Help with asking a girl out

[Dustmop]

For what it's worth OP, this is a "problem" outside of high school, too.

My boyfriend had no idea how to ask me out. He's 24, I'm 22, and this was a real toughie for him last year.
He was so awkward. Legit, he asked me, "Will you be my girlfriend." Completely out of the blue. And I laughed at him for it. And jokingly "made him" try again because it was such an awkward way to say it. But he thought I meant his tone was off, not the question itself, so he just kept using the same exact question in different tones and emphasizing different words, and omg it was so great. I agreed, ofc, but not until after I caught my breath.

Point is, I didn't care how the **** he approached it, 'cause he was sweet and adorable and I liked him, too, and I wanted us to be a thing. I was honestly just excited that he even asked at all (and in tears, because the entire thing was so stupidly funny, omg). But mostly excited that he wanted us to be togever, too.

Don't stress so much over it. Just ask.

 

[Allycat]

Just go for it! Because once you get the words out, the worst part is over. Overthinking it just makes it worse.

 

[Nuclear Bingo]

wat

y'all in this thread have such weird ideas about what women like lmao

I have plenty experience in the topic to know what I'm talking about, breh

 

[Allycat]

wat

y'all in this thread have such weird ideas about what women like lmao

i agree just a tad, it's a bit odd lmao

 

[Waluigi]

i has decide to try it and hope for results. Assuming i can fit a timeslot in due to a chemistry prelim exam taking up most of the day. For better or worse i head off to try

 

[Stalfos]

Best of luck! Remember that it's perfectly fine to be nervous.

 

[Tao]

If you already know her and have some sort of 'friendship' going on, just force it right out and ask something along the lines of "do you wanna go out some time?". Throw in any variation of words or phrasing you like. That question pretty much sums up your intention and makes it blatantly obvious (to most people) that you like her 'in that way' and if she ain't interested, then it's also a question that can be easily rejected with less awkwardness.



Beating around the bush won't do much. ^That^ is probably the easiest and most direct way of doing it in my opinion. Asking can be hard but it's pretty much the only way you're gonna get anywhere. If you're rejected, well, man up and deal with it I suppose.

 

[Yuni]

Well, it might not be one sided and she'll also feel some relief after you've asked her out

Good luck~!

 

[infinikitten]

For what it's worth OP, this is a "problem" outside of high school, too.

My boyfriend had no idea how to ask me out. He's 24, I'm 22, and this was a real toughie for him last year.
He was so awkward. Legit, he asked me, "Will you be my girlfriend." Completely out of the blue. And I laughed at him for it. And jokingly "made him" try again because it was such an awkward way to say it. But he thought I meant his tone was off, not the question itself, so he just kept using the same exact question in different tones and emphasizing different words, and omg it was so great. I agreed, ofc, but not until after I caught my breath.

Point is, I didn't care how the **** he approached it, 'cause he was sweet and adorable and I liked him, too, and I wanted us to be a thing. I was honestly just excited that he even asked at all (and in tears, because the entire thing was so stupidly funny, omg). But mostly excited that he wanted us to be togever, too.

Don't stress so much over it. Just ask.

This is such a cute story ;o;

People ask how I met my partner and I never have some qt thing to tell them; I've known him since we were both twelve and we just kind of ended up the way we are. Neither of us formally asked each other. We never had the boyfriend/girlfriend conversation, apart from "wow I hate those words" (thus why we still, seven years later, don't use them LOL)

I'm definitely gonna side with those in this thread who say just getting it out is the best way to do it. Overthinking it is your worst enemy and you'll come up with a million reasons never to say anything. Bringing my partner back into this - he gave me the single best piece of advice I've ever received: "The easiest way to do it is to just do it." And it sounds so stupid and simple but he's right. Just force yourself to say it at a time that isn't completely awkward (like in the middle of a math test or something? idk what you kids are doing nowadays) and even if she says no, then at least you know where both of you stand, and you can either go back to being friends (hopefully! I seriously do hope you can stay her friend if the relationship doesn't end up happening) OR if it works out in your favor, begin a wonderful new relationship

Seriously, obsessing over it is the worst. Even if it's awkward, she'll likely appreciate your honesty, especially if she already has an idea that you have feelings for her.

