Bullying - Discussion

[BeckTheMayor]

I've never been bullied, but normally when there is a bully at my school, bullying someone younger. I just walk over to them, and they run away. Everyone at school is afraid of me in ways, they know what I can do if they hurt me or my friends. I've only beaten someone up 'Outside' of school because she was slapping me in the face (Be aware, that i'm a girl). And most people were watching, I think that count's me as a bully? But i've never said anything verbal or psychical since that day. (Unless were messing around, so yeah)

 

[Lauren]

My bullying drove me to bulimia. I've not told many people but I think it's horrid. From the age of 9-14 I made myself throw up so I didn't have to go to school. I then stopped eating, maybe cucumber or something here and there. I've been bullied my whole life for how I am and how I look.

 

[Midgetsc]

Personally, I've never been bullied, but I hate bullying and watching people get upset. Thus, I'm basically the school's bully police, and anyone and everyone has a friend. ^-^

 

[rubyy]

I've never been bullied and fingers crossed I never will but some of my friends have been bullied and I'm always the one who defends for them, when I see my friends cry it breaks my heart, sometimes I see people tease other people in my class, I get really angry and upset because I don't even see the point in bullying, it's just a way to get attention from other people, bullying is something teachers don't realise, they may realise but they don't take action. My friends told me they can't tell our school councillor because the bully will call them a snitch, grass etc. two of my bestest friends are both bisexuals, they had the courage to tell everyone on Facebook that they're going out, which I respect them for that, unfortunately some people don't. Bullying causes suicide, moving school, skiving lessons etc which is really bad, people's grades go down due to bullying in class and teachers failing to take action which to me is despicable.

Bullying comes in all type of shapes and sizes.

•Cyberbulling.
•Physical bulling.
•Verbal Bulling.

No matter what they can always be resolved.


Tell a teacher! Defending yourself isn't snitching or grassing up someone. So please don't be afraid.

Try taking defence classes, it'll protect you, make the bully scared or even make yourself cooler


Try to make friends with the bullys. Sounds weird right? It's possible, you could have a lot in common. Or make friends with the bullys friends. Nothing's impossible.

If you are a victim of bullying NEVER show that you're hurt, you're just giving the bullys what they want and they will carry on, if you ignore them they soon will get bored.
•Never bully back, this will make the bully feel like there's competition and they will go at all cost to "be the better bully"
•Just walk away, ignore and be happy, always have a smile on your face.
•be around a group of friends, bullys tend to pick on singler people, if you must be alone keep your head held high and be confident, bullys tend to target shy people.


Note-The bullying will stop, just stay strong.




Pm me if you need any advice.

 

[Elijo]

Here's a thing at my school, some people just don't realise that they're bullying. Sure, if you're being silly with friends and they know you're just being silly, that's not classified as bullying. However, if you're being silly (pushing, punching, calling them names jokingly etc) to a person who isn't your friend and takes it seriously, that's bullying. It may not sound like it to you but to the victim, it is.

On Friday, during Fitness, three girls decided it would be fun to mess with me by trying to push and tackle me. That is not, as I mentioned, a joke. As I said, it may seem like a joke to them, but towards me, it's past a joke. It's freaking bullying. Luckily, three of my guy friends saw it and one tried to stop it. The guys told the principal at lunch break and they set a meeting for me. I found it extremely kind of them to do so. After music, the three guys and I were waiting for the rest of the day for this meeting which didn't happen. During that time one of the guys (who is scottish and has only been at my school for eight weeks) mentioned how he has seen too much bullying occur to me already. They all also mention on how I don't tell anyone about this and just try to ignore it all.

 

[Caucas]

I went through a stage or bullying through secondary school, name calling, rumours made up about me and plenty of threats. Hardly had any friends

Im a emotional person as it is but I have fount its made me even more now, its left me paranoid about everything. Its left me so unconfident of myself and I often find myself sometimes annoying the ones close to me because ofbme being paranoid about silly things. When people look at me on the street I always think its because of the way I look or the way I dress.

