Ghosting on a trade?
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Mairen
Enchanting Dreamer
Just curious, are these awful people newer members who have been here for a short time, or are they members who have been here for years? You'd think we could have some kind of action taken against them...
senbeiiscool
Could you pass the senbei?
Sure, I think anxiety could be a very valid thing. But I'm sort of on the side that even if you have mental health issues or alike, it doesn't mean you should be an *******. I'm very open to accommodating anyone I trade with but, there's only so much of a door mat you can be before holding your ground
Mello
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Not sure what kind of "action" you mean here, but I hope it's nothing too drastic. I don't think people ghosting on a trade really deserves a penalty. Maybe if we're really disgruntled, we can leave a negative trade rating describing the ghosting instead.
That's fair, and I agree with this.
senbeiiscool
Could you pass the senbei?
New ones unfortunately. All the old ones have been great! The new ones are mostly great too! But it's a few bad apples that ruin the bunch
s i r e n t i c
Ma ghilana mir din'an 🌿
Thankfully it hasn't happened to me too much, but I do find myself being on the opposite end a ton because my internet sucks... usually I'm just a few minutes late and at the most 15 mins, but honestly I don't understand not simply telling someone you're unable to do the trade then, instead of remaining online for a while but just ignoring them the whole time while they wait with their gates open
Mairen
Enchanting Dreamer
oh gosh no, nothing like a ban or anything, but at least the ability to leave these people negative feedback so people know that if they start to engage in a trade with these people, there's a high chance we could end up wasting our time (or resources or money)
Hoosker
Quarantine, amIright folks?
Oh no! Who was the dreamie? If I have them and I'm not planning on keeping them, I don't mind giving them to you!
Oh that is so sweet! I so appreciate it!
The villager was Audie, so I was insanely excited, and then crestfallen when they stopped replying.
BUT crazy story- I stumbled upon someone who had her in boxes and was looking to gift her to a good home the next day. Insane stuff.
So I actually did get Audie, and I'm working on designing her a whole yard and area in my town as we speak.
I suppose karma worked in this situation.Thank you so much though! Let me know the same for you!
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Raz
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I tend not to take it to the heart, so to speak. I imagine a lot of people are making a lot of trades, playing the game or doing other things.
Especially as I'm always trying to make contact, I won't feel like I'm in the wrong side of the situation.
Especially as I'm always trying to make contact, I won't feel like I'm in the wrong side of the situation.
senbeiiscool
Could you pass the senbei?
Honestly, for me (can't say for everyone) as long as you get back, even if it's hours from now, I would be fine! It's just really annoying when you can see the other person actively engaging on the forum but not getting back to you at all
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Aw that's fantastic! I'm actually getting Audie soon myself from my sister! I can't wait! My island is pretty much good I think, but thank you for the kind offer!
Oh that is so sweet! I so appreciate it!
The villager was Audie, so I was insanely excited, and then crestfallen when they stopped replying.
BUT crazy story- I stumbled upon someone who had her in boxes and was looking to gift her to a good home the next day. Insane stuff.
So I actually did get Audie, and I'm working on designing her a whole yard and area in my town as we speak.
Thank you so much though! Let me know the same for you!
roseychuu
sleepy little bear ♡
I've ghosted only one person once after being offered an unreasonable amount for the large amount of things i was willing to go out of my way to order them after explaining that it took a lot of time and effort to get everything. other times, its been out of accident because i cycle through so many PMs, certain messages get buried underneath. Often I leave someone a message and if they don't respond I move on with my life! I always try to be fair to everyone, but everyone is human and makes mistakes. And you can't always tell why someone ghosts you in the first place, I think?
s i r e n t i c
Ma ghilana mir din'an 🌿
Totally! It's super frustrating being able to see them active on the forum while they don't respond at all
Hoosker
Quarantine, amIright folks?
Bingo. That's what irks me most.
It's really not hard to sent a quick PM saying no thank you, and everyone moves on with their lives. Whereas completely ignoring and hoping it goes away just leaves a bad taste in everyone's mouths.
N a t
In the name of the Moon, Indeedaroo!
Yeah ghosting is not cool. I can somewhat excuse forgetting about a trade depending on how the trade was being communicated, and maybe someone didn't get a notification or maybe things got busy in the real world, but if you don't wanna make a trade then as lame as backing out is, it's better than ghosting.
I don't think I've accidentally ghosted anyone, I sometimes bite off more than I can chew but I try to be honest, patient (which is a struggle at times but I don't rush anyone!), and considerate while communicating as much as possible. I am trying to learn to pace myself and not set up too many trades at a time but it can be hard with such an active forum.
I don't think I've accidentally ghosted anyone, I sometimes bite off more than I can chew but I try to be honest, patient (which is a struggle at times but I don't rush anyone!), and considerate while communicating as much as possible. I am trying to learn to pace myself and not set up too many trades at a time but it can be hard with such an active forum.
senbeiiscool
Could you pass the senbei?
I try to give people the benefit of the doubt too much I guess, but I guess in my case, apparently the item I wanted was already ordered so we just needed to trade... and then the ghosting started.. very strange
sierra
Senior Member
To anyone who does this:
It might be hard to tell someone you can’t do something out of fear of retaliation but it’s far better than leaving someone in the dark and involves the least resentment.
you’re inadvertently making the person you didn’t want to make mad, mad.
It might be hard to tell someone you can’t do something out of fear of retaliation but it’s far better than leaving someone in the dark and involves the least resentment.
you’re inadvertently making the person you didn’t want to make mad, mad.
Jas
Teary-Eyed Grandpa
yes!! i would much rather have someone message me and say they didn't want something anymore rather than just ghosting? there have been several times where i've offered to sell something to someone but then they've never followed through lol so i just end up getting rid of the items. like i totally understand forgetting to click send on a message, but if it's intentional it's so annoying
senbeiiscool
Could you pass the senbei?
Pacing yourself really is key! Sometimes getting too into it makes it hard to track what you're getting into. Sure, backing out is "lame" but as you said, much, much better than ghosting!
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So, I actually had ghosting happen to me last week and asked a mod about negative feedback and they responded saying that you actually can. But, I would clarify with a mod for your situation if it ever came to this! They will protect you from retaliation if your situation is valid! Everyone deserves to know your experience with others!
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