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Age Difference in Relationships
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disneydorky
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I want to date an older guy, or a guy that's the same age as me, but I'd say the cap on that is 3-4 years older than me. One of my best friends was one of my coworkers, and he's 15 years older than me, but all of my siblings are 10-17 years older than me, so that doesn't feel weird to me, he's like a brother. He gives fabulous dating advice and he'll tease me and such, he's set me up on dates, it's actually really nice because I don't ever have to worry that he has serious datingish feelings for me, he's just a really good friend, and I know that's what he'll always be. I can go to the movies with him, or to dinner, and know with confidence that it's not a date.
how the hell does a 9 yr old date an 18 yr old
They didn't start dating/ they didn't even know each other until my mom was 23. I didn't mean they were dating at that time.
Celestefey
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Large age gaps in relationships freaks me out. D: I can't see why anyone (mostly at a younger age) would want to date someone who is 5+ years older than them. Ugh... It's just creepy in my opinion. ;w;
I dated someone who was 3 years older than me (just under that really x_x), and it wasn't so bad. It was quite a close age gap so, it didn't feel awkward at all. ;v; Honestly I wouldn't date someone more than 4 years older than me. 5 years is just way too much. 4 years is still quite a big difference... But no more than that.
And I'm 17. I would not date anyone under the age of 16...
But really it makes me so uncomfortable when I see someone dating somebody that is MUCH younger than them, or much older than them - especially if said person in the relationship is under 18.
I know some people might disagree with me on this, but it's just creepy. the older person can be so manipulative then. you're still a child, and then they'd be an adult... You have much less life experience... They have much more. I don't know, it just sets up this power imbalance, and quite frankly it's very scary to think about. ;v;
I dated someone who was 3 years older than me (just under that really x_x), and it wasn't so bad. It was quite a close age gap so, it didn't feel awkward at all. ;v; Honestly I wouldn't date someone more than 4 years older than me. 5 years is just way too much. 4 years is still quite a big difference... But no more than that.
And I'm 17. I would not date anyone under the age of 16...
But really it makes me so uncomfortable when I see someone dating somebody that is MUCH younger than them, or much older than them - especially if said person in the relationship is under 18.
I know some people might disagree with me on this, but it's just creepy. the older person can be so manipulative then. you're still a child, and then they'd be an adult... You have much less life experience... They have much more. I don't know, it just sets up this power imbalance, and quite frankly it's very scary to think about. ;v;
For romantic relationships, it is not necessarily the age as a numeric value, but where they are in their life - what 'stage' they are in. Yes, maturity plays a role in this, but it's not the only reason.
For example, look at a five year age difference. You have a 20 year old dating a 15 year old. The 15 year old is still in high school, maybe has the worry of what to do Friday night, what friend group they want to be a part of, worrying about getting his/her license. Never really worked, has no financial commitments, and is dependent on parents.
The 20 year old is in post-secondary, possibly moved out of their parents home, has worked and has an income. They may have their own loans (school, or even a car), possibly looking to find a partner - and just generally has a better sense of direction of where they are wanting to go in life. Their sense of direction may not be clear, but it is clearer than it is at the age of 15.
Now you look at a couple who are ages 33 and 28. Both are typically done post secondary, are ready to settle down, can both be financially independent, etc. Both hypothetical couples are 5 years apart, but the 28 and 33 year old doesn't sound as drastic.
For friendships, age doesn't really matter to me. I have friends that are 10 years older than me, mostly because of work. I have acquaintances that are significantly younger than me, but I wouldn't hang out with them on a regular basis. As for my romantic relationship, my fianc? is 1 year older than me.... well 1 year and 9 days older.
For example, look at a five year age difference. You have a 20 year old dating a 15 year old. The 15 year old is still in high school, maybe has the worry of what to do Friday night, what friend group they want to be a part of, worrying about getting his/her license. Never really worked, has no financial commitments, and is dependent on parents.
The 20 year old is in post-secondary, possibly moved out of their parents home, has worked and has an income. They may have their own loans (school, or even a car), possibly looking to find a partner - and just generally has a better sense of direction of where they are wanting to go in life. Their sense of direction may not be clear, but it is clearer than it is at the age of 15.
Now you look at a couple who are ages 33 and 28. Both are typically done post secondary, are ready to settle down, can both be financially independent, etc. Both hypothetical couples are 5 years apart, but the 28 and 33 year old doesn't sound as drastic.
For friendships, age doesn't really matter to me. I have friends that are 10 years older than me, mostly because of work. I have acquaintances that are significantly younger than me, but I wouldn't hang out with them on a regular basis. As for my romantic relationship, my fianc? is 1 year older than me.... well 1 year and 9 days older.
MozzarellaSticks
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My mom was 9 when my dad was 21. But they're divorced now.
When my mum was 18 her boyfriend wasn't even born
And she had a 2 year old daughter
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wait nah im lying my mums boyf wouldve been like 3 or 2 maybe i dunno
If my mom was 9 at the time, my dad would be 22. But they divorced since I turned 5.
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Wow.
MozzarellaSticks
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I like how we are all one upping each other with big age differences in our parental figures.
Lady Timpani
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Right now idk if I would date anyone younger than me, but I'd be fine with dating someone a couple years older than me.
I've been friends with people ranging between 1-5 years older or younger than me before, but right now my oldest friend is 20 and my youngest is 15.
I've been friends with people ranging between 1-5 years older or younger than me before, but right now my oldest friend is 20 and my youngest is 15.
My bad, I was thinking of anyone under 18 as a minor and forgetting about how 16 is the age of consent.
MozzarellaSticks
(☞ﾟヮﾟ)☞ ANN PERKI
I mean, depends on your location. Some places have 14, some 12. Kind of creepy.
MozzarellaSticks
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Having fun in Mexico, huh.
That's crazy. Yeah consent is 16 in Canada, and in some states. Interesting how it's different across the country.
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yikes 18 is consent is florida!!!!
yea parental consent is 16 so just 4 more years!!
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