I think the most important thing is to surround yourself with positive people, people/someone that wont bring you down, supports you. Luckily I have my amazing bestfriend/bf he knows everything about me. Its also nice to just have that person where you can talk to about anything, you feel soo much better once you talk about it and get it off your chest. My advise is to not keep it bottled up.

 

[XTheLancerX]

I haven't REALLY been bullied, but every once and awhile have mean things said about me. I am a weird person though, because I don't take offense, and it doesn't bother me. I have had SO MANY times where people have told me to "**** myself" and I laugh it off and sometimes laugh with them at myself. Also people have said "Go die in a hole" and I say "That's my favorite recreational activity!!!" and get them all confused xD

It does bother me though when kids are relentlessly bugged, because I know that I am a more... Rare person, where nothing said about me bothers me that much.

I am weird. ._.

 

[MyLifeIsCake]

I haven't REALLY been bullied, but every once and awhile have mean things said about me. I am a weird person though, because I don't take offense, and it doesn't bother me. I have had SO MANY times where people have told me to "**** myself" and I laugh it off and sometimes laugh with them at myself. Also people have said "Go die in a hole" and I say "That's my favorite recreational activity!!!" and get them all confused xD

It does bother me though when kids are relentlessly bugged, because I know that I am a more... Rare person, where nothing said about me bothers me that much.

I am weird. ._.

^^^ THis. This is basically how I am. Yes, people have said stuff about me, and even to me, but I haven't considered myself 'bullied' since 6th grade. In grade school, I was never picked on, but everyone knew me as 'that quiet girl'... I had friends in higher level grade than me, so in class, I never talked. It wasn't fun. I knew what people thought about me. In middle school, it got worse. We had more classes with people I didn't know, and I struggled to find friends. I think I cried every year until 7th grade. That's when I started to be more open, and find my friends, and I also stopped caring. Stopped caring about grades (which isn't great...) what people thought, whatever. Something just snapped inside me and I haven't showed 'emotions' after that. That part is kind of upsetting, its sad I can't even cry about anything anymore >n< meh.

 

[SecondSider]

I haven't REALLY been bullied, but every once and awhile have mean things said about me. I am a weird person though, because I don't take offense, and it doesn't bother me. I have had SO MANY times where people have told me to "**** myself" and I laugh it off and sometimes laugh with them at myself. Also people have said "Go die in a hole" and I say "That's my favorite recreational activity!!!" and get them all confused xD

It does bother me though when kids are relentlessly bugged, because I know that I am a more... Rare person, where nothing said about me bothers me that much.

I am weird. ._.

Ouch.... I've gone through the same troubles because of my love for movies as well as my autism..

 

[Midoriya]

^^^ THis. This is basically how I am. Yes, people have said stuff about me, and even to me, but I haven't considered myself 'bullied' since 6th grade. In grade school, I was never picked on, but everyone knew me as 'that quiet girl'... I had friends in higher level grade than me, so in class, I never talked. It wasn't fun. I knew what people thought about me. In middle school, it got worse. We had more classes with people I didn't know, and I struggled to find friends. I think I cried every year until 7th grade. That's when I started to be more open, and find my friends, and I also stopped caring. Stopped caring about grades (which isn't great...) what people thought, whatever. Something just snapped inside me and I haven't showed 'emotions' after that. That part is kind of upsetting, its sad I can't even cry about anything anymore >n< meh.

That's strange. I've been friends with someone before where they got so mad one time at their parents that they snapped and couldn't feel emotions anymore. They have been getting them back slowly though, you just have to give it time. Don't let it happen again though; it's not good for you.

 

[Yokie]

One thing that made me feel better after being bullied was payback. I'm not joking.

 

[ForestRabbit]

Bullying can happen to anybody-- all kinds of people have been bullied before, even towards pretty girls with healthy confidence or grown ups work places. Sometimes victims get caught up in bad luck that there are no ways to prevent it from happening in the first place. Life can be pretty random, there isn't much control to things like that.

