Bullying - Discussion

[broadwaythecat]

My opinion, if your bully isn't that bad, grow a back bone and get over it. If your bully really is that bad, you can either tell an adult or get into verbal or physical fights with the bully. (The mistake I made, I would always get into verbal fights with him and almost got into a fistfight.)

 

[BellGreen]

My opinion, if your bully isn't that bad, grow a back bone and get over it. If your bully really is that bad, you can either tell an adult or get into verbal or physical fights with the bully. (The mistake I made, I would always get into verbal fights with him and almost got into a fistfight.)

I wouldn't get into physical fights though XD I would make jokes about it.

 

[Celestefey]

My opinion, if your bully isn't that bad, grow a back bone and get over it. If your bully really is that bad, you can either tell an adult or get into verbal or physical fights with the bully. (The mistake I made, I would always get into verbal fights with him and almost got into a fistfight.)

I agree that if people are just making small comments and picking on you over tiny things like teasing you, that you should just ignore it and laugh along with it. It isn't PROPER bullying but... At the same time, I know that people could be teasing you over things you can't help... Like, oh god, I dunno, maybe your hair colour? I was kinda teased for being blonde a little while ago because I was "dumb" apparently, well mainly in maths since I was never good at that, and just the more they picked on me over it, the more... Annoyed I got about it? Sure it's better to just laugh about it and shrug it off, but sometimes if it's over something you can't help, then ultimately you have to stick up for yourself. Although I can hardly say getting in any kind of argument or fight is good though. I've never really had a fight, besides an argument in which the girl started crying just to get sympathy from others, but eh, I dunno, I wouldn't ever want to just inflict a fight or anything because I don't want to end up picking on the wrong person. I'm not very strong after all! But heck, if someone started trying to hit me, then I would try and defend myself I guess? ;; Like the best thing to do is to just block it out. Defend both mentally and physically if you have to, and then it's like you haven't done anything wrong if anyone finds out. Most people often say retaliating is good and then the bully gets a taste of their own medicine, but in all honesty I don't think it's always advisable. It's hard to just... Ignore bullies though but really that's the only thing you can do. I somehow managed to do it eventually but... I guess it's just like now if they say horrible things I don't care, because they're the awful human beings themselves, not me. Sure... Sometimes when people are really horrible to me, it hurts but... Well, what else can you do? If you show them that it annoys you they'll do it even more. ._. that's what i've learned.

 

[Midoriya]

At my middle school, I was a black belt (and I'm higher than that now) and almost six feet tall (I'm 6 foot one inch now). Whenever I saw someone small like a 6th grader getting bullied by, say, an 8th grader I would walk up to the bully and stare them in the eye. None of the times did they even try to fight me, because they knew what I was capable of. They just ran away, so I never had to get in a fight. But if some 300 pound fat bully kid was bullying a really small kid, and he proceeded to punch me, then I would use joint manipulation to throw him against the locker. I think it's funny that a lot of big, mean guys think they can overpower me with their weight, but I can throw someone twice my size. I practice Youn Wha Ryu (a combination of all martial arts). On the other hand though, I'm really sensitive and I'm a gentle giant, so I try to use my words as much as possible to avoid a fight. Online though, there's nothing I can do, so people easily get away with cyber-bullying, and then proceed to cyber bully me. That's why I always try to help others, so their life isn't as bad as mine. Bullies really have no right to pick on someone else just because the bully has a crappy life But, that's just my opinion.

 

[chillv]

I have been bullied and cyberbullied before. Both of them are very bad to experience and I wish bullying period will die off.

 

[Nicole.]

At my middle school, I was a black belt (and I'm higher than that now) and almost six feet tall (I'm 6 foot one inch now). Whenever I saw someone small like a 6th grader getting bullied by, say, an 8th grader I would walk up to the bully and stare them in the eye. None of the times did they even try to fight me, because they knew what I was capable of. They just ran away, so I never had to get in a fight. But if some 300 pound fat bully kid was bullying a really small kid, and he proceeded to punch me, then I would use joint manipulation to throw him against the locker. I think it's funny that a lot of big, mean guys think they can overpower me with their weight, but I can throw someone twice my size. I practice Youn Wha Ryu (a combination of all martial arts). On the other hand though, I'm really sensitive and I'm a gentle giant, so I try to use my words as much as possible to avoid a fight. Online though, there's nothing I can do, so people easily get away with cyber-bullying, and then proceed to cyber bully me. That's why I always try to help others, so their life isn't as bad as mine. Bullies really have no right to pick on someone else just because the bully has a crappy life But, that's just my opinion.

