you can find friends ur age lol its really not hard. u might feel like u relate to them more or somethin but thats not normal