All I can say is: if defending yourself isn't enough, don't be afraid to ask help from those who are trustworthy (teachers, staff, parents, authorities, etc.) !

 

[FiFi]

All I can say is: if defending yourself isn't enough, don't be afraid to ask help from those who are trustworthy (teachers, staff, parents, authorities, etc.) !

I totally agree. As embarrassing or shameful as it may feel at the time, it can help. Particularly, I think if you're being physically bullied at school where it's hard to avoid like I was. They can offer you some level of protection against getting physically hurt. Nothing helped when it happened to me. Eventually, I just left school after years of being miserable and tried to forget about it. Meh. It's easier now, I'm a totally different person now so I feel like I gained back the confidence I lost from being bullied. It's tenuous though. Sometimes, if I find myself in a difficult, confrontational situation at work, I have trouble standing up for myself.

 

[ForestRabbit]

I totally agree. As embarrassing or shameful as it may feel at the time, it can help. Particularly, I think if you're being physically bullied at school where it's hard to avoid like I was. They can offer you some level of protection against getting physically hurt. Nothing helped when it happened to me. Eventually, I just left school after years of being miserable and tried to forget about it. Meh. It's easier now, I'm a totally different person now so I feel like I gained back the confidence I lost from being bullied. It's tenuous though. Sometimes, if I find myself in a difficult, confrontational situation at work, I have trouble standing up for myself.

Wow, I'm sorry that happened to you, and I'm sorry about your work place-- I hope your supervisor/ boss are reliable enough for you to contact them.

I've been through situations similar to that, and I would simply document/ record whatever that has happened in my workplace. You can always ask your supervisor to view a surveillance video to check back what just happened. Sometimes it takes another person who is in power to stand up for yourself.

 

[Croconaw]

I used to get bullied a lot. I am in tenth grade now, and it just recently stopped. In fifth grade, I was always mocked because I stuttered. I had speech issues, and people kept talking like a robot so I would understand them. It greatly offended me. Back in seventh grade, I got an out of school suspension for three days for defending myself against a bully. I was called stupid in class and I told him to stop because he was being immature. The teacher suspended me for calling him immature. Also I had to go to court and I left with thirty days of community service cleaning up Philadelphia. I hated it. In eight grade, I got pushed inside a classroom and the students wouldn't let me out and they locked me inside. When the teacher came, he yelled at me for being inside a classroom when the teacher wasn't there. A few weeks later, my English teacher had to use the bathroom and she left her keys hanging on the door. One of the students unlocked the door while the teacher was in the restroom, threw the keys inside, and he quickly shut the door. He locked her keys inside the classroom! When the teacher came back from, she was angry that someone locked her keys inside the classroom because there was absolutely no way to get inside until the principal came to unlock the door. I was the one that got blamed for it. When the teacher asked who did it, everyone pointed to me instead of to the person that actually did it. I was pissed off. I got a detention for something I didn't even do. I came home crying every single day. I'm not even exaggerating.
Then I transferred school districts. This school is so much better and I don't think I was ever happy in school until now. My grades have improved and I've been taking more advanced classes since I've been able to focus more. I can't believe I didn't go to this new school in the first place, as I would be a better person today if I went there from the start. I have always heard that it gets better. That is completely false! Things don't get better unless you do something about it. I did something about it, and I transferred school districts. I'm glad I did, as I'm much happier with my life.

I just want to let the people here know that if you are getting bullied that you shouldn't care what others think. I did, and that was one of the biggest mistakes of my life! You will succeed in life and you will go far. I know that for a fact. Things happen for a reason. If I didn't get bullied, I wouldn't have transferred school districts. If I didn't transfer, I wouldn't have met my friends. I also have met a lot of my friends in my martial arts classes, and they're some of the best people I know. I'm sorry if anyone here is getting bullied. I know what it is like to get bullied. Those bullies aren't going anywhere in life. They think bullying makes them popular, but it doesn't. It makes them look immature, and they are immature!