I actually agree with this. I find it more difficult to defend myself on the internet. Physical bullying isn't much of a problem for me because I can just knock them off my shoulder right away, where as cyber-bullying...well...I can't really defend myself without help.

 

[Midoriya]

I actually agree with this. I find it more difficult to defend myself on the internet. Physical bullying isn't much of a problem for me because I can just knock them off my shoulder right away, where as cyber-bullying...well...I can't really defend myself without help.

This is exactly why we all need to pitch in and help each other out when on the internet. If everyone helped just a little, the internet would be a better place. But it's hard to change something that people have already messed up, so I don't think it will ever be completely safe.

 

[SecondSider]

This is exactly why we all need to pitch in and help each other out when on the internet. If everyone helped just a little, the internet would be a better place. But it's hard to change something that people have already messed up, so I don't think it will ever be completely safe.

Like those trolls online, like you-know-who, ACE? We really need to make the internet safer for people everywhere.

 

[Riesz]

I was bullied as a kid by schoolmates (isn't everyone?) but overall it didn't affect me much. I've always been a unique person with my own sense of style and own hobbies and don't really care if anyone approves of the clothing I like or activities I like. Accept me and be my friend for who I am or don't and move on with your life!

My brother is 7 years older than me and always picked on me as a kid. Now that we're both adults he still doesn't really know how to treat me maturely. It's kinda sad, really.

If someone is having trouble with bullies just keep in mind they are picking on you to compensate for something missing in their own life. Try to develop an attitude where you don't care or give any thought to people who want to behave negative toward you. Only make room for people who are kind, supportive, and contribute positive qualities to your life. You'll be happier in the long run without being around mean people!

 

[HULK G]

I've been Bullied back when I was in my adolescent years. Not by school peers, but by low life street thugs roaming around the school vicinity. I've got no idea why they started targeting me. I think they wanted me part of their gang. I remember saying to someone that, "If I wanted to be in a gang I'll be in a wealthy and more established corporate." I'm sure they got ticked when they heard that. The next day is the day I'll never forget and forgive. I was walking home from school when suddenly I was surrounded by 6 street thugs. One hit me from behind, but it didn't get me down. I was still up but dazed. More attacked me from behind but I was still up.

Finally they decided to push all their weight against me and started pummeling me to the ground. Finally, I got mad and I decided to fight back against all the odds 6 vs. 1. I knew it was helpless, I was 13 years old and I'm going up against low life's that were so much older than me. I lifted two of them on my back and threw them on the ground punch one right in the face, but my power has diminished from the beating I sustained, it wasn't effective. The other 2 jumped me from behind that got me down on the ground permanently. I stayed on the ground still fighting but to no avail. The beating continued for a couple more minutes until someone threaten to call the police. They all ran from the scene. I was left battered and bruised face bloodied. I didn't passed out I was wide awake. I lift myself off the ground and went home.

 

[Midoriya]

I've been Bullied back when I was in my adolescent years. Not by school peers, but by low life street thugs roaming around the school vicinity. I've got no idea why they started targeting me. I think they wanted me part of their gang. I remember saying to someone that, "If I wanted to be in a gang I'll be in a wealthy and more established corporate." I'm sure they got ticked when they heard that. The next day is the day I'll never forget and forgive. I was walking home from school when suddenly I was surrounded by 6 street thugs. One hit me from behind, but it didn't get me down. I was still up but dazed. More attacked me from behind but I was still up.

Finally they decided to push all their weight against me and started pummeling me to the ground. Finally, I got mad and I decided to fight back against all the odds 6 vs. 1. I knew it was helpless, I was 13 years old and I'm going up against low life's that were so much older than me. I lifted two of them on my back and threw them on the ground punch one right in the face, but my power has diminished from the beating I sustained, it wasn't effective. The other 2 jumped me from behind that got me down on the ground permanently. I stayed on the ground still fighting but to no avail. The beating continued for a couple more minutes until someone threaten to call the police. They all ran from the scene. I was left battered and bruised face bloodied. I didn't passed out I was wide awake. I lift myself off the ground and went home.

