Never had a relationship, Is it such a bad thing?
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I was in the same situation when I was 15 and since I was the only one I knew that was never on a relationship and whatsoever I rushed and ended up dating a guy for 1 week just because he liked me(but he was also a liar so I'm glad I understood things before I had commited something even more severe than just a couple of kisses) I basically started running away from him and later on I was ashamed of having dating him but it was one of those mistakes that I don't want to cover it up because it helped me growing up.
1year and a half after I met my special one and we are still together after 5 years.
Just don't rush so you won't have to regret after, just be yourself, your time will come either you are over 20 or 30. Just be happy.
I used to have a lot more of spare time for my skills when I was single but I was also more childish and would spend more time alone.
1year and a half after I met my special one and we are still together after 5 years.
Just don't rush so you won't have to regret after, just be yourself, your time will come either you are over 20 or 30. Just be happy.
I used to have a lot more of spare time for my skills when I was single but I was also more childish and would spend more time alone.
listen if u rly want a bf then just do the following:
find the boy that u want to give ur love to. it doesnt matter how much prior contact u two have had. then go up to him and say
"if u don't want to not not not not not not go out with me don't not say yes. u have 5 seconds."
then watever he says (yes or no) take it as a yes. idiotproof method.
find the boy that u want to give ur love to. it doesnt matter how much prior contact u two have had. then go up to him and say
"if u don't want to not not not not not not go out with me don't not say yes. u have 5 seconds."
then watever he says (yes or no) take it as a yes. idiotproof method.
oranje
Guava Purveyor
Don't stress too much about it. I didn't start dating until I was in college and even then, I didn't meet my husband until I was 21. But a lot of people take longer to find boyfriends/girlfriends and they might have to date a few times until they finally settle down with someone and that's perfectly fine. Just go at your own pace and you'll be fine. 
why did I never think of doing this?!
I've never had a relationship either. I'm 18, haha. People act so surprised when I say I've always been single. I just enjoy solitude wayyyy too much. And having no commitment. I'm also a perfectionist. I hate when I can see a lot of potential between me and someone else, but can't get over one flaw to them... It's an awful trait of my personality. Ya know? You just get that "They're not the one..." feeling. But then you go out and socialize and realize you may never find a person as great as the ones already close to you...
Maybe I take the subject too seriously. But I hate small talk and half-baked friendships. There are never shades of grey-- Either you're a simple acquaintance, or a best friend to me.
Anyway, I say there is nothing wrong with it. Some people just /need/ love and actively pursue that sort of thing.
Maybe I take the subject too seriously. But I hate small talk and half-baked friendships. There are never shades of grey-- Either you're a simple acquaintance, or a best friend to me.
Anyway, I say there is nothing wrong with it. Some people just /need/ love and actively pursue that sort of thing.
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Punchy-kun
Be happy <3
I always said to myself "It's useless to get a girlfriend if I don't plan to marry her". And so I always followed that, and then when I wasn't looking for love I found it. And I plan to marry her so yeah 
I could go on about how amazing she is but I will shut up lol.
I could go on about how amazing she is but I will shut up lol.
Celestefey
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I've been in one relationship (long distance, too). We dated for 6 months, but we mutually broke up for personal reasons. I can say though that whilst I have really good memories with him and it was a really happy time of my life, it was nothing spectacular nor life-changing. I mean, it was not truly worth the hours I'd spend crying when we argued or when he wasn't being very nice to me. It wasn't worth it. There is no point in getting into a relationship for the sake of it, and there is no point in just staying in one for fear of being alone. When the time is right, you'll know. I'm happy by myself, anyway! 
I don't think it's a bad thing that you haven't been in a relationship. If anything, I think that's really cool.
My (now) husband didn't date/have a girlfriend or anything before I came along and for me it makes everything feel really special. I'm his first for everything. even being the first girl he has hugged xD
Plus in some ways I think it might help simply because you don't have past experiences that could potentially be harmful to relationships, like jealousy or insecurities and such.
