Ginny Potter
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Do you have high expectations when it comes to dating or do you just go with the flow?
Relationship expectations
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CoolJhon Benry Adams
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I have no experience in this field but I am curious what exactly you mean by high expectations and going with the flow
Ginny Potter
💜Violetta Potter💜
So there are some people who have high expectations when it comes to dating due to previous relationships or friendship.
Go with the flow is like someone whose willing to do what the other wants.
Go with the flow is like someone whose willing to do what the other wants.
Ginny Potter
💜Violetta Potter💜
Like for me, I have high expectations because I had guys who treated me wrong. They would take advantage of who I am, my emotions, and have no problem with that. Last guy I thought I had the option to date... he threw me under the bus, lied to my parents, blamed me for the whole thing, and didn't believe me about my disabilities plus he wanted me for how I look.
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Twonny Cakes
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I try to think I like to go with the flow, but I've also got some strong standards when it comes to dating. I highly value communication, and although I can be quite extroverted, I have to make it clear to my partner that I need some alone down-time every once in a while. Just gotta reset my social battery.
It goes both ways for me though. I can work with my partner and talk to them about how I'm feeling, as long as they can do the same for me too.
It goes both ways for me though. I can work with my partner and talk to them about how I'm feeling, as long as they can do the same for me too.
Neb
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I don't think my standards are too high, personally. As long as I think someone is cute, usually acts nice, and has at least one hobby in common with me I'm don't mind dating them. I have no preference in terms of height or family background either. My girlfriend, for example, comes from a religious background, while I was raised by unitarian universalists, but I get along with her well and am more than happy dating her.
Both? I know that some people have high expectations like : the look, occupation, money, hobbies, skills, etc. One of my friend wanted a good looking guy, more than 5 feet 8, less than 160lb, who loves literature and could play piano. Another wanted a tall guy with blue eyes and blond hair like her (they need to match visually), and who earns a good salary. Some others want someone who can take care of them.
I'm not like that, I don't have specific standards, BUT I'm really not social and have very low tolerance when it comes to people trying to boss me around or just annoying me. For some reasons, I don't like having people too close to me, so the person has to be special enough for me to let them come closer. And they must be REALLY motivated lol... because I'm really not the kind of person someone would like to date. One of my friends got rid of her cats because her new BF was allergic to them. I wouldn't do that, "too bad then, we can't be together."
My pets come first. Family too. Even I, come first, so someone wanting to be my priory would be terribly unhappy.
So I didn't have a lot of relationships, romantic or not, but the few ones I had lasted several years. I didn't get why though so I asked why they stayed with me, reasons: I was not expecting anything from them (funny), I didn't ask them to change, I didn't comment on their look, clothes, job, hobbies, I accepted them as they were with their flaws and rarely got mad. (Except the time when my BF crushed a spider with my book, I'm still mad at that). No need to say that I expected the same from them.
So for them I'm going with the flow.
I'm not like that, I don't have specific standards, BUT I'm really not social and have very low tolerance when it comes to people trying to boss me around or just annoying me. For some reasons, I don't like having people too close to me, so the person has to be special enough for me to let them come closer. And they must be REALLY motivated lol... because I'm really not the kind of person someone would like to date. One of my friends got rid of her cats because her new BF was allergic to them. I wouldn't do that, "too bad then, we can't be together."
My pets come first. Family too. Even I, come first, so someone wanting to be my priory would be terribly unhappy.
So I didn't have a lot of relationships, romantic or not, but the few ones I had lasted several years. I didn't get why though so I asked why they stayed with me, reasons: I was not expecting anything from them (funny), I didn't ask them to change, I didn't comment on their look, clothes, job, hobbies, I accepted them as they were with their flaws and rarely got mad. (Except the time when my BF crushed a spider with my book, I'm still mad at that). No need to say that I expected the same from them.
So for them I'm going with the flow.
That's not high expectations. That's just wanting to be treated with respect. Everyone deserves that and I'm sorry they treated you that way.
Ginny Potter
💜Violetta Potter💜
Not according to friends of mine
I’d find new friends
Than those aren't friends.
Ginny Potter
💜Violetta Potter💜
I’d find new friends
It's harder for me to meet new people. Due to the fact that I been hurt by many
A lot of people will hurt you if given the chance. I’m sorry that you are hurting and haven’t got caring friends but please know that you deserve better
Ginny Potter
💜Violetta Potter💜
No, I'm not hurting. But more aware of what type of friends I wantA lot of people will hurt you if given the chance. I’m sorry that you are hurting and haven’t got caring friends but please know that you deserve better
Tude
RIP Tilly 09/20/2023-01/23/2025
Better to be alone than surrounded by trash
Ginny Potter
💜Violetta Potter💜
No truer words spoken
I have expectations to what I want in a relationship, not to mention that would mean I would have to actively look for a relationship with someone and interact with people, which consumes a lot of my social batteries.