Oh wow, it's good you're okay. You fought back too which proves you're not going to sit there and take it. I've been doing karate for six years (practicing youn wha ryu, a combination of all martial arts). If I was there I would have went up to them and punched them. Or I could just grab them by their thumbs one at a time, and throw them into each other with joint manipulation. I think someone like you would benefit from trying Karate (if you haven't already). Whenever you're in a situation like that, you can even the odds by lining them up. That way only the one in front can attack you.


EDIT: The most important thing to remember though is to never attack unless you're attacked first. Otherwise you become one of them. You let them attack first which proves you're the more honorable fighter.

 

[HULK G]

Oh wow, it's good you're okay. You fought back too which proves you're not going to sit there and take it. I've been doing karate for six years (practicing youn wha ryu, a combination of all martial arts). If I was there I would have went up to them and punched them. Or I could just grab them by their thumbs one at a time, and throw them into each other with joint manipulation. I think someone like you would benefit from trying Karate (if you haven't already). Whenever you're in a situation like that, you can even the odds by lining them up. That way only the one in front can attack you.


EDIT: The most important thing to remember though is to never attack unless you're attacked first. Otherwise you become one of them. You let them attack first which proves you're the more honorable fighter.

I've been wanting to try something new without reducing my muscle gains. I'm very fast with my legs it's why I play soccer. I'll definitely try out a martial arts program that involves lots of kicking.

 

[StarMayor]

I didn't really have the best time in school, at all. I faced my own experiences with bullying (due to being the weird one and therefore, deserving it apparently.) The teachers were of no help to me either when I asked. I know it probably wasn't as bad as some of the other stories I've seen on here and elsewhere, but it still hurts to think about now.

I won't go into details, but it has left me afraid of leaving the house by myself (I can, but I really don't like it and if where I'm going allows it, I will often take the dog with me as a comfort blanket.) I now have a complex about accidentally looking people in the face when walking in the street (especially with teenagers, younger, or just that general age group) because as a tactic, whenever I looked at them, the bullies would accuse me of staring at them and 'giving them evils.' Walking past a group of kids or teenagers (especially if they're loud) sets the alarm bells off. I still have nightmares about it as silly as that sounds. I also still wonder, which is the worst part, if I really did deserve it.

 

[Celestefey]

I didn't really have the best time in school, at all. I faced my own experiences with bullying (due to being the weird one and therefore, deserving it apparently.) The teachers were of no help to me either when I asked. I know it probably wasn't as bad as some of the other stories I've seen on here and elsewhere, but it still hurts to think about now.

I won't go into details, but it has left me afraid of leaving the house by myself (I can, but I really don't like it and if where I'm going allows it, I will often take the dog with me as a comfort blanket.) I now have a complex about accidentally looking people in the face when walking in the street (especially with teenagers, younger, or just that general age group) because as a tactic, whenever I looked at them, the bullies would accuse me of staring at them and 'giving them evils.' Walking past a group of kids or teenagers (especially if they're loud) sets the alarm bells off. I still have nightmares about it as silly as that sounds. I also still wonder, which is the worst part, if I really did deserve it.

Aww... I'm really sorry about that. D: But no, I can completely understand where you're coming from. There is never a story worse than another... I mean sure, people may have to endure worse things but the pain you still feel from being bullied shouldn't be shrugged off just because maybe the damage bullies done isn't as bad as what other bullies have done to other people, but it still is upsetting and... Well, sometimes it can really damage how you go about your life too, like you said. However, I can empathize with you and I'm not sure how to help much, other than don't feel bad about it. I am sure that LOADS of other people know how you feel (including myself) and the best thing we could do is all try our hardest to overcome these "fears" we now have together (sighs, this sounds really cheesy) and to not let bullies damage our lives anymore. At the end of the day who gives a damn about them. They're gonna have the worse life most likely, if they feel like saying things like that to people is appropriate. They may end up with no one in the end, not a single friend or person to stick by them.

