Have You Ever Had Any Relationship Problems?

Problems is putting it way too mildly-- there's a reason I've been single for over a year, now. As much as I'd like to rant, however, I need to stop doing that, as it's not only bad for my mental health, but also gets me no closer to healing from the incident and getting it out of my head, either.

All I can say is: don't fall for sweet words and a pretty face, and never let them try to change who you are to better suit them. There's nothing in the world I regret more than all of the crap I let that jerk get away with before finally putting my foot down.
 
MarzipanDragyn said:
All I can say is: don't fall for sweet words and a pretty face, and never let them try to change who you are to better suit them. There's nothing in the world I regret more than all of the crap I let that jerk get away with before finally putting my foot down.
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I feel you.
(Though, it wasn't sweet words or cute face in my case.)
 
I never been in a relationship before, but one day I will. Hopefully I will find the right partner for me and hopefully he will be someone I can really come to love deeply and care about a lot. I'm just really shy right now. Always have been since I was young. :/
 
Not romantic relationship problems, as I've never been in a romantic relationship. VERY intense relationship problems if you look outside of the romantic aspect though.
 
Quite a few, first 2 gfs cheated on me. Also got mad that I never got jealous either. I don't have time for that petty nonsense. I haven't had a gf in years. I have no interest in flings or rushing into another toxic relationship.
 
I've only ever been in one relationship, but a few days in I already saw problems, both with him and I.

I hated how he would 'flaunt' that he had a gf; always holding hands while walking in the halls as a sign to all other people around (this was my senior year of high school). One time we were on a date and one of his friends texted him, so he texted back that he was on a date. Like he could have said he was busy atm and he'll talk later. But he had to let everyone know in whatever possible scenario that he had a gf.

Another thing I hated was that whenever we went on a date, his parents HAD to be there. We only went on like, 2 or 3 dates, which I would dread cause I'm bad enough socializing with people I know, having his parents there was a huge turn off, I can't even put into words just how it felt when I was walking up to the place and seeing that his parents are staying for the date.

He also did not know what or how to prioritize, a big reason why I ended it. I'm not gonna go into details but long story short, you don't keep someone waiting for a damn hour and half after they already said we should reschedule, then show up at the place saying if the date was still on. Like, I can't. I know what he was doing and why he was so late, and what he was doing was far more important than a date, but he didn't get that.

Yeah there was problems on his end but there were problems on my end. Turns out I'm a private person in the matters of relationships. I don't like others knowing about my relationship, so I don't flaunt it. Public kissing, holding hands, no. I also don't feel the need to talk on a daily basis, I'm kind of withdrawn. That's not typical of someone in a relationship, so I would have to date someone who is fine with that, which isn't easy to find.
 
Yep. A relationship I recently ended. But I realized my worth and have moved on. :)
 
Most of my relationships ended amicably with no real ill feeling throughout the time spent together. It wasn’t really that we were having huge problems or arguments but more like one of us wasn’t emotionally available enough for each other at the time and we accept that and it naturally ends. I have moved around so much for work that it’s hard to commit deeply to a relationship, which is why I prefer short flings and staying single for the most part, hah.
 
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I've never had a relationship problem.

I only ever dated people who lived in a single storey house, or a ground floor apartment, with lots of windows.

If something goes wrong, you can escape out the window.

NO problem. ;)
 
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Right now I'm somewhat having some. I have a condition called borderline personality disorder so throughout our time together we've had problems. In the beginning, as much as I liked having him there I was pretty emotionally unavailable and I ended up jumping in to it at the wrong time. I was not compromising or being fair to him at all, and wouldn't hear him out a lot of the time. So over the time we've been together I've been trying to actively get help and go to therapy so that we can be together, as we truly love each other and care about each other. I got hurt in a lot of past relationships and got cheated on, left abruptly, etc, but its time to be serious because he shouldn't have to deal with my past baggage, that's my responsibility to heal from and to give him what he deserves to we can both be mutually happy.
Our relationship abruptly ended at one point so when we came out of it and got back together, he was the one who was emotionally available because he was hurt and frustrated, so I've been trying to be a healthier partner because BPD honestly effects the way I react to things so much, and it's hurt him in the process because he's been nothing but patient with me.
Once you're out of that honeymoon phase, the real problems begin and I find it good that we're trying to work things out. The only thing is, me and his brother do not like each other at all. When we were arguing once he told my fiance to just break up with me and go be happy and sleep around, so seeing him or going to his house is something I don't feel comfortable doing right yet. We're currently long distance but it's only temporary because of his job, so to hear his brother saying that after being completely cool with me otherwise, hurt a lot and I have been kind of distant from my fiance since it happened. This probably sounds like a huge mess, but I assure you the relationship is not that bad lol.
Basically: trying to put pieces together, learn to compromise, learn to have that mutual respect (with BPD I have problems controlling my anger, been better recently), and just enjoy each other's company. I can be a selfish person and demand a lot of attention, but I really wanna get better not only for him, but for myself.
 
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