 

[Leanne]

I know I have said that I was never bullied in this thread, but as as per the first part of my confession, there were two instances in which I actually was (sidenote: if you read all that read, make sure you read part 1 so you can see it all has a happy ending. )

(That said, I'm really sorry for lying v.v )

I won't ask anyone to read all that, so I will resume what it says here: I was in a car accident, lost my ability to walk, and I have been on a wheelchair ever since. I was in the hospital for a long time, and there were two boys who were older than me that really took the bullying too far.

I just want to let the people here know that if you are getting bullied that you shouldn't care what others think.

Nowadays, that's really easy for me, but when I was in the hospital, these boys bullied me physically. From hitting me on the face, to whispering nasty stuff on my ears, to tearing my short stories apart in pieces so tiny I could never recover them. What is worse I couldn't run away from them. I was scared by just seeing them, and I even lost some sleep at night because I thought they were going to break into my at night and do more cruel things to me. Everything they did was completely uncalled for, as prior to my accident I had never seen them before. I really hope whatever condition they had was making them do those kids of things. I don't want to know there are cruel people like them outside who live like that everyday.

I guess I'm trying to say that when bullying is verbal, it's easier to deal with it. If it's physical, you can usually run away, hide, or stand up to them. But there are cases in which you can't do much against physical bulling (and not even verbal - depends on how you deal with words). Bulling isn't always so easy to ignore. I stand by what I said earlier, that people are different and deal with these things differently. Now that I get along really well with my classmates, they don't let anyone do anything to me physically. And if someone says anything to me, I can deal with words really easily.

Bullying has to be dealt with. Both raising stronger people and raising nicer people. It's not a problem we should always have to fight, and not everyone will be lucky as they try to overcome it.

 

[Midoriya]

I used to get bullied a lot. I am in tenth grade now, and it just recently stopped. In fifth grade, I was always mocked because I stuttered. I had speech issues, and people kept talking like a robot so I would understand them. It greatly offended me. Back in seventh grade, I got an out of school suspension for three days for defending myself against a bully. I was called stupid in class and I told him to stop because he was being immature. The teacher suspended me for calling him immature. Also I had to go to court and I left with thirty days of community service cleaning up Philadelphia. I hated it. In eight grade, I got pushed inside a classroom and the students wouldn't let me out and they locked me inside. When the teacher came, he yelled at me for being inside a classroom when the teacher wasn't there. A few weeks later, my English teacher had to use the bathroom and she left her keys hanging on the door. One of the students unlocked the door while the teacher was in the restroom, threw the keys inside, and he quickly shut the door. He locked her keys inside the classroom! When the teacher came back from, she was angry that someone locked her keys inside the classroom because there was absolutely no way to get inside until the principal came to unlock the door. I was the one that got blamed for it. When the teacher asked who did it, everyone pointed to me instead of to the person that actually did it. I was pissed off. I got a detention for something I didn't even do. I came home crying every single day. I'm not even exaggerating.
Then I transferred school districts. This school is so much better and I don't think I was ever happy in school until now. My grades have improved and I've been taking more advanced classes since I've been able to focus more. I can't believe I didn't go to this new school in the first place, as I would be a better person today if I went there from the start. I have always heard that it gets better. That is completely false! Things don't get better unless you do something about it. I did something about it, and I transferred school districts. I'm glad I did, as I'm much happier with my life.

I just want to let the people here know that if you are getting bullied that you shouldn't care what others think. I did, and that was one of the biggest mistakes of my life! You will succeed in life and you will go far. I know that for a fact. Things happen for a reason. If I didn't get bullied, I wouldn't have transferred school districts. If I didn't transfer, I wouldn't have met my friends. I also have met a lot of my friends in my martial arts classes, and they're some of the best people I know. I'm sorry if anyone here is getting bullied. I know what it is like to get bullied. Those bullies aren't going anywhere in life. They think bullying makes them popular, but it doesn't. It makes them look immature, and they are immature!