But yeah, I dunno, since everyone's telling their stories, I guess I could share my experience of being bullied. I dunno, I was never really bullied in primary school. I was actually a fairly loud, fun, and happy member of the class. I usually tried to contribute to lessons and everything and I would talk to a lot of people and would be into doing any drama involved activities (often trying to get the main parts but failing miserably since I later learned I couldn't act) and wanted to be in talent shows, etc. Well when I left primary school, things started to change. In year 7, I don't know what happened, but the old me just completely disappeared. I... Actually went "back into my shell" and became incredibly shy and introverted, rather than coming out of my shell. It sucked so much. Going into drama was awful, since I always wanted to be in plays when I was younger, but no, I was never loud enough, never good enough, never smart enough. Whenever I said anything people said I was too immature, too stupid to understand, too annoying. People began to lie to me, betray me, say nasty things and then I think that's when I learned how cruel people could be. By year 8 I had completely changed. I was struggling to find friends to fit in with. Year 9, was... Awful. The worst year, bullying wise. Since everyone was growing up, and some people evidently weren't, there were some obvious "age-differences" in the class. And of course now that we were going up in the school years people got a lot more pretentious and cocky... So of course, I got landed in a class full of idiots. However, 4 boys in particular found it absolutely HILARIOUS to pick on me, because I was quiet, shy, nervous and always stuck with the same friend for everything, since i felt intimidated by some people in my class. They had LITERALLY the most useless insults ever though, all they did was call me ugly or sometimes they'd throw things at me. But I didn't know how to deal with it. Sighs, it really upsets me i got like that though. The fact that such pathetic boys managed to damage my confidence so greatly... In fact the school did. I am no longer the confident, fun-loving, happy girl I used to be who wasn't afraid to do things like talk in front of the class. Nowadays I'm too shy to even do things like go out by myself, talk to other people, I can't even say things like "Oh I look good today!" or anything good about myself or in fact many things. So now I'm in year 11... Two years later I'm still feeling awful. I've never really found any friendship group to fit in. People usually just lie to me, hurt me or ignore me so it's like I'm not even there. It's so painful. Even the people I thought I could call best friends couldn't accept me for who I am and started making "jokes" that actually were really harsh to me and made me feel like crap, so when I was actually honest to them all they said was "awww it's okay Lucy, glad you were honest", and not a single apology. ._. Sighs. So yeah here's me sitting alone just minding my own business. Only 123 school days to go til the end of year 11. I'm kinda looking forward to it. After that I plan to move schools for sixth form. The main reason is that the school I'm at now doesn't offer some of the subjects I wanna do. But... I think the fact that I've just mainly had bad memories at my current school is just another small reason that's trying to push me away and telling me to move on.

Yeah. I really do hate my school. ;; That turned out to be a huge rant but I guess it was good getting it out of my system again.

 

[broadwaythecat]

Aww... I'm really sorry about that. D: But no, I can completely understand where you're coming from. There is never a story worse than another... I mean sure, people may have to endure worse things but the pain you still feel from being bullied shouldn't be shrugged off just because maybe the damage bullies done isn't as bad as what other bullies have done to other people, but it still is upsetting and... Well, sometimes it can really damage how you go about your life too, like you said. However, I can empathize with you and I'm not sure how to help much, other than don't feel bad about it. I am sure that LOADS of other people know how you feel (including myself) and the best thing we could do is all try our hardest to overcome these "fears" we now have together (sighs, this sounds really cheesy) and to not let bullies damage our lives anymore. At the end of the day who gives a damn about them. They're gonna have the worse life most likely, if they feel like saying things like that to people is appropriate. They may end up with no one in the end, not a single friend or person to stick by them.

