Sorry for stalking you Katiegurl ( I'm not actually trying to seem creepy hahaha )
But gosh, this is an incredibly thoughtful idea and I'm still so very sorry for your loss, I can't imagine having to deal with the pain of that.
As to the topic that people have been bombarding you with unnecessarily? What they say is actually the recipe for disaster. My mother is very close friends with people who do tattoos as I am myself, and the tattoo artist would prefer you to have a basic idea of what you want before hand. This is YOUR body and a piece of art that is going to be on you for the rest of your life ( unless you get it removed then you just wasted money haha;; ) and thus, you do want to think more on it and get various ideas...Rather than going to someone ( no matter how experienced they are ) settling for something, only to think of a better idea afterwards and regretting the one you already have.
My mother is COVERED in tattoos and she greatly regrets her first ones BECAUSE she just went straight to the tattoo artist and told them what she wanted and settled.
It's so much better to have drawn out ideas....And perhaps if you like several ideas from two different pieces, your tattoo artist can THEN work their magic.
I don't understand why a vast majority is being so rude to you about it when in actuality, you're doing the SMART thing?
I may try to see if I can whip something up, but I can't make any promises. v_v
