Free Love! (●´ω`●)

as a (non-presenting but worries about attracting attention to herself) transgirl and someone that just wants to get their stuff done and get out of places as fast as possible, screaming in public usually isn't a good idea.

ok,maybe not screaming,but say something to those asshats,thinking they can do whatever they want,but if u say NO! u can kill with ur shoe those fckers
 
I'm referring mostly to people that 'get in my way' on a daily basis so to speak. really everything from being stuck up idiots that think the world has to drop everything for them because they're rich/have power, to those that just don't do their jobs at all (ie store idiots I see practically THROWING lettuce onto the shelf like they're basketballs and then me getting to pick through that mess trying to find one that isn't going to go bad right away), to cashiers that take 500 years to count cash and/or come into work sneezing and coughing to handle non-bagged produce because they clearly want everyone else to get what they have, onto people that think the rest of the world has all the time in the world like them and drive like 15MPH below the speed limit when theres no one in front of them.
I could go on for hours and hours with this stuff.

as to the physical/mental other stuff, I've had chronic pain/health issues for half a decade, so yeah, every day has constant pain/suckage going on and worrying if it'll be my last on earth. its some pretty heavy stuff but when you've dealt with a health care system that does nowhere near enough to diagnosis you for 5 years you kinda lose hope :\

thats part of the reason I spend so much time here/animal crossing, they're distractions, albeit sometimes even they fail after awhile, as do other forms of self-care (what I can manage financially anyway, not that I get to eat well either due to being on disability and not having enough money for even food 3 times a day).

So to break it down, the daily nuisances are those that disrupt order, defile cleanliness and consideration, and people that feel privileged.

I can't think of an absolute solution for store employees, but filing a complaint to the manager might be beneficial.
As for the slow drivers, going around them or giving a slight honk might get their attention.

I'm sorry, I don't have much experience with dealing with those things as they never really occurred for me(Well, I've experienced slow drivers, but I wasn't the one who had to drive so..).

Having to deal with constant suffering is rough. Wondering if you might keel over is even worse on both states of being.
Even if the health care may not be fruitful in it's actions, sometimes the best diagnosis is an evaluation of how you've managed to keep yourself going for so long. How you put up with your personal hell and still haven't thrown the towel.
What I mean is, if your current situation seems perilous, reflecting on the past and remembering the last times you felt this way might help you realize you can keep moving.
Having a dream, someone to look after you, something to hang on to and do that makes you happy.
Relying on others is a good thing, but life is hell.
All you can do is adapt to that hell, and fixate your mindset onto a brighter day.
Even if you don't believe in god, praying is always good. You could pray to a deceased relative or friend, perhaps.

Financial troubles are something I can't help, sadly.
This may sound a bit harsh, but trying to cut the portion of the meals you eat at one time could yield more at a later time, try and find a balance.

Once again, I'm sorry if what I'm saying is lackluster or just not too helpful,
but nevertheless, I'm here to help.
 
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ok,maybe not screaming,but say something to those asshats,thinking they can do whatever they want,but if u say NO! u can kill with ur shoe those fckers

Excuse me, this thread is for helping, please do not curse and have helpful and real advice, thank you.
 

Once again, I'm sorry if what I'm saying is lackluster or just not too helpful,
but nevertheless, I'm here to help.

you did it masterfully, short of doing something way more personal like calling me up and talking about it, I honestly could not ask for a better advice post since you only know so much of life to be able to offer advice on topics.

the part about reflecting especially was helpful...I never really considered to look back at the past because frankly it seems the past was much easier health/pain wise but also a time in what I like to refer to as my 'dead life', as I'm transgender (MTF) and back then I was NEVER happy with who I was either. if you were in such a situation mindset wise, what advice would you consider to focus on regarding just how much crud you've went through vs the fact it was 'easier/not as complicated'?
 
Excuse me, this thread is for helping, please do not curse and have helpful and real advice, thank you.

oops,srry,sometimes my heating can be excessive >.<
@sara
Now my heating stopped,
Look,people can be jerks,and maybe they will never care about u,even if u say no to them,if they are still being jerks,just ignore them
Trying to get on the case of someone unknown can be a problem where u work,so just try ignoring them,that type of people just want 2 or 3 things
-Annoy u
-Wasting ur time noticing them
And third one?
-Seeing u to get angry
However,if u don't pay attention to them,u didn't maked the 3 things they wanted to,so,of course,will get bored easily
"But what if the annoyingness continues/they still abusing of products in the store"
Reporting
If u report the people who is making that,its possible they can get kicked out and cant enter back to there
If those see u reporting them and they run away,the cameras on the store can help to identity them.
Now,'bout ur chronic problems,cant help very much there,however,theres only one thing that can help u,hope.
"And how is gonna work hope?"
Well,hope is always something that can help u in ur problems
Maybe hope isn't going to get the results of whats happening to u tomorrow,or gonna tell u what's gonna happen to u tomorrow,but!,if u have it,one day,that wish can get real.
If u don't look at the negative part and look at the positive one,things maybe can better
 
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you did it masterfully, short of doing something way more personal like calling me up and talking about it, I honestly could not ask for a better advice post since you only know so much of life to be able to offer advice on topics.

the part about reflecting especially was helpful...I never really considered to look back at the past because frankly it seems the past was much easier health/pain wise but also a time in what I like to refer to as my 'dead life', as I'm transgender (MTF) and back then I was NEVER happy with who I was either. if you were in such a situation mindset wise, what advice would you consider to focus on regarding just how much crud you've went through vs the fact it was 'easier/not as complicated'?