But yeah, I dunno, since everyone's telling their stories, I guess I could share my experience of being bullied. I dunno, I was never really bullied in primary school. I was actually a fairly loud, fun, and happy member of the class. I usually tried to contribute to lessons and everything and I would talk to a lot of people and would be into doing any drama involved activities (often trying to get the main parts but failing miserably since I later learned I couldn't act) and wanted to be in talent shows, etc. Well when I left primary school, things started to change. In year 7, I don't know what happened, but the old me just completely disappeared. I... Actually went "back into my shell" and became incredibly shy and introverted, rather than coming out of my shell. It sucked so much. Going into drama was awful, since I always wanted to be in plays when I was younger, but no, I was never loud enough, never good enough, never smart enough. Whenever I said anything people said I was too immature, too stupid to understand, too annoying. People began to lie to me, betray me, say nasty things and then I think that's when I learned how cruel people could be. By year 8 I had completely changed. I was struggling to find friends to fit in with. Year 9, was... Awful. The worst year, bullying wise. Since everyone was growing up, and some people evidently weren't, there were some obvious "age-differences" in the class. And of course now that we were going up in the school years people got a lot more pretentious and cocky... So of course, I got landed in a class full of idiots. However, 4 boys in particular found it absolutely HILARIOUS to pick on me, because I was quiet, shy, nervous and always stuck with the same friend for everything, since i felt intimidated by some people in my class. They had LITERALLY the most useless insults ever though, all they did was call me ugly or sometimes they'd throw things at me. But I didn't know how to deal with it. Sighs, it really upsets me i got like that though. The fact that such pathetic boys managed to damage my confidence so greatly... In fact the school did. I am no longer the confident, fun-loving, happy girl I used to be who wasn't afraid to do things like talk in front of the class. Nowadays I'm too shy to even do things like go out by myself, talk to other people, I can't even say things like "Oh I look good today!" or anything good about myself or in fact many things. So now I'm in year 11... Two years later I'm still feeling awful. I've never really found any friendship group to fit in. People usually just lie to me, hurt me or ignore me so it's like I'm not even there. It's so painful. Even the people I thought I could call best friends couldn't accept me for who I am and started making "jokes" that actually were really harsh to me and made me feel like crap, so when I was actually honest to them all they said was "awww it's okay Lucy, glad you were honest", and not a single apology. ._. Sighs. So yeah here's me sitting alone just minding my own business. Only 123 school days to go til the end of year 11. I'm kinda looking forward to it. After that I plan to move schools for sixth form. The main reason is that the school I'm at now doesn't offer some of the subjects I wanna do. But... I think the fact that I've just mainly had bad memories at my current school is just another small reason that's trying to push me away and telling me to move on.

Yeah. I really do hate my school. ;; That turned out to be a huge rant but I guess it was good getting it out of my system again.

That really sucks

 

[SecondSider]

I didn't really have the best time in school, at all. I faced my own experiences with bullying (due to being the weird one and therefore, deserving it apparently.) The teachers were of no help to me either when I asked. I know it probably wasn't as bad as some of the other stories I've seen on here and elsewhere, but it still hurts to think about now.

I won't go into details, but it has left me afraid of leaving the house by myself (I can, but I really don't like it and if where I'm going allows it, I will often take the dog with me as a comfort blanket.) I now have a complex about accidentally looking people in the face when walking in the street (especially with teenagers, younger, or just that general age group) because as a tactic, whenever I looked at them, the bullies would accuse me of staring at them and 'giving them evils.' Walking past a group of kids or teenagers (especially if they're loud) sets the alarm bells off. I still have nightmares about it as silly as that sounds. I also still wonder, which is the worst part, if I really did deserve it.

Oh god, that sounds awful...

 

[Celestefey]

That really sucks

Yeah it does. So if I had any advice to someone having a hard time with bullying at the moment, please please, just find a way to deal with it effectively. I know ignoring it isn't always helpful but the best way is to make it seem like you don't care. You shouldn't care! Why should you care about what some lowlife thinks of you now?! Bullies are awful, insecure people themselves you know and they do honestly pick on others just to make themselves feel better. That's probably why those boys called me ugly, I mean they were hardly Prince Charmings or anything like that. They were really the ugly ones, inside and out! Just really, when you realize that, just shrug it off, and if they say things like that to you, you could just laugh and say "Oh okay" kinda thing, and just act like it really doesn't bother you. Block it out. Ignore them. It... Actually works. I did do that to one girl before when she was blatantly being such an ******* to me, and she eventually got the message and left me alone. It's better than just simply "ignoring" it. If you block it out and just shrug it off and show them you don't care, they'll get it soon enough, so really they're embarrassing themselves. :3 So yeah.. Just... As long as you find a way to cope with it, then you're fine. The damage bullying has done to me and probably so many other people out there is awful. ;_; I just hope that more people find ways to overcome it though.

 

[Midoriya]

Aww... I'm really sorry about that. D: But no, I can completely understand where you're coming from. There is never a story worse than another... I mean sure, people may have to endure worse things but the pain you still feel from being bullied shouldn't be shrugged off just because maybe the damage bullies done isn't as bad as what other bullies have done to other people, but it still is upsetting and... Well, sometimes it can really damage how you go about your life too, like you said. However, I can empathize with you and I'm not sure how to help much, other than don't feel bad about it. I am sure that LOADS of other people know how you feel (including myself) and the best thing we could do is all try our hardest to overcome these "fears" we now have together (sighs, this sounds really cheesy) and to not let bullies damage our lives anymore. At the end of the day who gives a damn about them. They're gonna have the worse life most likely, if they feel like saying things like that to people is appropriate. They may end up with no one in the end, not a single friend or person to stick by them.

