Saddest thing you have ever experienced?

[Celestefey]

When my parents split up, that was really hard to deal with. It wasn't so much sad, just painful, it made me really depressed. I had to deal with my parents shouting and arguing all the time, it was awful, my mum had to sleep in my room on a mattress, and seeing my parents both so unhappy with each other was difficult. Then only a few months later my nanny passed away. That was really tough. I was never REALLY close with my nanny, we were close, but not like perhaps some of you are with your grandparents. That was the first death I ever really experienced, and it was difficult. It was just very sudden so we didn't really get much of a chance to take it in. It's not like when someone has a terminal illness, and you know they are going to die at some point, so there's a sense of preparation and anticipation... But when someone just dies of old age, that's... Hard to deal with, too, because it's just a shock. You don't expect it to happen. One day she was there, the next she was gone. So of course it was a sad and tough year for my family. I had to deal with so much, and I was only 15/16 at the time.

But as I've gotten older I've just experienced death more and more. My grandad died a few months after my nanny, although, I had only ever seen him twice in my life (he divorced my nan), so I wasn't so sad about that, really... But like, since I've been at sixth form, I've noticed a lot of young people my age committing suicide or dying from illnesses and, it's really really sad and awful. I didn't know some of these people but then, one boy in my class died not too long ago and I'm still kind of in shock about it. Even though we weren't close friends, we still used to talk every now and then and he was really nice and kind, I just can't believe he's gone. It's so sad, people's lives are just cut so short and you don't truly realise how precious our time on this earth is until something like that happens.

 

[AquaStrudel]

When our old cat passed away a couple of years ago. She had been there all my life and to see her go when I was finally old enough to understood what it meant to lose someone was completely heartbreaking. Couldn't stop crying for hours and it hurt to see her body knowing she was gone... I should probably stop before I get too emotional :s

Sorry to hear all of the repliers' losses :c

 

[visibleghost]

wasnt gonna write here but then i thought of something so !! ye

it wasnt rly a one time thing, but i was So sad when i was bullied by my (then) best friend and her new friend. like, the whole thing was incredibly upsetting and sad and i cried almost every day in school and when i got home from school because of it for a year-ish. they weren't very nice tbh and it really, really hurt to have my only friend treat me like that.

when ppl close to me have diedi havent felt very sad, mostly dissocioated, weirded out and scared because of othe ppl's reactions. the only reason i cried on my grandma's funeral was because i was scared necause there were so many wmotional people there ...

 

[Chelsaurus]

The saddest thing for me was not only seeing my mum suffer all of a sudden for a good few months and the Dr basically telling her it was all in her head- the dr almost fell off her chair when she saw my mum months later (after paramedics finally overwriting the dr etc) she was almost skin and bones

The saddest thing was not only watching my mum act so strangely the night before she died- hallucinating, refusing to sleep for 3 whole nights (now I understand why) etc and praying to her sister in heaven telling her its ok to take her to stop her suffering

The saddest thing was sitting beside my mum on the day she died- it was my mums body but it didnt quite look like her. She was barely with it. I picked up her hand and I whispered in her ear I love you mum, we are all here- you can let go now. Moments later I watched her produce one single tear, no one in the room had noticed but me. And not long after, she passed away <3

 

[jiny]

when my paternal grandma died. it has already been a year & i'm still grieving. i honestly never talked to her, since she only spoke spanish. i am not a fluent spanish speaker so... yeah. she came to visit in 2014, she was suffering a lot. she couldn't go out with us to eat, because she was violently coughing & throwing up. this was also around the ebola scare, i was really convinced she had it, but at the same time, i doubted it. so we went to eat. they left a few days later. now i skip to may 2015. she was in the hospital for a long time, so we decided to go to her hospital in california. we got there, she was so close to death. she was in the worst stage of breast cancer. she was on life support, but my dad said to take her off life support so she wouldn't suffer any longer. i went into the room to see her with my maternal grandma, she looked so weak & sick. i burst into tears as soon as i saw her, even my grandma was crying. she was saying "we all love you, i love you, you were a great friend" in spanish, that's all i understood. i was just crying, covering my eyes. i didn't want to see her anymore, so i was escorted out of the room while my grandma was still talking to her. a few hours later, she was dead. i cried & cried that whole day. we stayed in cali a few days after, but we did leave after a while since my maternal grandparents couldn't stay much longer. what i really hate now is that my dead grandma's husband (i'm ashamed to call him my grandpa) got a girlfriend a few months after her death. i felt so sick after i found out. it wasn't even that long. i would understand if it was a few years later, but a few months later?? i hate him. but i always worry about my maternal grandparents. i want them to stay as long as possible, since they are all i have left as grandparents. i am going to see them in a few days. I always cherish the days I spend with them as long as I can.

