Making friends

[EmeraldJourney]

Hello forum, glad to be back after a short break, just got the covid vaccine and felt a bit unwell over the past week! but glad I've had it and hopefully things calm down soon.

Now, onto my question, what is your method of making friends with people? I mean genuine connections, I've been watching the secret life of 4 year olds and it's all about their time learning at school, some of them share their games, others give things to others, some cold shoulder some kids whilst including others to built their own little community. How about you? When I was a kid I was bossy and always wanted to be the leader, so I often surrounded myself with kids and played and shared games.

As an adult, I like to have flexible conversations with people, challenge views, have my views challenged but in a constructive and friendly manner. I find people interesting, it's amazing how different our lives and opinions are and it's cool to share. I especially like when people are open to chat and down to play games together, that has always been my method of making friends. Some people don't like the direct approach, but I prefer it over small talk and silly games.

 

[Midoriya]

I usually make all of my friends out of kindness, open chatting, and playing games together, so a (somewhat) similar approach. I‘ve always been able to make friends with all kinds of people in this way.

 

[LadyDestani]

I have always struggled with making friends. I'm a bit of a loner, very introverted, and also shy with social anxiety. So I never approach anyone and I rarely initiate conversations even with the friends I do have. However, if others approach me, I am always kind and I try to be generous. That has earned me a lot of acquaintances, but because I don't trust people and open up until I know them quite well, I've had very few true friendships. I'm kind of alright with that, though. Since I am an introvert, I prefer my alone time.

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

sometimes i initiate small talk and that leads to somewhere but most of the time people approach me lol. it takes me a very long time to warm up and be very bubbly and outgoing towards people. this isnt much of a problem online but irl im definitely more shy, quiet and reserved at first. my social anxiety is pretty bad. im not sure if im an introvert exactly because i cant stand being alone and without someone to talk to for so long but i do need to recharge for quite a while after socializing and i like to have some days to myself. i also grow closer with people after we play games together and talk about anything really. i dont keep many people close but the ones i do are very special to me

 

[Croconaw]

I didn’t have literally any friends in school. I never considered myself to be the most outgoing person either when I was younger. I really wanted to be more social, but I didn’t want to associate myself with anyone from my school.

I became more social this past year and I talk to almost everyone at my current job. It definitely helped my confidence. There are a few people at work I get bad vibes from, but I only try to remain cordial with those people and I would never trust them enough to let them in on my personal life. After graduating from high school and becoming an adult, I’ve definitely become more extroverted and I strike up a conversation with literally anyone.

 

[Jam86]

i am probably the worst person in the world to be friends with

i'm like super awkward and can't talk to anybody, therefore i had great difficultly making friends and in school i never actually had more than 2 friends at a time
then i changed friends a lot because i tend to push people away, also others got bored of me real quick and stopped talking to me, which was fine because i'm not the biggest fan of having friends anyway

everyone i knew was always so horrible to me and i didn't realise it for a while but whatever, friendship just seems like hardwork tbh so i don't really make friends anymore

 

[coldpotato]

I have a lot of social anxiety so I have a more difficult time making friends but when my anxiety isn't getting the best of me the way I usually do is through a common interest and just talking about that with people. It could be anything really. I also treat everyone I come across with respect and kindness, am honest and open about things in my life even if they are bad, which sometimes makes people feel like they can be honest and open with me about anything which makes us form a good connection.

 

[CasualWheezer]

I'm not that great at making friends honestly, I love talking to new people but I have really bad social anxiety. Well, I usually open up to them first, start a conversation, just get to know them and find something in common and then I guess it develops in its own way. I haven't made a friend in a long time and keeping friends is a whole different story for me.

 

[Violet Witch]

I'm not great at making friends because I can be quite guarded after years of having friends take my kindness for granted, with the last incident happening less than a year ago. Despite everything though I'm always open to making new friends, it just takes time for me to let down my walls and let people in to who I truly am as a person.

 

[Antonio]

Usually just conversating with people has been a huge factor for me in the friend department. All it takes is that one step and boom, we are basically friends.

 

[Beanz]

i don't know, i basically have 0 friends at the moment. I like talking to people but it's so hard to start a conversation, I feel like that if I just start talking to someone they'll think that I'm weird. When people actually try to talk to me, I have nothing to say and I feel like I'll come off as annoying. I find it much easier to talk to people online (like on here) than doing so in real life.

 

[DinosaurDumpster]

I've always been shy, so all of my friends have come to me and we form a friendship that way.