Big thing to keep in mind though - I hate to play Negative Nancy here but again, if it turns out she doesn't feel the same way and you do get rejected, don't go round trash-talking her or whatever. It would reflect badly on you and make maintaining a friendship very very difficult once she got wind of it Not saying you strike me as the type to do this, OP, but it's worth putting out there just in case. This is why I stress that even if a friendship isn't EXACTLY what you want from her, I really hope you respect her enough to continue being her friend even if she turns you down.

aight now I'm talking in circles lol I'll stop

 

[Beardo]

Wear a fedora. *****es love fedoras

 

[Prabha]

I come to ask the members of TBT this, because you usually seem experienced with this kind of thing.

For a while now i have really liked this girl. Same interests and whatnot. But unfortunately i am far too shy to ever make a move or ask anything (held back even further since im aspergic). The girl in question is definetaly single, and im pretty sure she has mild feelings for me (some basic behaviours, blushing and minor flirting). Also, considering 3 people know that i do like this girl (by sneakily sneaking it out of me) but no one else. (It doesnt help that one of the 3 people who knows is her cousin) So its possible she knows i do like her. she seems shy as well.

What shall i do? I cant work up the courage to ask her out (last time i asked a girl out, it took me 3 years to get enough courage to ask her, which ended with rejection).

You all seem knowledgabe about this subject so if you could help, post below. You dont know how much it will help me.

Whatever you do, don't ask her in a public place with lots of people around or she'll say no.
If she doesn't feel pressured, there's a bit higher chance of her saying yes.

& Don't feel scared. If you're confident, she'll dig that. Be polite and confident!

 

[fup10k]

I didn't ask my boyfriend out
i knew he liked me and over dinner one time i was trying to pay for the bill and he wouldn't let me, so I just said "What, you can't let your girlfriend pay for you?"
and then he was too shocked to stop me from paying

i guess i just told him we were going out lol

ANYWAY DON'T DO THAT, just ask her out or confess. It's gonna be fine

 

[CR33P]

 

[Bluedressblondie]

Something that I think you should do is go on a couple dates without telling her it's a date/that you like her, maybe to the movies or something (like a Disney movie, something that's not all about romance) and then by the 4th-5th time it won't be such a big deal anymore and you can tell her when you feel ready. And don't let your past failure get in the way of future hope.

 

[pocky]

Tips:

1. Be polite and respectful.
2. Don't ask her out in a public place/around a lot of people. Asking her out in public may put her on a spot. She might feel awkward and say no even though she wants to. Or she might be afraid of rejecting you/embarrassing you in front of people and say yes even if she doesn't want to.
3. Be confident, but don't be pushy.
4. Don't ask her out if you're not ready to accept her decision. Ideally, it'll all go well. But if she does say no: respect it.
5. Be yourself! No need to pretend to be anyone else. If she likes you she'll like you for you.

 

[Jaebeommie]

Everything I would say to you has already been said by others, but please let me stress, do not pressure her into anything or be pushy. In my personal experience, it is uncomfortable and unwanted and the last thing you want to do is put her off.

 

[Stalfos]

I wanna know how it went. No news is good news, right?

 

[Karminny]

Similar T.V. program is an idea, though. Video games? Does she like any? Do you know?
Mad flirting can happen during Super Smash Bros. Just btw.

or acnl/pokemon. Im an expert on girls.

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NO THAT STUFF WILL KILL HER/SUFFICATE. Too much will, atleast. I personally like it when a guy wears like 2 sprays bc THAT STUFF IS STRONG AF MAN