But yeah, I dunno, since everyone's telling their stories, I guess I could share my experience of being bullied. I dunno, I was never really bullied in primary school. I was actually a fairly loud, fun, and happy member of the class. I usually tried to contribute to lessons and everything and I would talk to a lot of people and would be into doing any drama involved activities (often trying to get the main parts but failing miserably since I later learned I couldn't act) and wanted to be in talent shows, etc. Well when I left primary school, things started to change. In year 7, I don't know what happened, but the old me just completely disappeared. I... Actually went "back into my shell" and became incredibly shy and introverted, rather than coming out of my shell. It sucked so much. Going into drama was awful, since I always wanted to be in plays when I was younger, but no, I was never loud enough, never good enough, never smart enough. Whenever I said anything people said I was too immature, too stupid to understand, too annoying. People began to lie to me, betray me, say nasty things and then I think that's when I learned how cruel people could be. By year 8 I had completely changed. I was struggling to find friends to fit in with. Year 9, was... Awful. The worst year, bullying wise. Since everyone was growing up, and some people evidently weren't, there were some obvious "age-differences" in the class. And of course now that we were going up in the school years people got a lot more pretentious and cocky... So of course, I got landed in a class full of idiots. However, 4 boys in particular found it absolutely HILARIOUS to pick on me, because I was quiet, shy, nervous and always stuck with the same friend for everything, since i felt intimidated by some people in my class. They had LITERALLY the most useless insults ever though, all they did was call me ugly or sometimes they'd throw things at me. But I didn't know how to deal with it. Sighs, it really upsets me i got like that though. The fact that such pathetic boys managed to damage my confidence so greatly... In fact the school did. I am no longer the confident, fun-loving, happy girl I used to be who wasn't afraid to do things like talk in front of the class. Nowadays I'm too shy to even do things like go out by myself, talk to other people, I can't even say things like "Oh I look good today!" or anything good about myself or in fact many things. So now I'm in year 11... Two years later I'm still feeling awful. I've never really found any friendship group to fit in. People usually just lie to me, hurt me or ignore me so it's like I'm not even there. It's so painful. Even the people I thought I could call best friends couldn't accept me for who I am and started making "jokes" that actually were really harsh to me and made me feel like crap, so when I was actually honest to them all they said was "awww it's okay Lucy, glad you were honest", and not a single apology. ._. Sighs. So yeah here's me sitting alone just minding my own business. Only 123 school days to go til the end of year 11. I'm kinda looking forward to it. After that I plan to move schools for sixth form. The main reason is that the school I'm at now doesn't offer some of the subjects I wanna do. But... I think the fact that I've just mainly had bad memories at my current school is just another small reason that's trying to push me away and telling me to move on.

Yeah. I really do hate my school. ;; That turned out to be a huge rant but I guess it was good getting it out of my system again.

That's horrible. I would have told those guys to back off if I was there. That's true though, in that bullies only bully other people to try to better their crappy lives. In the end though, it only results in misery for both sides. I really don't see the point in picking on someone because they're shy. If it's maybe because you don't say much, you should have told them to get lost. That would probably make them respect you a little more. My mentor always says to stand up for yourself, because most of the time people won't be there to help. They told me to go up to them real slowly, look them in a face, and ask them if they have a problem with me. I think that would help a lot. It's still really bad that there's people like that. There's always going to be bad days and good days though. The law of probability says that it will get better for you.

 

[rudythecat]

I have been a victim of bullying.Honestly.At first, it was all about my height(i do sorta lack in height) people used to call me things like Midget or Short*ss, but I ognored them.After a while it was about my grades, and people used to call me the ever so popular 'nerd',and other names along those lines.I was tripped,pushed,and kicked,until eventually I couldn't take it and gave them a piece of my mind. I remember saying: I don't care what you say, or what you do,or what you think, all that matters is that i'm me and i'm happy with it, and if you're not happy with it, well so be it.That particular boy just stared at me in awe.The bullying stopped.

