I'm in a situation where a friend of mine, who I considered one of my best friends until recent months has done nothing but make me miserable since June/July. She yells at me for no reason, accuses me of things and tries to turn my other friends on me, and has made me cry on these occassions. She has apologised for some of these, but afterwards she always goes 'can you stop though? you generally irritate me'
anyone who is toxic in your life or makes you miserable is just like a piece of thread on a pair of jeans and you should just let them go
I'm going through a similar situation to you. Except, when this this girl (who I considered one of best friends) started blanking me and talking behind my back. Literally behind my back, a metre away, so I could hear everything she was saying. Since then she has done nothing but hurt me. I tried to save our friendship, but it didn't work. I tell myself that I tried and no one needs that toxicity. It's a shame that she took some of my friends with her.
I haven't spoken to her in 9 weeks. Not a word.
i'm sorry that she's such a biotch to you!
She tries to make things better. She claims she will change, she has matured, everyone makes mistakes and throws every pity card you can imagine, but her changing - or claiming to - doesn't mean much when it only lasts a day. Recently I arranged to go shopping with two of my friends who never get invited anywhere since most of my friendship group were at her sleepover, but my best friend told me we were at the same place at the same time so we should all meet up, so I agreed, even though I didn't want to hang out with the girl I'm on about since at this point, she had been horrible to me. The friends I'd originally planned this with received a dm from this girl saying they couldn't come along and nor could I since I'd tried to 'sabotage her life' and if they couldn't see what I was doing they were idiots. Thankfully they stood up for me but we all ended up awkwardly shopping together. I ended up explaining that I just arranged something with them and I'd never left anyone out nor suggested we all go together in the first place and she didn't even apologise for her mistake and hurting my feelings, yet tomorrow (first day of school) she'll expect me to act fine and dandy with her. The only reason I haven't let her go is because some of my friends don't want to, and I don't want to sacrifice what I have with them just to get away from her.
Hope your situation improves!
thats nasty.
a few years ago, a girl i had been friends with for years started turning salty, and picking on my playful jokes. because im kinda a loner and she was small and looked cute, loads of people went on her side for things, including the teachers. she kept accusing me of things, and then in some event she burst into tears and whined to the teacher. the teacher took her side and punished me and my best friend, for something we hadnt even done. over the weekend, we ended up going to someones pool party, where she told us some really hateful things.
because my good friend lives next to me, we oven go over to eachothers house simply because its fun, and easy to arrange. she before that had been going to her mum's friend's daughters house and we were feeling left out. she kept accusing us of leaving her out of things on purpose. it was a costume day at the time, and i asked my friend to make my wings because she was making simmilar ones. she told the teacher we had identical costumes, and yet it was completely different? so at the pool party i asked her how she was allowed to go with other friends and yet she told us
"but your not my friends and i hate you so bye" and then laughed at us from the other side of the pool. we told our teacher this, she made the btch apologise, and we were supposed to hug and make up.
then, about 6 months later, my mum asked hers about why i was never allowed over at her house, and her mum said i had been hitting the friend.
i
hadnt.
she made a huge thing of this, and turned some of my new friends away from me and basically ruined my school life for the rest of that year, and i couldn't sit near her without her causing a huge fuss. luckily, it has passed by for a few years, but i refuse to get involved with her, and her me. im glad i still have my other friends.
in another case, i find some people i talk to online too clingy. the good friends undertand that things change, and were not as good friends as we used to be, but we still message every so often. others constantly spam me with messages to the point where i have to mute them. guys, i dont like you as much as i used to, so just accept it. jeez.
i'm sorry that she's such a biotch to you!
She tries to make things better. She claims she will change, she has matured, everyone makes mistakes and throws every pity card you can imagine, but her changing - or claiming to - doesn't mean much when it only lasts a day. Recently I arranged to go shopping with two of my friends who never get invited anywhere since most of my friendship group were at her sleepover, but my best friend told me we were at the same place at the same time so we should all meet up, so I agreed, even though I didn't want to hang out with the girl I'm on about since at this point, she had been horrible to me. The friends I'd originally planned this with received a dm from this girl saying they couldn't come along and nor could I since I'd tried to 'sabotage her life' and if they couldn't see what I was doing they were idiots. Thankfully they stood up for me but we all ended up awkwardly shopping together. I ended up explaining that I just arranged something with them and I'd never left anyone out nor suggested we all go together in the first place and she didn't even apologise for her mistake and hurting my feelings, yet tomorrow (first day of school) she'll expect me to act fine and dandy with her. The only reason I haven't let her go is because some of my friends don't want to, and I don't want to sacrifice what I have with them just to get away from her.
Hope your situation improves!