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Age Difference in Relationships
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remiaphasia
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My current boyfriend is 7 years older than me. Normally I try to date people within a year or two of my own age. Girls tend to be younger than me, guys the same age. Current partner is the exception, I think, because we just happened to be going to the same school.
Definitely! Anything illegal like 16 and 25 is just.......
It's a lot different than 20 and 30 because then they're both consenting ADULTS.
My boyfriend is a little over two years older than I. I love a little age difference 
For the majority of the world, that is legal.
It's actually legal in my country (the UK), though I personally wouldn't want to go under 18.
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I'm in the UK, and over here the minimum is 16. I'm 14 (15 in September), and while I do think love is love and love isn't a number and all that stuff, I also feel like you should wait until you're older, just so you're mature enough to be in a relationship. I understand that not every relationship is sexual, but 16 is around the time you start getting curious about sexual activity, and not all of us are so educated on the matter, you know? It's different for everyone, but I could easily see somebody under the age of 16 being in a short, uncommitted relationship with someone at school or whatever, and wanting to try out sex.
Like I said, I'm 14, and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious myself about things like that, but I would still say that, before you go onto a relationship, you should take not only law into consideration, but mentality. To put it another way, being over the age of consent (and sometimes under it) shouldn't be the only thing on your mind. Consider your psychological capabilities when stepping into a relationship.
Like I said, I'm 14, and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious myself about things like that, but I would still say that, before you go onto a relationship, you should take not only law into consideration, but mentality. To put it another way, being over the age of consent (and sometimes under it) shouldn't be the only thing on your mind. Consider your psychological capabilities when stepping into a relationship.
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mayorcarlie
Mayor of Callisto
Yah my boyfriend is 6 years older than me, my exboyfriend was a year younger and when we were 18 and 19 a year wasn't much but once we were in our early 20s the maturity gap became very thin. I would only date older men now.
My boyfriend is 1 year older than me, but I've had a developing relationship/sexual relations with someone who was 27 before and I was/am 18. I ended it because the age difference was too much for me, I was uncomfortable.
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mayorcarlie
Mayor of Callisto
In the UK it's not legal for a 16 and 25 year old to have sex at all... Like, there's no age of 'relationship consent' but sexual consent? It's illegal. A 16 year old is allowed to have sex with 16-18 year olds, anything above that is statutory. And rightly so.
it is legal, age of consent is 16. the only exception is you're over 18 and are have a duty of care for the other person (teacher, care worker)
mayorcarlie
Mayor of Callisto
Age of consent is 16 until the other person is 18+ then it is called statutory rape. I know that for a solid fact.
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That's legal here...
it's legal for a 16 year old to have sex with a 25 year old if it's consensual. at least in scotland, maybe it's different in england
i'm not saying all 16's are mature, i definitely wasn't mature enough at 16, i moved out to uni when i was 17 and thought dating older guys made me seem cool and grown up. in retrospect it was pretty uncomfortable. i'm talking 10+ years though. i'm 22 now i'm happy dating people who are a bit older than me as long as we're both on the same maturity level idk.
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to me age difference only matters in certain circumstances. it depends on experiences imo, like a 15 year old shouldn't date a 25 year old. one is still in high school and hasn't ever lived on their own, while the other probably graduated college and has a job ect.
on the other hand, a 25 year old could probably date a 35 year old because both are actual adults and it is a lot more realistic.
not sure if any of that made sense, but that is my opinion.
on the other hand, a 25 year old could probably date a 35 year old because both are actual adults and it is a lot more realistic.
not sure if any of that made sense, but that is my opinion.
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I mean, it's not something that applies to me anyway (since I don't plan on being with somebody so young) so I'm not going to look that far into it, but every source says the same thing, that it's legal to do it as long as you're not teaching them maths.
Besides, statutory rape is having sex with somebody too young to give or otherwise unable to give consent. It's kind of why it's called the age of consent, because it's the age where you're legally able to give your own consent. It would be contradictory to what the age of consent is in the first place.
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with friends I didn't think it ever mattered, but I think I prefer being friends with people who are my age and older.
As for romantic relationships,... if we're talking about minors (14-18yrs) dating then I think they should only be 0-2 years apart. An 18 year old dating a 15 year old doesn't sound bad when you're thinking about the numerical difference, but think about the life difference. A middle schooler and a possible high school graduate dating.. ehh.. no! BUT if we're talking about legal adults dating, (18+) do whatever you want! My boyfriend is 20 years older than I am. I never, EVER thought I'd say that! But I totally understand how people can be put off by large age differences!
As for romantic relationships,... if we're talking about minors (14-18yrs) dating then I think they should only be 0-2 years apart. An 18 year old dating a 15 year old doesn't sound bad when you're thinking about the numerical difference, but think about the life difference. A middle schooler and a possible high school graduate dating.. ehh.. no! BUT if we're talking about legal adults dating, (18+) do whatever you want! My boyfriend is 20 years older than I am. I never, EVER thought I'd say that! But I totally understand how people can be put off by large age differences!
This is what I basically think.
Even if they are 18, I disprove of them dating like...a 40 year old man. Yes they're now both adults, but one has just finished/or is still in highschool, while the other is a working adult with life experience. It is so easy for the 40 yr old to take advantage of the younger one. You could argue maybe the 18 year old knows what they're doing. Maybe they're actually in love. But in my eyes they're still a child. The 40 year old probably holds a position of power above a kid trying to get into college. It's why I disprove of people saying now that someones "legal" they can date whoever they want. I mean yes, technically they can, but it often leaves them exploited.
Even 13 yr old w/ a 17 yr old. It's not pedophilia, but it's just..bad in general. One is a kid who is barely in middle school, the other is on the verge of graduating highschool. It is so easy for a 17 year old to manipulate the 13 year old.
Like, freshman girls often go for senior guys because its "cool". Because they'll look cool for having an old boyfriend. And seniors know this. The scummy ones will go after the young girls anyway, because they're usually 14 and inexperienced with love. I usually think it's best for teens to date within their grade. A grade above or below is okay though.
Idk. I just don't like big age gaps. I don't care once they hit the late 20s though. By then, most people are out of college and have some sort of an idea of life.
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