I still witnessed it though,like once in eighth grade, where I saw a group of fellow 8th graders picking on a new 6th grader and telling him that he's a nobody, and that he doesn't belong in middle school.They criticised his clothes, his hair, and his overall look.The guys eventually stopped and left, they boy being left alone and looking sad. That day just happened to be Dogdeball day at PE, and my team needed another player, and I let him join.The others just snickered and said that he would suck, but after a few rounds, he was actually pretty good.

Another incident was when I was in the cafeteria, sitting and eating lunch with my friends,when I saw a girl, alone on the table, sadly eating her lunch,overlooking everyone eating their lunches,chatting,and laughing.I felt bad, and left my friends and plopped down right next to the girl.I said:Hey,what's your name, what school did you come from...etc.I know I made the right choice that day because, a week later,she sat at the same spot, but instead, with four friends. I looked at her,and she looked at me, and we both smiled.


A Message to all bullies: Don't make others feel down, because, eventually, karma WILL come back at you, and you won't be prepared.Bullying is basically the worst possible thing you could do to someone, you never know if they could be homeless,or abused, or are just trying to get through the day. JUST DON'T DO IT!

A Message to victims: Don't let those people put you down, because chances are, they're just insecure about themselves, and want to be feel good by making others feel bad.Ignore them! If the situation gets out of hand, consult an adult, therapist, or whoever you can. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND FIGHT AGAINST THE BULLYING!

Thankyou all, thanks for reading. Have a nice day.

- - - Post Merge - - -

I have been a victim of bullying.Honestly.At first, it was all about my height(i do sorta lack in height) people used to call me things like Midget or Short*ss, but I ognored them.After a while it was about my grades, and people used to call me the ever so popular 'nerd',and other names along those lines.I was tripped,pushed,and kicked,until eventually I couldn't take it and gave them a piece of my mind. I remember saying: I don't care what you say, or what you do,or what you think, all that matters is that i'm me and i'm happy with it, and if you're not happy with it, well so be it.That particular boy just stared at me in awe.The bullying stopped.

I still witnessed it though,like once in eighth grade, where I saw a group of fellow 8th graders picking on a new 6th grader and telling him that he's a nobody, and that he doesn't belong in middle school.They criticised his clothes, his hair, and his overall look.The guys eventually stopped and left, they boy being left alone and looking sad. That day just happened to be Dogdeball day at PE, and my team needed another player, and I let him join.The others just snickered and said that he would suck, but after a few rounds, he was actually pretty good.

Another incident was when I was in the cafeteria, sitting and eating lunch with my friends,when I saw a girl, alone on the table, sadly eating her lunch,overlooking everyone eating their lunches,chatting,and laughing.I felt bad, and left my friends and plopped down right next to the girl.I said:Hey,what's your name, what school did you come from...etc.I know I made the right choice that day because, a week later,she sat at the same spot, but instead, with four friends. I looked at her,and she looked at me, and we both smiled.


A Message to all bullies: Don't make others feel down, because, eventually, karma WILL come back at you, and you won't be prepared.Bullying is basically the worst possible thing you could do to someone, you never know if they could be homeless,or abused, or are just trying to get through the day. JUST DON'T DO IT!

A Message to victims: Don't let those people put you down, because chances are, they're just insecure about themselves, and want to be feel good by making others feel bad.Ignore them! If the situation gets out of hand, consult an adult, therapist, or whoever you can. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND FIGHT AGAINST THE BULLYING!

Thankyou all, thanks for reading. Have a nice day.

 

[ben_nyc]

I'm no longer the confident, fun-loving, happy girl I used to be who wasn't afraid to do things like talk in front of the class. Nowadays I'm too shy to even do things like go out by myself, talk to other people, I can't even say things like "Oh I look good today!" or anything good about myself or in fact many things.

Lucy, you mentioned being part of plays. I know this isn't your only interest. Tons of people are shy, but on the things you enjoy doing- you really need to let your creativity, your inner voice, out. If you don't communicate & thoroughly express your abilities & eagerness to learn & let go the will to display your efforts to yourself & to your fellow pupils... then it's an awful waste wouldn't you agree? ^o^

As you build on these hobbies, take whatever failures as lessons & to any successes or achievements as a subtle reminder that you have talent. Positive reactions will fortify your happiness & in this regard, use it to quell your shyness. One day Lucy, some lucky guy is going to present you a classy bouquet & the last thing you should be doing is keeping silent & wondering:

Spoiler

Hrm... not quite hybrids, but it's a start.

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Best of luck then, & stay strong & focused!