 

[Paperboy012305]

Well, now I hardly cry tears by sadness. But back in Halloween 2011, my sister's dog passed away. I have never seen such a death before, it was so saddening. We buried her the next day.

About a week or two, my other sister's dog that passed away as well was looking for the passed away dog in 2011. my other sister's dog couldn't find my sister's dog so my other sister's dog cried because my sister's dog passed away.
So sad, don't you think?

 

[Daydream]

When my grandma passed out last year... Even though I'm 18, it was the first time a close member of my family died... It was also kinda unexpected to me, but she was 91 so I guess it was her time to go...

Seeing my mom in tears, bawling at the funeral, when they were about to close the casket... It was the last time she could see her mother... This was truly heartbreaking. Also, I was waiting while they were closing the casket, and the sound it was making... I got shivers through all my body.

 

[MatchaMoonlight]

Exactly a year ago today, I received news that my dad had died. It's been a tough year for my family and I. Sometimes I still have a hard time believing that he's gone. I still think about him every day.

 

[riummi]

It happened a few months ago. It's kind of a mix of sadness and anger - when my dog died. It was so painful to see him suffering and I couldn't do anything to help him. He was lying in his bed twitching and yet he would still wag his tail when he saw me coming towards him ;; The next morning I couldn't see him off because I had to go to school. I was upset and almost cried during school - I didn't even have any important classes (just chapel and art - we goof off in art). So instead of being with my dog while he passes away - I was in chapel. I'm not even christian for goodness sake.
damn thread now i'm crying

 

[Yuni]

I was sad when my role model passed away at the age of 40 from an accident while undergoing rehab for cervical cancer. She was recovering well. I was 14 at the time and it was rather difficult to stay positive, as her image was always of hope, faith and perserverance. As I grew older and went through difficult times, I still rely on her alot for emotional support.

It's honestly much more frustrating for me to see the lack of role models at present, seeing as everyone is all about freedom - which is fine, but it feels like people are neglecting values and virtues.

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Otherwise... in this day and age where there is terrorism and debate on whether to keep or leave asylum seekers and/or censorship...
It reminds me of my lack of grandparent. One of my grandmothers were killed, and another crippled from a bullet lodged in her knee for the past 60 years. I probably wouldn't be alive if my family hadn't seeked asylum.
And I might have known my grandmother had there not been a reason for war in the first place.

 

[Katattacc]

Well I supposed it would be when my dad passed away

 

[Elov]

My brother attempted suicide in 2009. He stabbed himself 15+ times in the chest. We were very lucky we found him in time, if we weren't there he would of bled to death. If we had lost him I don't know what our family would have done... He's currently alive and well... He even has a son now and named him after my father. But that event in itself was truly devastating. Our family went through so much pain seeing him in that condition.

It was also very hard for me when my father died early 2015. It breaks my heart knowing I have to live the remainder 3/4ths of my life without him. I'm scared that my memories of him will slowly diminish with each passing year. My future kids will never know their grandfather.

All I really have left is my mother and my two brothers. My grandparents on both sides all passed away by the time I was 16. I don't know what I would do when I lose my mom. I hope I'll have her for the majority of my life.

 

[UnderWish]

Well losing someone or a pet is always sad. In 3 years, my boyfriend, my father, my grand parents and my dog passed away, then I got a cat that I loved very much but he got hit by a car. Those moments were sad but I think seeing other's sadness is as sad if not much. There is a little disabled girl in my neighborhood who was crying loudly one morning, she was screaming and rolling on the ground and I didn't know what was going on until I saw a couple taking away her dog, some neighbor had complained about the dog barking too much so they took it and put it to sleep.

That's horrible! How could someone do that?! To put a dog to sleep because it was barking? And taking it away from a little girl, no less. Shame on society these days, people are so cruel!

 

[Draco]

Well losing someone or a pet is always sad. In 3 years, my boyfriend, my father, my grand parents and my dog passed away, then I got a cat that I loved very much but he got hit by a car. Those moments were sad but I think seeing other's sadness is as sad if not much. There is a little disabled girl in my neighborhood who was crying loudly one morning, she was screaming and rolling on the ground and I didn't know what was going on until I saw a couple taking away her dog, some neighbor had complained about the dog barking too much so they took it and put it to sleep.

I am sorry for your loses. I think the thing we can do , is always remember our time here is short often to short.
Best thing we can do is make most of each day care for those we love most by showing it as often as we can.
wile those we love may be gone from our lives they live on in our Hearts and minds.

