Bullying - Discussion
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I've been bullied a lot, especially in middle school.
When I was in the 3rd-7th grade, I lived in a small, predominantly white town in Michigan. As one of the only two Filipino kids in school, I always stood out. Kids would mock me, sarcastically asking me if I was "Chinese or Mexican". It wasn't only kids, adults were one of the prime offenders. Growing up in that situation, I was very shy. I would barely talk, unless spoken to and I had a hard time around strangers. I specifically remember this indecent when I was in a shopping market with my mom, this kid tired to talk to me. Since I was so shy, I just looked at her, saying nothing. Her mom, then pulled her away saying, "Honey, I don't think they speak English". Yeah, I cried a lot in those times.
Thankfully, I moved to a more culturally diverse town before I reached the 8th grade. In that town I felt more safe to be myself. In that town I grew into being proud of my heritage and who I am in general. I guess the moral of my story is, while things may seem tough, it will get better in due time. Just try to keep a positive outlook on things and offer help and empathy to those to might need it.
When I was in the 3rd-7th grade, I lived in a small, predominantly white town in Michigan. As one of the only two Filipino kids in school, I always stood out. Kids would mock me, sarcastically asking me if I was "Chinese or Mexican". It wasn't only kids, adults were one of the prime offenders. Growing up in that situation, I was very shy. I would barely talk, unless spoken to and I had a hard time around strangers. I specifically remember this indecent when I was in a shopping market with my mom, this kid tired to talk to me. Since I was so shy, I just looked at her, saying nothing. Her mom, then pulled her away saying, "Honey, I don't think they speak English". Yeah, I cried a lot in those times.
Thankfully, I moved to a more culturally diverse town before I reached the 8th grade. In that town I felt more safe to be myself. In that town I grew into being proud of my heritage and who I am in general. I guess the moral of my story is, while things may seem tough, it will get better in due time. Just try to keep a positive outlook on things and offer help and empathy to those to might need it.
Been bullied since Grade 5 till now (3rd Year HS).
I tried cyber bullying a mother and her mom talk each other about it, she gave the list of people and the messages in facebook my mom went to the disciplinary office about it and then they been called and they want to talk to them and their parents and so they didn't do it again. but now, I'm sure they are hiding something from my back to be honest they are whores and s**t I do have friends but my friends don't like them because they are wanna be popular, they slash their arms if they have problems, they are damn insecure and etc. I'm not welcome to join in their groups and such. And the teacher said I have to "befriend them" seriouly befriend even how many times I tried NOTHING happen so yeah sad life but on a bright side I have real life friends who accept me who I'am and me and them have similar in common. But I have a lot friends in net playing games satisfys me and made my day I do ignore people =-=
I don't like my school, just saying and to be honest even I'm graduated from THAT SCHOOL I'am not proud to be graduated because my batch... they are so sick. They made anti-bullying campain still nothing happen zzz
ermmm I'm very shy in school and I don;t open up with oher people ONLY IN SCHOOL
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I tried cyber bullying a mother and her mom talk each other about it, she gave the list of people and the messages in facebook my mom went to the disciplinary office about it and then they been called and they want to talk to them and their parents and so they didn't do it again. but now, I'm sure they are hiding something from my back to be honest they are whores and s**t I do have friends but my friends don't like them because they are wanna be popular, they slash their arms if they have problems, they are damn insecure and etc. I'm not welcome to join in their groups and such. And the teacher said I have to "befriend them" seriouly befriend even how many times I tried NOTHING happen so yeah sad life but on a bright side I have real life friends who accept me who I'am and me and them have similar in common. But I have a lot friends in net playing games satisfys me and made my day I do ignore people =-=
I don't like my school, just saying and to be honest even I'm graduated from THAT SCHOOL I'am not proud to be graduated because my batch... they are so sick. They made anti-bullying campain still nothing happen zzz
ermmm I'm very shy in school and I don;t open up with oher people ONLY IN SCHOOL
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jmeleigh23
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I was bullied only a little bit, mostly in high school and mostly online. Had some rumors started about me and that was no fun. I hate bullying. I organized an assembly at school about anti-bullying and we ended up doing it at a few more schools. It just sucks because so many other teens will agree with the anti-bullying stuff for like say, a week, then they hop right back into it. I don't think a lot of people notice that what they're doing is bullying..My sister got it really bad from grade 6 (she came out as bi then) all the way until probably grade 11 or so. She's not bullied anymore but it's left a huge impact on her and it's messed her up for life. Needless to say, bullying ****ing sucks.
