Haggling in a thread where everyone can see feels tacky.
To me, that's the point of a thread if you're selling or buying and you're looking for the best offer, specially if you're trying to sell something because you're in need of bells, it just feels like a slap on the face (not that I can relate or anything like that... t.t). Personally, I've never considered PM'ing someone unless they say so on their thread such as "send me a dm if you're interested".
I prefer to have everything public since it protects both me and the other user by stating what is being traded.
Anyone could lie and make up offers to get a higher offer from you and that's just not cool. I just back out at that point.
Very true! I hadn't considered that!
I think this is very rude. I made a couple of buying threads and got some people offering me a better deal privately through pms, but I politely declined them because I already committed to another trade.
Thank you!
You're not even supposed to make dm/pm offers, I got a warning for it.. :/
I think that might just be for auctions
In my situation I was trying to sell item and then suddenly I got declined, no warning, no counteroffer, at least in my case they always let me know they found a better offer and don't just ghost me.
This has happened to me. It frustrates me, but I don't say anything. I'll post something, and for some reason can't PM people right away (once someone posts on my threads, I PM them as soon as I can). Or if I'm buying something from someone, and they're like, "I'm waiting for better offers." And sometimes it ends like this: "Sorry I got this thing/sold this thing to someone else."
I personally try not to ask for the same thing someone else is requesting, sure, I might miss out on certain items, but I know I'll find them eventually!
As a buyer, I dont really mind when someone turn my offer down. I don't understand why would someone DM instead of posting on the thread, though. There isn't a good reason except not wanting to bump the thread, as someone stated in the replies.
I wish I didn't care, and to some extent I really don't, just feels like a momentary slap in the face .-.
I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with DM / PM offers. Sellers can accept or reject any offers they receive for whatever reason (such as a low-ball offer or an offer from someone with a bad rating), so if they want to pass on a publicly made offer for a privately made offer, it's their privilege to do so. Auctions are different since they have specific rules for selecting the buyer. I think the seller should be transparent and announce when the item is no longer available, but there's no rule stating the first person to post an offer has "dibs" on the item and no rule stating that offers must be public (unless it's an auction).
I don't think that private offers are terrible, I just wished that people would specify whether they were taking private offers or not. I could've been the one to send the PM and gotten the sale you know, I just chose to go publicly about it.
I'm sorry to hear this happens or keeps happening to you.
I would agree that it does feel very disappointing. I think it can get tricky as a seller too. Unless clearly stated, do you prioritize public posts or who shows interest first? I think that's why it's important to state the rules for your auction, shop, etc very clearly and fairly.
That's a very good way to look at it.
It’s frustrating as a seller too, for a number of reasons. I specifically say I don’t want offers via PM or VM on my shop thread, but some people do anyway. I never know what to say at that point anymore, I’ve had people get upset with me when I mention to them that I prefer offers to be made within the thread (even though it’s specifically stated in my ‘guidelines’).
Yes! A lot of people do not read specifications on a thread (to be fully transparent I'm guilty of this, but I'm trying to get better at it!).
i think it's a little annoying but i don't think it's unethical
Yeah... I guess it seems more 'rude' than anything.