 

[Aniko]

That's horrible! How could someone do that?! To put a dog to sleep because it was barking? And taking it away from a little girl, no less. Shame on society these days, people are so cruel!

People where I live (my part of the city) are rather intolerant and they don't respect nature, animals and people. Barking dogs is an huge issue, I think everyday someone is complaining about a dog and call the police for that. (or fireworks). They had no compassion for that little girl, who can't talk or play with others, not sure what she have, she might be autistic or else, they just care about themselves, their cars, their gazebo and their grass.

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

Losing loved ones, lost an aunt, a really close friend from school, and my grandpa, and a cat I had most of my life that all happened in a span of 2 years.

And then a few weeks ago when we lost two of our cats within days of one another...

 

[Aniko]

@Aniko.Well losing someone or a pet is always sad. In 3 years, my boyfriend, my father, my grand parents and my dog passed away, then I got a cat that I loved very much but he got hit by a car. Those moments were sad but I think seeing other's sadness is as sad if not much. There is a little disabled girl in my neighborhood who was crying loudly one morning, she was screaming and rolling on the ground and I didn't know what was going on until I saw a couple taking away her dog, some neighbor had complained about the dog barking too much so they took it and put it to sleep.


I am sorry for your loses. I think the thing we can do , is always remember our time here is short often to short.
Best thing we can do is make most of each day care for those we love most by showing it as often as we can.
wile those we love may be gone from our lives they live on in our Hearts and minds.

Yes I'm trying to do that, I did that with my cat who was so damn annoying when I tried to type on the computer, at first I was mad at him, then I thought poor little thing and gave him all attention he wanted because we never know, I might lose him the next moment and then it is what happened, he was well the past week-end and died in the night on Friday, he was just one year old and it was such a shock. Same with people, I try to enjoy their company as much as I can, because we never know what will happen next and I must admit that I developed anxiety problems with the time. I lost several people in a short time, 7 in fact, and because of that, each time the phone is ringing I'm panicking, I always expect bad news. I can't watch the TV either, too stressing, because in two occasions the news showed accidents implying relatives before we knew something bad happened to them, we just recognize their cars and belongings and all the things you don't want to see. Well because of that, I try to spend most of my time with my family and pets, but I also have hard time to let them go.

Sometimes it's hard to remember the good times you had with those who passed away because you also remember how much those people wanted to live and their wishes hadn't be granted and then may come the guilt, impuissance, rage. Some people will never grow old and never realize their dreams.
When I was visiting my relatives in hospital I witnessed lot of sad stories. There was this 14 years old boy in the next room, at first his friends were visiting a lot then they less, they had things to do, studies, love stories etc. He was bitter and a bit jealous of them, he wanted to see them but at the same time, hearing their stories pissed him off, while they had the fun of their life he was locked there and slowly dying. He knew he was going to die before getting his driver licence, a part-time job, going to prom or having a girlfriend. He couldn't said, "I had a good life I don't regret anything", because he didn't have time to experience what he really wanted to. Another sad story would be that woman who was 30 and had two babies, she had been in a abusive relationship younger and distrusted men, she had just met the right man like 3 years before and now she was a mom but learned right after the birth of the youngest that she had breast cancer and there was nothing to do. She was crying so much, she so wanted to see her kids growing up and not only she would miss that, but they wouldn't also remember her because less than 2 yo.

 

[Loveafghanistan]

When my grandma jumped off a building. This was in a dream though.
My life sucks thats why i think dreams are a better representation of my life.

 

[Aniko]

The saddest thing for me was not only seeing my mum suffer all of a sudden for a good few months and the Dr basically telling her it was all in her head- the dr almost fell off her chair when she saw my mum months later (after paramedics finally overwriting the dr etc) she was almost skin and bones

The saddest thing was not only watching my mum act so strangely the night before she died- hallucinating, refusing to sleep for 3 whole nights (now I understand why) etc and praying to her sister in heaven telling her its ok to take her to stop her suffering

The saddest thing was sitting beside my mum on the day she died- it was my mums body but it didnt quite look like her. She was barely with it. I picked up her hand and I whispered in her ear I love you mum, we are all here- you can let go now. Moments later I watched her produce one single tear, no one in the room had noticed but me. And not long after, she passed away <3

My father was refusing meds because he didn't want to sleep either. He was not all there but had his moments of lucidity, I remember that he often took my hand and said "Let's go home now", when the nurse came with morphine because his organs were failing one after the others and we didn't want him to suffer more, he was just saying "no, no, noooo" then supplied me to take him home. That was so hard, I felt like betraying him.