Well, this coming Summer should be...interesting.
My dad and I had an interesting discussion recently. I brought up New Mexico, since we have been planning on going for a few years now, but it hasn't worked out. We almost finally went Summer of last year with some family members on his side, but there were quite a few things that held us back, one of the main ones being a fire that was made out to be worse than it actually was. Plus, my dad has a had bad leg for a year and a half to two years now, so I feel like that would have set us back. Luckily, he should be getting it fixed in the next couple months, though.
My dad is actually unsure if my paternal grandparents are even going to want to plan the trip this year either. The reason? Their dog. They use to take him with them on vacations with them -- heck, they even brought him with them to South Padre Island back in 2023, but they are a lot more reluctant to do so now for two reasons:
1. As I have mentioned multiple times here on TBT now, my grandparents have been just dropping him off over here when they go on vacations, so I guess you could say they have been "spoiled" in that regard.
2. His age. He is getting up there in age and my dad told me that it could make his separation anxiety worse on him than it did, even - let's say - two years ago.
As glad as I am about the trip not happening last Summer, I would have loved to have found out about how the dog situation would have played out, given it would have been our first family trip since they started to rely on my dad and my brother to dog-sit.
I am gonna be honest, however. While I would love to still find out about how my grandparents would handle their dog, since we can't be relied on to watch him due to us also going, I mainly rather just wait another year.
The reason is because we will probably going to be going to Houston this Summer, where we will pick up my mother and take her with us to visit my maternal grandparents/her parents -- and I think taking two vacations in a 1-2 month time frame would be too overwhelming. I have mentioned before how I feel about vacations: While I wouldn't say I FULLY hate them (because they can be enjoyable to some extent and can make for good memories), they can be very stressful for me.
While I am apprehensive as always to visit my mom, I definitely want to take these opportunities to talk some things through with her -- she needs to know how to do her part to help fix things between us and how she can do her part to be better. Some of the main issues I plan to tackle with her are - beauty/fashion standards (and how she would sometimes force them on me) and her ignorance and lack of patience + tolerance to be being on the spectrum. These two things are umbrella categories with other issues that fall under them, but the issues between me and her mainly boil down to things that fall under those two main umbrella categories.
I was originally going to wait until my mom moves out to be close to us, but now, I think I would be better off starting early. I can still do it later on when she does move out here to be closer, but it may do me some good to do this early as possible. As much as I would love to just sleep at my maternal grandparent's house over in Houston, my dad is trying to convince (maybe even force) me to just stay in a hotel instead - one of the main reasons was because their AC went out while we were over there back in 2022. At the very least, I hope he gets two rooms (which he USUALLY does), so we do not have to stay as cramped together and I can have time alone with my mom to have some candid words with her.
I do very poorly with sleeping with other people, so I would easily just just say "Look, if it all possible...I rather just stay were I can have my own space.", but if it's one thing, staying in a hotel room with my mom will help me to talk with her about some things. Even if I had planned this earlier, the last two vacations would not have been very good times to really have a good talk with her because:
The one in August 2022 when we went to Houston: She and my dad stayed in my maternal grandparents' game room the majority of the time watching some music documentary, so it wouldn't have been a good time. This may sound selfish, but if I really want to sit down with someone and have a serious discussion, I rather it just be us two. If the conversation is more casual and light-hearted, that's a different story.
The one in July 2023 when we went to Corpus Christi: She was crying and depressed about not being able to move back in with us (which is what I am opposed to, though her living closer to us is what I am 100% on board with). I was feeling like absolute dog**** from what was going on and from stressing about other things, so yeah, it would not have been a good time either.
If I am forced to stay with my mom in a hotel room when we go out to Houston, I hope I can at least make the most out of it and have some heart-to-heart conversations with her. My mom does seem to regret some of the bad things she did. However, I feel like she is mainly talking about in general, I do feel like she is slightly unaware that she had wronged me in some ways. Still even now, she occasionally does something hurtful via the phone. She needs to understand my comfort, boundaries, etc. I tried sending her a long text about something she has been doing (through texts) that has been making me uncomfortable, but she hasn't replied yet. She keeps having to change numbers and it makes keeping contacting with her over the phone even more of a pain in the ASS. I just help she will be understanding during this discussions.
But yeah, as apprehensive as I am (due to my mom), I am actually really looking forward to going to Houston again in possibly June. Not only do I plan to have some heart-to-heart moments with my mom, I just love to visit my maternal grandparents. I have always loved going over there because I just have so much fun and make so many wonderful memories. :,)
There is a Metallica concert happening in Houston on June 14th and I have zero interest in going due to how loud it is (I have sensory issues). My dad said he plans to drop me off with my grandparents, so it will also be a nice opportunity to converse with them since there is a high chance that us three are the only ones not going. :,)
Yeah, I am definitely curious to find out what this possible trip has in store for me. <333