take a hiatus or be happy

[ZebraQueen]

I know this won't sound so acnl but hear me out

I'm in college and I'm not happy with what I'm taking
But I just don't want my parents wasting a lot of money for somewhere I like
So I play acnl to make me happy
But I'm failing the class because of no enjoyment

Now that I think about many things
I wanna stay to the end in what I'm studying
But that means being in a hiatus of ancl
And I don't want that

So my question to you is
its playing acnl to stay happy
Or take a hiatus 3 months for each year
And be completely unsatisfied but better grades

 

[Fleshy]

Can't you balance it better rather than "all or nothing"? You could continue studying and still play acnl, just less?

I'm not sure how much you play but you could limit it to an hour a day or a few hours a week, that way you still have time for college work? That's what I done when I was doing uni work (I'm on a break now) I done uni work throughout the day and most days played acnl at night, that way I was still doing my work but got a little bit of fun too. I guess the 3 month hiatus would be at exam/finals time? It probably isn't good to work 24/7 anyway as that'll probably just cause stress and unhappiness, work but take short breaks to play is what I'd say.

At the end of the day it's up to you, pick whatever you think is right for you!

 

[A r i a n e]

I'm sorry to hear you're not happy with what you're studying. I obviously can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I did when I was at uni.
I liked what I was studying - what I didn't like was uni itself. I often felt quite unhappy there, because I didn't have many friends (except one really good one without whom I don't think I could have finished) and I didn't feel close to the other students. I felt very separated from them.
I bought ACNL when it came out the summer when my first year of uni ended. That entire summer I played for several hours a day, and I quickly became addicted to the game (that never stopped, tbh.) I get what you say about ACNL making you happy, because since then, it's made me happy too. Some people close to me don't get that, they told me I played too much, but I didn't want to stop because it felt so good to play.
So when my 2nd year of uni started, obviously I didn't have as much time to play. But I found that when I didn't, even for a few days, I felt worse. It had become a routine thing, I'd grown attached to my town (which I still have, and still take care of every day). What I did, instead of playing as much as I did that summer, was playing at least 5 to 10 minutes a day when I had some free time, like when I was waiting for a class to start or for my train to get home. And I played more on the week-ends. Some weeks it was only a couple hours, some others I had time to play more.
As silly as it sounds, ACNL helped me a lot through uni. When I was stressed out because of my studies, or something else in my life, ACNL was my go-to thing to feel better. I finished uni two years ago and that hasn't changed, I now have 2 towns I care a lot about. Whenever I feel sad or stressed, I play even just for a few minutes, and it might be weird but it helps me feel better.
I hope you can find some balance between your studies and the game. Maybe you don't have to take a 3 month break if you can play even 5 minutes a week. But like I said, I can't tell you what do, no one can except yourself, I think.
(wow, I didn't realize how much I wrote until I re-read.)

 

[ZebraQueen]

thanks both of you
and i always play in the night like 1-3 hours for my towns
but its just what my mom want more more from me
think im playing to much sometimes to much for my own sake
but i just cant stop its my owl happy world and my parents not understanding
so i guess it will be much better eing away from it
to the terms of my parents and maybe play on sunday my towns

 

[Christy.lee1989]

If it were me i would just talk to my parents and let them know that im not happy with what im studying and change to ceomething i like instead. Love acnl, and u take a three month hiatus from it, you town will changr, villagers might move out and in, your villagers will be kad at u or ignore u when u come back.

 

[A r i a n e]

thanks both of you
and i always play in the night like 1-3 hours for my towns
but its just what my mom want more more from me
think im playing to much sometimes to much for my own sake
but i just cant stop its my owl happy world and my parents not understanding
so i guess it will be much better eing away from it
to the terms of my parents and maybe play on sunday my towns

My parents didn't understand either. But if I may, don't let them stop you from doing something that makes you happy, even if it's a video game. You could find a compromise somehow, like you said, play on sunday/the week-ends. If taking a long break might make you feel bad, I wouldn't recommend it. :/ Of course, I understand that your studies are important. But working H24, 7/7days will make you feel even worse, I think. Maybe try slowly reducing the amount of time you play? A little less every day, with more playing time on your days off?

 

[Byebi]

I've consider quitting a lot of things to focus more on what i'm studying,
but if I were honest to myself and if I put what i do know about myself into consideration
I'd probably end up finding some other thing to do in my freetime that would replace the thing i tried to quit (in your case, acnl)

plus I dunno about you, but i'm scared of going into some depression becaue I'm not enjoying life at all. You're going to need something to lean on when times get really rough, or just something to relax with every now and again because burning yourself out with school work should not be an option (even though it seems like it is for many people)

 

[ZebraQueen]

Thanks guys
I'm officially taking a hiatus staring next September when my classes start again
Becaused there only little of class left and I already know I failed accounting so what the point

- - - Post Merge - - -

And I will try to find something else to do
Maybe il finally have a job to start taking baking classes on Saturday or Sunday
But for now
I officially plan to be on hiatus
Which my mom will prefer
Even thought I won't be happy

 

[Venn]

Plan the night or something.
Make school priority but still play ACNL.
Complete all needed assignments and if you have time, play it.

Hiatus also helps. I've taken many, and it always helped more focus on more things.
In fact, I'm currently on one right now! (I don't know how long its been though, I forgot to keep track of time)

 

[Venn]

Plan the night or something.
Make school priority but still play ACNL.
Complete all needed assignments and if you have time, play it.

Hiatus also helps. I've taken many, and it always helped more focus on more things.
In fact, I'm currently on one right now! (I don't know how long its been though, I forgot to keep track of time)

 

[supercataleena]

If you don't like school you should take a break. It is your life, you're in college which means you are an adult and can make your own decisions. If I were you, I would find a job, since becoming financially independent is the best thing ever, and eventually take a few classes after you have gotten long enough of a break. Personally, if I don't like doing something I will never do good at it. I like the idea of you going to school and getting good grades, but how sure are you that you will actually get good grades? Saying and doing are two different things. You're a person and you don't have to be like everyone else to be successful in life. Do what makes you happy. You have a lot of time to live. There's no point of being miserable while you do it.

I would take a few classes just to appease your parents, but mostly focus on work since that is your way out of your parents control. Having a job also makes you realize how much you don't want to be doing this for the rest of your life. It is good motivation for you to take college seriously next semester.

You could also just set 1 hour out of the day for acnl. It isn't like you spend your entire day studying right?

 

[SoSu]

First, you need to focus on school and why it's not working for you. You might decide you need to change what you are studying, you might need to take a gap year or you might need to balance out each semester with a class that explores a new interest or something outside of your main area, Or you might find that with added time and focus comes an understanding that makes it all more enjoyable. But these years are too important (not to mention expensive) for you not to take full advantage. Find the good counselors at school - there seem to be some for career advising, academic advising and personal advising. Try them all! That's what they are there for. It's your decision, but perhaps the game is allowing you to avoid actually making a choice.

Sometimes I play a game for fun, but sometimes I play it for distraction, and for me that can become a problem. Two or three times I've just had to delete a game that's getting out of control! I know there's nothing wrong with playing in moderation, but sometimes my self control needs a bit of help.

Be sure to find good advice on hibernating your game. I think the idea is to put in the beautiful town ordinance and then play until someone pings to leave and get them to agree to stay. At that point you can hibernate indefinitely. And for me? I'd have to hand my DS over to someone else.

Best of luck to you, fellow Savannah lover!!!