I have a story similar to this. The same thing happened to me, I had speech issues, and I ended up transferring to private school where I like it way more. It's awful though when people make fun of you for being different. There's so many immature kids that think being different makes people weird. Everyone is different from each other in at least one way in the world though. Just because someone doesn't have an advantage you have, or someone doesn't have a feature you have, doesn't mean they're weird. Everyone is weird and immature in their own way. That doesn't mean they should get bullied for it though. Even political and religious leaders are human, and therefore are equal to all other humans. We have basically just created a world where we divide ourselves from each other. Sadly, there is no such thing as a perfect community, aka utopia. There will always be people who think they are better because they have an advantage or more power. Those people need a reality check though. No one is better than anyone. I know this is going to sound funny as an example, but a hobo living on the streets receives more sympathy than a rich, company owner that has it all. The hobo has the advantage of respect, and therefore both sides are equal. If anyone ever says they're better than someone else, they're an elitist, snobby, jerk that shouldn't be allowed to exist in this world. People don't respect you if you have money, fame, or power. Obama has been elected twice for the united states. Does that mean the majority voted for him? Yes. Does that mean the majority likes his ideas? Yes. Him and the president before him have created more debt than several major wars combined though. I'm not saying he's a bad person, or his ideas are bad, but honestly, some people need to have a reality check. They need to stop giving into this snobby garbage the world says they need to. Don't live, act, or do what most other people are doing. And always make sure you know about what you're supporting, causing, and providing. As Abraham Lincoln once said, a house divided itself cannot stand. And Martin Luther King said that everyone should be judged by how they act, not their race. It goes further than that though. He was exactly right about more than just fighting for his race. They should be judged how they act, not their race, income, popularity, fame, gender decisions, religious decisions, or individual decisions. If everyone was treated equally, we wouldn't live in the shallow, garbage world we live in right now. We would live in a world where everything is deep and meaningful. I seek not seven continents divided in more ways than one, I seek one world, united.

 

[Chromie]

Bullying can happen to anybody-- all kinds of people have been bullied before, even towards pretty girls with healthy confidence or grown ups work places. Sometimes victims get caught up in bad luck that there are no ways to prevent it from happening in the first place. Life can be pretty random, there isn't much control to things like that.

All I can say is: if defending yourself isn't enough, don't be afraid to ask help from those who are trustworthy (teachers, staff, parents, authorities, etc.) !

I don't want to sound like a **** but sometimes this just isn't enough. In my high school, several years ago, students had to do community service and I lucked out. I had to go to a Junior High School and basically be some assistant for the Dean. Some teachers just do not give a damn at all. I grew up in an area that going to your parents wasn't always an option. My mother was never around because she was a single parent raising three children. I just couldn't bring myself to bother her after a long day. Fortunately I was never bullied because well I don't but still being the Dean's assistant I would see so many reports of it. I didn't realize bullies now actually attacked girls in such horrible ways. I'm talking about a group of boys after school. I had to do something which is pretty much me walking the girl home and whatever. We all know how bullies are they prey on the weak.

 

[irisubunny]

i've been bullied before. i got bullied in first and through out second grade. seems like a pretty young grade to be bullied in, huh? thing is i was only targeted on by one person who constantly made fun of me and talked about me. ever since third grade hit, he never bullied me ever again and still doesn't. it didn't effect me to such a point where i switched schools or anything back then, and i'm still going. it's kind of nice though, he's not in any of my classes anymore, haha. but really i'm the kind silent girl that always stays in the back of the class to herself and such, so nobody really bothers me.

 

[Ricardo]

I've been bullied in 6th, 7th, and 8th grade. In 6th grade, this punk would call me names, hit from time to time, and take away my glasses. In jr high, I went to probably the worst school in the city. Fights everyday and the aroma of weed. People would make fun of me and this one guy in the beginning of the year in history, he punched me in the back every second of class. My back would be in pain and I almost cried after. Thank God that I was put in advanced placement classes afterwards because the kids there were nicer than the kids in regular classes..

I dont know if this counts as bullying, but in first grade my substitute teacher yelled at me "mind your own business, b###h." My friend stapled his finger and I called the substitute over and she says that! Didn't know at the time what that word meant, but ever since I became very shy and very quiet.