For those who had seen my family problem thread you will know what I am talking about. Ok, so now my stepmom is trying to get money from all of these programs for her mother (the old lady) to help pay for all of her pills and medications and such. The old lady had just gotten 1500 dollars from the government, she is also getting her monthly check, and a veterans check or something. So I don't freaking understand why all of those money checks isn't good enough!! My dad and I are on PWD (persons with disability) and we get a check for that. But my stepmom is having a hard time disputing with them to get it and she needs it. It's starting to annoy me that this old lady is literally getting pampered like the queen of england, yeah I'm not joking when I say that. I think this old lady is manipulating our family into giving her most of the resources just for her instead of having it for the whole family? I think letting this old lady live with us is way over our heads and we just can't afford to keep her here, its only gonna get worse and soon this lady will be begging for more support and more money, and have everybody else tend to any one of her needs. I know for a fact that the old lady is better off living in a home instead of with us, sucking us dry from all of our resources. We're broke enough as it is!! Ugh...
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Unfairness or Jealousy?
- Thread starter Hulaette
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it will suprise you how much certain medications costs look up her medications and find out how much they cost doesnt she have health insurance or anything like that?
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Yea, the medication is 500 bucks a month. But shes getting like 3 checks that come in each month so she clearly has enough money for the meds. A 1000 dollar check, the veterans check (idk how much that check is each mont) , plus the 1500 dollars that she received from the government. yeah she can't afford to pay for her meds *sarcastic*
but you said multiple medications not one
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but if it is the one then i dont understand why she is taking that money from you guys thats not right when she clearly has enough to afford the medication
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I know. Its exhausting to put up with this nonsense. The old lady manipulates my dad and my stepmom into running around making phone calls, filing papers, paying money for sign up sheets for programs that we STILL have not gotten qualified for. The lady is already happy enough living here so this is highly unnecessary. The other day the lady made a big scene over me not saying hello to her all week when i clearly did! Saying that we are making her out to be a lair. You see how she stirs the pot and than the next day she pretends nothing happened. I hate this, I hate that I have no say what we do with her. I hate everything about this. I just want this chapter of my life to end already!
idgi if she has 2 sons then why arent they supporting her as well as your family??
if I were you I'd speak to ur parents about her visiting an old person's home
Yesterday my stepmom mentioned to me that she will consider sending her mother to a seniors daycare center for a few hours each day. Sometimes the rest of the family need to have a day to ourselves. It doesn't do any justice sitting around 24/7 and waiting on her every damn needs every 10 seconds.
Ding ding ding! I have had two grandparents suffer from dementia and I understand that it can be difficult. People with dementia can be manipulative and make your life hell but you need to understand that that can occur.
Dementia is progressive. She will never get better and there is nothing you can do about it. But it also isn't her fault. Try to be a little more compassionate.
Sometimes she does try to stir things up. I know that she is very smart and very alert so thats why I get so upset with her sometimes. Shes getting lazy with herself. I know that she can try harder. The dementia isnt that bad yet. so I know she can do better for now
erikaeliseh
Senior Member
Im so sorry, it must be frustrating :/ Illness effects everyone, but sadly she just can't help herself. At the end of the day she is cursed with this disease.
EpicGamer12
Senior Member
This, America, is where your taxes are going.
EpicGamer12
Senior Member
Maybe some people think the same for you. You're acting quite selfish.
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Are you advocating for someone in the beginning stages of dementia be euthanized?
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Ok, I've read through this a second time and I think I'm going to give you some advice that you won't want to hear.
Living with someone with dementia is really difficult, both physically and mentally. You're definitely allowed to complain about it. On the other hand there aren't many things that you can do, care wise, unless you have Power of Attorney, etc. and it sounds like that would be your stepdad or possibly one of their siblings. I realize that you have no say in whether they go to live in a retirement community or not but this does not mean you should use a Ouija board to summon a spirit to kill her or wish that she would die just because she annoys you.
I'm going to suggest that you look into attending a Alzheimer's scare giver support group and talk through some of these issues. Although the focus is on Alz they discuss all types of dementia. You can go here to find a group near you: http://www.alz.org/apps/we_can_help/support_groups.asp
I might also suggest you find a therapist or a group of friends to talk to about this in a meaningful way. The things you've said about this situation are pretty alarming.
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