This is reality

[sn0wxyuki]

I am hurt by the selfishness of people....or friend. You help them endlessly when they need it but when you need them, they just walk away like is none of their business to be there when you are helpless. I am really hurt by my friend's action.

And what make it worst is the one who walk away from me is one closest friend than any other who still be there for me.

 

[ForgottenT]

Owh, that's horrible At least you know who that person really is now, I'd help if I could :/

 

[sn0wxyuki]

LOL I asked my friend for some help but he rejected at first, then I added that is urgent and I really need your help but he just walk away and ignore, I mean I saw his FB posted "seen" but there's no reply. Then I asked some other friend who doesn't talk to me this much nor we re very close in RL and they willing to help me more than the one who so close to me >< it still pretty hurt even I already have my problem solved =(

 

[Sumia]

Could it be cowardness or a misunderstanding ? I don't know what happened exactly so I just can make hypothesis. Being a coward happens to everyone, we can't always face our own problems, and so it is eventually for friends, but they can still be there for you when they feel capable of it. And by misunderstanding, I mean that maybe your situation wasn't that clear for most of them and they didn't get that you need them (being oblivious to the obvious happens so much too), especially if you're the kind of person who always tries its best to help others and uses to "fight" its own problems alone. Being a "true" friend isn't that easy for everyone, we have weakness. Mistakes are a reality too and can be hold by good people, as not everyone is that selfish and not everyone is a saint, kinda clich? and obvious, but being hurt can mislead judgement to wrong conclusions.
But if you are really sure that they turned their back to you and running away for no reason but selfishness, then I feel you and I'm really sorry that you encountered those kind of people. But I'm sure you can find someone there that actually can be a support for you, it's not a friend ultimate privilege (even if we have the habit to expect it from them). At least, you have my support, though it doesn't mean that much, probably. Keep it up.

EDIT: just read previous posts. So it probably clears the misunderstanding possibility-

 

[sn0wxyuki]

Lol is nothing big but because only that friend could help me cause he knew well what I need from his help but instead he walk away just like that. Then I desperately seek for some other available friends who am willing to help but I choose to solve it myswlf the hard way cause I don't want trouble them for helping me something they don't understand how. Although is all clear now but undeniably it is really hurting inside to know the ugly truth of someone....someone who been so close to you. I shouldn't have let this bother me because I still have alot more nice close besties around and family but still...can't shake of the feeling.

 

[JessiMuse]

Indeed, many of my closest friends say that they're "always" there for me, and that they'll "never" abandon me in my time of need, but at times when I need them the most, literally none of them are around to help me out. They're either busy with some other thing, or they're completely oblivious to how serious my situations are. Still, I never have the heart to get mad at them for it, because they seem to be trying their best... But all of their timings are so inconvenient.

 

[CR33P]

what was the problem you needed help with?
if it was crazy, then i get if he/she would say no.
when somebody asks me for a favor and never returns it, i eventually just say no.
choose your friends more carefully.

 

[kite]

LOL I asked my friend for some help but he rejected at first, then I added that is urgent and I really need your help but he just walk away and ignore, I mean I saw his FB posted "seen" but there's no reply. Then I asked some other friend who doesn't talk to me this much nor we re very close in RL and they willing to help me more than the one who so close to me >< it still pretty hurt even I already have my problem solved =(

I've been there too.

I've had people who haven't really been close to me help me with some things, but when it comes to your closest buds? NOPE. And not just once either.

It's like, yeah you are best friends when you hang out, but they just can't be bothered to help you when you need a favor.

I've come to be accustomed to it and see things a different way now (not that it's any easier).

Can't rely on just a few people; they can end up disappointing you even if you trust them a lot. Learned that the hard way in the past few years. -_-

 

[Darumy]

Sorry about that. When people say "I'm always there for you", sometimes they just say that to make sure they seem like good people. Then when the time comes they don't know what to do or say. It sounds bad but I suppose it's best not to expect that from people and etc.


It's hypocritical of me to say this because I'm like NEVER FORGIVE NEVER FORGET (nah I forgive BUT I NEVER FORGET) but in this situation I think it'd be good to just take a deep breath and ask them about it. If it's a misunderstanding, ok. If they try to bullcrap their way through it, ok. If they apologize and realize what they did do whatever you want, your move.

Relationships can be fixed easily by reason and communication, even though it's a lot to ask when you feel hurt.