A little advice please? (Kinda lengthy, sorry. )

[Rise Kujikawa]

I'm getting a bit nervous. Usually I'd say it was simply my impatience kicking in but...Alright let me first tell you guys what's going on.

I have a reset town and I've been resetting til I can get a good popular Villager to sell or giveaway to a close friend. I happened to get Merengue, and at the same time as that happened I notice there was a post on my dash on tumblr from this girl saying how badly she wished she could have her. So to be nice I messaged her and said she could take her.

Yaddayaddayadda she was excited and stuff.

Um well Merengue would not budge, at all. Like...4-6 if not more other villagers left before she decided to leave. Well she finally asked me if she could leave like yesterday and I told her it was alright because I thought there'd be no problem getting into contact with the girl. I went to her page, and realized she hadn't posted in about a week. Despite this I sent her a message yesterday, and I sent her a message today. I don't want to have to talk Merengue OUT of leaving because then she might take forever to leave again, and the same thing might repeat itself.

I just don't know what to do. Like I'd understand if it were the different timezone thing, but even so she would have still seen it since I sent it yesterday and waited an entire day for a response. Plus she and I were always usually on at the same time, which is why I thought there would be no problem.

This is running on, sorry. I'm just worried about what I should do, because I've had this happen before and someone labelled me a 'scammer' simply because I couldn't get into contact with her because I had completely forgotten her username. I wrote on my page several times calling out to her, but yeah. She still got angry and left me a nasty ask when she finally got back to me like days later. I don't want someone angry at me.

I just need advice as to what to do? I'd hold her in my main town, but I really don't want to. I have a lot to do there and actually am looking to reset this. The reason I'm booting villagers out in the first place in my reset is to make room to move over my villagers from my main town this way I can just reset and stuff.

I mean I could always give Merengue to someone else, and once I finished up with my own town, reset until I got her another Merengue but like, it's going to take me a LONG long time til I do that because I want to work on my main town and get everything situated there first, then I'm going to visit some family soon for a while for Thanksgiving.

I'm really hoping she gets back to me soonish, but what if she doesn't?

 

[Feraligator]

I've had this happen before, apart from the nasty message.
I had to apologise for not being in all day and I felt really bad, but the person was very kind and accepted my apology.

It's not really your fault that she hasn't been on all week, I mean, that's really her loss.
But if you want her to be happy, the only option is to change Merengue's mind about moving.

I'm just worried about what I should do, because I've had this happen before and someone labelled me a 'scammer' simply because I couldn't get into contact with her because I had completely forgotten her username. I wrote on my page several times calling out to her, but yeah. She still got angry and left me a nasty ask when she finally got back to me like days later. I don't want someone angry at me.

That's really uncalled for, being called a scammer for forgetting someone's username. It was not your fault that you were unable to contact her because you "wrote on my page several times calling out to her".

 

[Rise Kujikawa]

I've had this happen before, apart from the nasty message.
I had to apologise for not being in all day and I felt really bad, but the person was very kind and accepted my apology.

It's not really your fault that she hasn't been on all week, I mean, that's really her loss.
But if you want her to be happy, the only option is to change Merengue's mind about moving.

Yeah I apologized over and over when she messaged me, telling her that there was no way for me to find her and I tried my best. I even stood up all night waiting, but she still was angry I guess. If sending a nasty ask made her feel better, then what could you do? Haha.

I feared this would be the only option. I was just kind of hoping it wouldn't be. I'll try to wait it out a little longer but if she doesn't contact me sometime today, I guess I'll have no choice. I really wanted to get a move on with everything too.

 

[FireNinja1]

You're doing a favor for her. If she's being nasty, just tell her to forget it. Especially because it is a popular villager. It's nice community at TBT, but worst comes to worst, do a giveaway and just tell her that you gave them a sufficient time period (24+ hours) for them to pick up. It's kind of rude, but if you're being nice about it, what's to stop them from doing it in the future?

If I'm misdirecting you, sorry.

 

[Rise Kujikawa]

I've had this happen before, apart from the nasty message.
I had to apologise for not being in all day and I felt really bad, but the person was very kind and accepted my apology.

It's not really your fault that she hasn't been on all week, I mean, that's really her loss.
But if you want her to be happy, the only option is to change Merengue's mind about moving.


That's really uncalled for, being called a scammer for forgetting someone's username. It was not your fault that you were unable to contact her because you "wrote on my page several times calling out to her".

Replying to the last part you edited in, yeah. Needless to say I was kind of mad at first, but what could I do. I pretty much told her that technically I never even scammed her in the first place since I was doing this for free with my own time, and I tried my best to get her attention. In the end the Villager went to another happy home and I was glad for that.

- - - Post Merge - - -

You're doing a favor for her. If she's being nasty, just tell her to forget it. Especially because it is a popular villager. It's nice community at TBT, but worst comes to worst, do a giveaway and just tell her that you gave them a sufficient time period (24+ hours) for them to pick up. It's kind of rude, but if you're being nice about it, what's to stop them from doing it in the future?

If I'm misdirecting you, sorry.

No, thank you. I think it's nice to hear, because I'd probably feel all guilty in the end and blame myself over and over. Haha. She's a sweet girl honestly, and if anything I'd be more than willing to reset until I got her another Merengue when the time was right. I'm just worried that it would be too long, or she'd be upset. I don't...like upsetting people. I do this because I want people to be happy, not upset.

I'll have to definitely think of my options because this is sadly nerve-wracking for me.

 

[Sena]

There's no way you could be called a scammer in this situation, or in any giveaway situation. You're not scamming anyone out of anything. You offer to give something to someone for free, and they accept, but then you're unable to contact them when you are ready to hand over their item. They are not losing anything, because the item never belonged to them - and it's their loss if they fail to receive it. You, however, are losing time waiting for them. If anyone's losing anything, it's you.

You tried to go out of your way to do something nice for someone, and that's great! You can't be held accountable for their failure to follow through on their end and actually claim the gift.
I think 24 hours is fair notice time for this sort of thing.

 

[Rendra]

If you haven't been able to get a hold of the girl, than it is her loss. Don't feel bad about it. You tried to help but couldn't get thru to her.

 

[Rise Kujikawa]

Thank you everyone! I'll go and eat dinner, and watch some Korra, and hopefully she'll have contacted me by then, if not then I'll have to put Merengue up for raffle! <3

 

[VioletsTown]

Well, looks like it's all resolved now, but in case you come back to the thread... don't worry about it! You are doing this person a favor, and you have done more then necessary to contact her. Picking up a villager, whether in a giveaway or in a sale, it's luck, actually. The stars just have to align, both the giver and the taker have to be on at the same time. If it doesn't, there will be another Merengue for her and you will make someone else happy. You're really a sweet person to worry so much.