omg
you are obviously taking what i said the wrong way
ok if you like mlp and you don't care what other people have to say about you and can handle it, then good on you
but if bullies are literally ruining your life over something small like that, then i dont see why you just wouldnt wear the mlp stuff???
i certainly wouldnt want to subject myself to that
it's not nearly worth it.
and i get it, it really sucks but
not everyone can wait for the world to change
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I was bullied severely while at school. However I refuse to let bad school memories haunt me. Those who bullied me must have been mean for a reason, jealousy? Why else would they chose to pick on me? What I hated worse at school was those who would conform and bully me because it became a school trend.
I had good friends at school though and I my grades were average despite the terror I lived in, so what might have been horrific for me back in the day is now an achievement and a reminder on how strong I was to get through it and be the person I am today.
If anyone is bullied, keep that in mind. Getting though school as a victim of bullying is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do. In the adult world things are little more grown up.
I had good friends at school though and I my grades were average despite the terror I lived in, so what might have been horrific for me back in the day is now an achievement and a reminder on how strong I was to get through it and be the person I am today.
If anyone is bullied, keep that in mind. Getting though school as a victim of bullying is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do. In the adult world things are little more grown up.
ForestRabbit
Senior Member
Not to an extent of being bullied, but I can empathize since read countless articles about bullying and know people who were bullied by others.
Even grown-people can be bullies too. When I worked at a county fair, my co-worker who was working as a garbage man around the horse race tracks was harassed by two privileged grown men about how he's such "a loser for working as a garbage man." My co-worker didn't take the comments personally. But when they poured beer on him-- they really crossed the line. He called the security and it was too late. If the guys were caught they could get charged for an assault. Unfortunately, there were no cameras around the area to catch that. We did our best to comfort our co-worker, by telling him that karma is out there.
There are also some sites with mommy readers who reads a bunch of mommy/ fashion blogs posting a lot of mean stuff that aren't even constructive criticisms or that helpful for the people who create stuff.
Even grown-people can be bullies too. When I worked at a county fair, my co-worker who was working as a garbage man around the horse race tracks was harassed by two privileged grown men about how he's such "a loser for working as a garbage man." My co-worker didn't take the comments personally. But when they poured beer on him-- they really crossed the line. He called the security and it was too late. If the guys were caught they could get charged for an assault. Unfortunately, there were no cameras around the area to catch that. We did our best to comfort our co-worker, by telling him that karma is out there.
There are also some sites with mommy readers who reads a bunch of mommy/ fashion blogs posting a lot of mean stuff that aren't even constructive criticisms or that helpful for the people who create stuff.
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Let me tell you all a little short story about bullying.
Why do people bully others? I believe people bully other because they are insecure and lack confidence. They use bullying tactics to impress other people. Bullies thrive on attention they get from their fellow friends, gangs, etc. Their hurtful actions make them feel powerful and popular. Bullies pick on others who they think are weak in physical stature, unpopular with their peers, easily intimated, or discriminated against. It's so sick, ugh.
Many people are afraid to report bullying incidents they observe because they might become targets themselves. I have been bullied, punched, beat, picked on, had my feelings hurt deeply and I got to the point where I felt like life didn't even matter anymore. The pain got too out of hand and I started getting a little self-harmy. I'm not going into details because the forum isn't really a necessary place to mention what I did, [feel free to PM me and I will tell you about it]..