So I say it's okay to take your time and wait for the right one to come around. ^^ Until then it's awesome to just be happy by yourself~
My (now) husband didn't date/have a girlfriend or anything before I came along and for me it makes everything feel really special. I'm his first for everything. even being the first girl he has hugged xD
Plus in some ways I think it might help simply because you don't have past experiences that could potentially be harmful to relationships, like jealousy or insecurities and such.
So I say it's okay to take your time and wait for the right one to come around. ^^ Until then it's awesome to just be happy by yourself~
ShinyYoshi
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I don't think it really matters that you haven't been in a relationship before at your age. I'm your same age and I've been in 3 long-term relationships, including the one I'm in now.
Looking back, I wish I hadn't spent so much of my freedom years in such serious relationships, but they did teach me what I can put up with and what I will not tolerate in a relationship.
They can cause a lot of hurt, but you also learn a great deal about yourself. So just be careful for when you do start dating. It's really easy to have a "first love" that you think is absolutely perfect, but you're blinded by love and don't see how toxic it can be.
Just always be true to yourself and the right person will come along.
Looking back, I wish I hadn't spent so much of my freedom years in such serious relationships, but they did teach me what I can put up with and what I will not tolerate in a relationship.
They can cause a lot of hurt, but you also learn a great deal about yourself. So just be careful for when you do start dating. It's really easy to have a "first love" that you think is absolutely perfect, but you're blinded by love and don't see how toxic it can be.
Just always be true to yourself and the right person will come along.
Lady Timpani
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I agree with those who say it's not bad. I'm 18 and still haven't had any type of anything-- I've never been kissed it anything, either. IMO, it's important to know how to be by yourself. I have a friend who was with a boy for two and a half years (she was 15 and he was 18 when they met), and now that they've broken up, she doesn't really know how to be by herself and has had relationships that aren't very meaningful to her.
So no, you're fine. People who place such a big emphasis on relationships at a young age are silly, anyway.
So no, you're fine. People who place such a big emphasis on relationships at a young age are silly, anyway.
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A good friend of mine is in a similar situation (except she's still with the guy because of not being able to be alone), and it's almost a reason I wouldn't advise being in a serious relationship at such a young age. I think your late teenage years should be a time when you try new things and "discover" yourself, and if you spend that time in a relationship sometimes it can make it very difficult to be on your own afterwards. It's difficult building confidence doing things on your own when you're used to having another person to do things with. That's how some people end up dating anybody or jumping from relationship to relationship just because they can't stand to be single.
Not saying that it always ends up this way, of course! But sometimes our first relationships at that age are not always the healthiest. Live and learn, you know.
Anyways, it's totally normal! Many people don't have serious relationships until they get older. Everybody moves at different speeds, but don't ever feel like you need to be super into dating just because everyone else seems to be.
I've had like two relationships but one doesn't count I guess since it was only a day and more for fun (with a guy) so idk
But crushing on someone is hell I feel like such an angsty teenager smh
MrPuzzleMan
Senior Member
I don't think an intimate relationship is important in life. Your happiness is what is important. Either way; find what makes you happiest.
I'm 19 and have had two long term relationships and I feel like I learnt a lot from them and had a nice time, but they were very teenage-angsty and I sometimes think it might have been better to start later. However, I do think they made me mature faster.
BUT yeah basically what everyone else is saying - do what makes you happy. And even if you want to be in a relationship (and it's fine if you do) don't ever RELY on a relationship or a person to make you happy - I learnt that the hard way. As cheesy as it sounds, you need to be happy in yourself first.
BUT yeah basically what everyone else is saying - do what makes you happy. And even if you want to be in a relationship (and it's fine if you do) don't ever RELY on a relationship or a person to make you happy - I learnt that the hard way. As cheesy as it sounds, you need to be happy in yourself first.
MeghanNewLeaf
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Well, at least I'm not alone! I honestly don't think that it's a bad thing to have never been a relationship.
Nuclear Bingo
Senior Member
the only negative thing I have to mention is that the earlier you learn that most things don't forever, even if you want them to, the better. That's the only bad thing I guess. Unless you are lucky and never have to go through that enlightening experience. But it's not really all that pathetic unless you act years behind your lover in a relationship in terms of social maturity applied to relationship maintenance.
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