Personally, I don't think love is pointless.
As some of the users have mentioned, love is a term that can be loosely defined and the fact that there is no one set definition of what love is. I personally believe that love has three elements to it, romantic, platonic, and unconditional. Romantic love, to me, is something that can be shared with a boyfriend or girlfriend - which is often most associated with sex or other sexual acts. Platonic love would be a love with friendships that develop over time. And unconditional love is a type of love that you family can give, where it doesn't matter who you become or what you do, they will always love you.
Now with that being said, every relationship a person has doesn't fall directly into one category. There are some instances where there are more dominant traits, such as you won't have any romantic love with your siblings. For my example, my fianc? is my best friend and we share a level of platonic love. However, we are obviously more than friends and we share romantic love between us. He is also the love of my life, he's a part of my family - and I will love him no matter what. That's where the form of the unconditional love. The amount of different types of love varies between each different relationships.
Over time, everything changes. Life would be boring if there was no change. The seasons change, you change as a person, relationships change and so does the types of love within that relationship. Friends stop talking, your significant other cheats on you (or you cheat on them), family members have their own issues - it's all part of life. Change is inevitable, and it's something people need to learn to adjust too. There are also risks associated with change, because without risks there would be no hard decisions in life. With that being said, having your heart broken - whether it's from a break up, someone cheating, a death, a fight - it's all apart of the change and the risk of being in a relationship with someone (not necessarily a romantic relationship). I believe that love should never been seen as something pointless, it should be seen as a learning step. Even though it may hurt, there is always something to learn or a way to grow.
From what I have learned over the years about love is that to be loved is the most selfish thing a person can have. To have that bliss and knowledge that you are loved, people care for you, etc., is one of the greatest feelings in the world. It's also the most selfish thing a person can have and take advantage of. However to love someone, whether its platonic, romantic or unconditional love, is the most self-less thing a person can do. To show your love to someone, it gives them happiness. It's human nature to feel needed and wanted, by loving someone you are filling that need - especially where its a type of relationship where you put their needs first.
As some of the users have mentioned, love is a term that can be loosely defined and the fact that there is no one set definition of what love is. I personally believe that love has three elements to it, romantic, platonic, and unconditional. Romantic love, to me, is something that can be shared with a boyfriend or girlfriend - which is often most associated with sex or other sexual acts. Platonic love would be a love with friendships that develop over time. And unconditional love is a type of love that you family can give, where it doesn't matter who you become or what you do, they will always love you.
Now with that being said, every relationship a person has doesn't fall directly into one category. There are some instances where there are more dominant traits, such as you won't have any romantic love with your siblings. For my example, my fianc? is my best friend and we share a level of platonic love. However, we are obviously more than friends and we share romantic love between us. He is also the love of my life, he's a part of my family - and I will love him no matter what. That's where the form of the unconditional love. The amount of different types of love varies between each different relationships.
Over time, everything changes. Life would be boring if there was no change. The seasons change, you change as a person, relationships change and so does the types of love within that relationship. Friends stop talking, your significant other cheats on you (or you cheat on them), family members have their own issues - it's all part of life. Change is inevitable, and it's something people need to learn to adjust too. There are also risks associated with change, because without risks there would be no hard decisions in life. With that being said, having your heart broken - whether it's from a break up, someone cheating, a death, a fight - it's all apart of the change and the risk of being in a relationship with someone (not necessarily a romantic relationship). I believe that love should never been seen as something pointless, it should be seen as a learning step. Even though it may hurt, there is always something to learn or a way to grow.
From what I have learned over the years about love is that to be loved is the most selfish thing a person can have. To have that bliss and knowledge that you are loved, people care for you, etc., is one of the greatest feelings in the world. It's also the most selfish thing a person can have and take advantage of. However to love someone, whether its platonic, romantic or unconditional love, is the most self-less thing a person can do. To show your love to someone, it gives them happiness. It's human nature to feel needed and wanted, by loving someone you are filling that need - especially where its a type of relationship where you put their needs first.
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