Bullying is very VERY wrong and ruins lives.. people KILL themselves for because they feel they aren't needed and nobody likes them, and that ruins other people's lives and just makes me sick to my stomach when I experience bullying or witness a bullying event, I mean it could be a joke but that joke could result in the death of a person, and the death is all the bullies fault.. Bullying does not feel good at all.. We live in a world with self-centered ignorant jerks who only think about themselves when it comes to this kind of stuff, and when we try to be nice to the bullies they yell and say beat it you suck, we try to help each other and people do need help but when people get help they complain..
This is getting sick.. I don't know what's happening to the world anymore..
Why do people bully others? I believe people bully other because they are insecure and lack confidence. They use bullying tactics to impress other people. Bullies thrive on attention they get from their fellow friends, gangs, etc. Their hurtful actions make them feel powerful and popular. Bullies pick on others who they think are weak in physical stature, unpopular with their peers, easily intimated, or discriminated against. It's so sick, ugh.
Many people are afraid to report bullying incidents they observe because they might become targets themselves. I have been bullied, punched, beat, picked on, had my feelings hurt deeply and I got to the point where I felt like life didn't even matter anymore. The pain got too out of hand and I started getting a little self-harmy. I'm not going into details because the forum isn't really a necessary place to mention what I did, [feel free to PM me and I will tell you about it]..
Bullying is very VERY wrong and ruins lives.. people KILL themselves for because they feel they aren't needed and nobody likes them, and that ruins other people's lives and just makes me sick to my stomach when I experience bullying or witness a bullying event, I mean it could be a joke but that joke could result in the death of a person, and the death is all the bullies fault.. Bullying does not feel good at all.. We live in a world with self-centered ignorant jerks who only think about themselves when it comes to this kind of stuff, and when we try to be nice to the bullies they yell and say beat it you suck, we try to help each other and people do need help but when people get help they complain..
This is getting sick.. I don't know what's happening to the world anymore..
You know what I find funny? Almost everyone in this thread who was trying to rationalize/defend bullying in the past couple months have given up by their side of the argument. If you're going to try to prove trash then at least stick by your trash. There is no possible, fathomable way in the world that anyone that posts on this thread can rationalize bullying. It is negative and has so many consequences that people disregard. Some people who see bullying don't help because they think they'll be a target. How absent-minded can you be? Chances are, if you helped the victim out the bully would say it's not worth it and leave. You could have saved someone's LIFE maybe. If people are not willing to help each other like they used to then we are doomed to all be dragged down eventually. Trying to say that the media doesn't need to make a big deal out of it, or that it's not that bad is really, really low. And, if you're going to post stuff like that, then why aren't you going to make an effort to prove it? See, the problem is today is that people think they can get out the easy way. There is no easy way in life. But if we all worked together then there could be in the future. We are all vulnerable to sin, but that doesn't mean we have to just sit there and take it. Fight back, damnit. Stop sitting there like you think it's going to stop, because it won't if you don't try to help! On the preview for the Jobs movie coming out, it says it only takes one person to start a revolution. Do you think that's false? Then listen to this. On cartoonnetwork (and just ignore the fact that it's there if you think it's too big of a deal), it featured a boy who was bullied on the special broadcast for the stop bullying campain. One day people stood by his side and he wasn't bullied again. The program he runs for kids over the whole USA has saved millions of people from bullying. Can you believe that? Millions. See, the problem isn't only the people who are doing the bullying, it's the people who don't even do anything about it. Everyone only gets one life, and who are we to judge that?
Now go on. Try to prove me wrong someone. I dare you.
Now go on. Try to prove me wrong someone. I dare you.
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SecondSider
Lord Kikuchiyo FTW
Oh yeah, movie fans also pick on others with the lists they make on IMDb, such people I can name are Alex_Smith_777 and fedor8.
Why should they? People like what they like. But here, let me give you a more extreme example of what you're implying. What I'm going to say is inspired on the experience another user had for being a Filipino (look a few pages back).
Bullies are always going to choose their victims based on differences that, in the bully's eyes, "are not fitting" for their lives. We have the example of the MLP guy who shows it off. Under what you're saying, he can just stop showing it or stop liking it altogether. I still find this to be the grossest escape anyone could do, because really, in the long run it's the bullies who should change, not the victims. But still, the "solution" is there for them, yes. But right now, that's not the point.
Now put yourself in this situation. You're someone whose skin color is blue and you go middle or elementary school. Yup. You're "blue". You are forced to move out of your country as a child, and land in a country where the majority of people are green-skinned. People start bullying you. Really, really bad. Every day they pick on you. There's not one day that you can go through in school that won't get you harmed, physically or otherwise. You start pondering and pondering, and you realize that the problem is your skin color.
What are you going to do? Change your skin color? How? Or are you going to try to go against them, fight back? You will land in a worse position than you're now. What can you do if you get bullied because of differences like that that you have absolutely no control over?
It's really easy to say "meh, just stop being the way you are to save yourself from the bullies", but doing it is another story. The MLP guy will always like MLP unless he sadly gives in to the intention of the bullies. But what if you're bullied because of your skin color, size, or family upbringing? What are you even thinking in doing? There are many things you cannot change about yourself, and most of them are physical things (most, not all). Are you planning on being a victim for the rest of your life? Because unless the people who bully you change, it's always going to suck for you, unless you move to a different place, where people are like you, and unless you start going to places where everyone thinks like you, but it's not always possible. Specially if you're underage, which is when most victims suffer the most.
I say again, never find a way to point fingers to the victims either directly or indirectly. "Meh, you got all this for liking that little girl's show" - Whether you like it or not, it carries exactly the same meaning of "meh, you got all this because of your skin color". I don't care why people decide to pick on others. They have a problem and they should be dealt with. They are the ones who pick on people, and if they were simply a little bit more tolerant of others no matter how they think or how they look, and if they were more secure of themselves, this thread wouldn't exist.
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SecondSider
Lord Kikuchiyo FTW
I'd better be able to find someone to tell fedor8 and Alex_Smith_777 this. They're saying only they know good movies by facts, and they just make fun of people who like the movies they hate. -_-
Wow, that's a lot more inspiring than the big paragraph I wrote on the last page. I agree totally again.
that whole story is actually different from what i said. yeah, it is way more extreme and i really dislike when people over dramatize things to make a point. notice how in my first post i said "a few cases" and then went on to say it was just a little thing.
and then you come in like "what if it was this huge thing" when thats not even what im talking about what?
you're coming across as an idealist to me, so im sorry to say that i don't see bullying disappearing any time in the near future, as its been around since forever. if one can spare themselves the brunt of it, however "gross" (shouldnt the grossest way be suicide anyway?) it is to you, then i still dont see why they shouldn't.
i also believe you have the wrong impression of me. i was not pointing fingers at the victims or saying it was their fault. it's terrible that people bully. but you know what? its a thing. just like the many other awful things people do to one another.
and in the case of the mlp boy, he doesnt have to stop liking mlp at all. not bringing the merch to school where he is sure to be bullied and he cant handle it is just a smart decision, imo. he could probably wear it anywhere else without getting grief if he wanted to.
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SecondSider
Lord Kikuchiyo FTW
I'm still being bothered by fedor8, because of the many pointless reviews on IMDb he has done. He shows no love for any movies he watches, and this angered a lot of movie fans. Look at this stupid list he made. And look at his responses to a majority of the people who commented.
SecondSider
Lord Kikuchiyo FTW
Exactly! Oh yeah, and on his blog, he also shows a particular hate for a filmmaker from his nation, Emir Kusturica.
And wow, Brokeback Mountain, Milk, The Discreet Charm of The Bourgeoisie, Juno, Almost Famous, Titanic, Jerry Maguire, Born on the Fourth of July, and JFK are among my all-time favourite movies, and look at his response for someone saying that he has bad taste.
"No, no, no. These are all CRAP movies. You totally misunderstood the list."
These movies he listed are NOT crap. He just doesn't understand the world of movies at all.
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