Thank you for the compliment and considering my limited experiences, I wasn't very hopeful in my usefulness since I've never dealt with in depth problems like this to much extent. :)

The past does seem easier if you look at it from where you are now. But that's only because you can't feel, or remember, or see the same little details like you did from when it happened to you.
Hmm, If I was never happy with who I was... regarding to just how much crud I've went through versus the fact that it was 'easier',
I think I've thought of something like that, but I didn't word it the same way you did.

"It was harsh, yet it was easier."

I would say my advice would be to think about how it was easier then compared to now, but on a more complex format. How something as strong as never being happy didn't stop me from going through day by day and doing things that lead up to where and who I am now.
I did something I would have deemed unforgiving and regrettable til the day I died 4 years ago,
But now that I look at it, if it weren't for those things that I regretted doing, then I wouldn't be here, able to help others overcome what they're struggling with.

In short, look back and think about how differently your life would be now if things had gone smoothly then. Would you be this comfortable now, or would you be worse?
This is where I think pessimistic people get off easy, if they can see a situation worse than where they are now, then they've no reason to be disappointed by what they did before that lead up to now.

That one wracked my brain a bit since I had to dig up ancient thoughts, but I hope that clarified my point and gave you your answer.


 


In short, look back and think about how differently your life would be now if things had gone smoothly then. Would you be this comfortable now, or would you be worse?


you kinda lost me here, since I feel like if my life had gone smoothly in the past I'd be BETTER than I am now, and achieved more progress and not be in the health situations I am now by getting diagnosed and figuring what's wrong with me sooner, as well as progressed further along in my transition than I have so far.

so how is looking back and comparing helpful then? >.<
 
you kinda lost me here, since I feel like if my life had gone smoothly in the past I'd be BETTER than I am now, and achieved more progress and not be in the health situations I am now by getting diagnosed and figuring what's wrong with me sooner, as well as progressed further along in my transition than I have so far.

so how is looking back and comparing helpful then? >.<

Aaah, I'm sorry! I'm not really sure how I'd word my own thoughts on it. x.x

Circumstances are different for all people, so my advice may not apply as much potency for you as it did for me.
Looking back would give you an idea of how bad it was before than how it is now.
Part of looking back is to help yourself accept what happened. Thus, allowing you to accept your current situation and to push through it like you did in the past.

I'm sorry, I think I was thinking about too many things at once... even if this last bit is confusing,
The first part helped, right? T . T

 
Aaah, I'm sorry! I'm not really sure how I'd word my own thoughts on it. x.x

Circumstances are different for all people, so my advice may not apply as much potency for you as it did for me.
Looking back would give you an idea of how bad it was before than how it is now.
Part of looking back is to help yourself accept what happened. Thus, allowing you to accept your current situation and to push through it like you did in the past.

I'm sorry, I think I was thinking about too many things at once... even if this last bit is confusing,
The first part helped, right? T . T


hah, it all helped goober~ don't sell yourself short, but yeah, I can definitely take away some stuff from the things you said, which frankly, is pretty rare I've found from people being that I'm genius level intelligent and tend to feel like people can't offer me anything I don't already know. take that as a HUGEEEEE compliment that you are awesome and deserve a hug and a pat on the back :3
 
hah, it all helped goober~ don't sell yourself short, but yeah, I can definitely take away some stuff from the things you said, which frankly, is pretty rare I've found from people being that I'm genius level intelligent and tend to feel like people can't offer me anything I don't already know. take that as a HUGEEEEE compliment that you are awesome and deserve a hug and a pat on the back :3

Hehe, I'ma goober~
Smarts have many branches, some people are more specialized in different branches than others.

*snuggles*
Thank you, I feel honored to be praised so generously, Princess.
v//w//v
 
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Hehe, I'ma goober~
Smarts have many branches, some people are more specialized in different branches than others.

*snuggles*
Thank you, I feel honored to be praised so generously, Princess.
v//w//v

I'm the only Princess on this thread
*makes Sara invisible*
See? x3
 
Hehe, I'ma goober~
Smarts have many branches, some people are more specialized in different branches than others.

*snuggles*
Thank you, I feel honored to be praised so generously, Princess.
v//w//v

you do realize calling me that turned me ten shades of red and made me squee like a schoolgirl, right? fanks for the snuggles <3


I'm the only Princess on this thread
*makes Sara invisible*
See? x3

pffft, sounds like someones a bratbutt more than a Princess! we can both be Princesses sillybutt! what kinda tiara do you prefer? :P
 
you do realize calling me that turned me ten shades of red and made me squee like a schoolgirl, right? fanks for the snuggles <3




pffft, sounds like someones a bratbutt more than a Princess! we can both be Princesses sillybutt! what kinda tiara do you prefer? :P

xD Much better than fifty shades of gray, eh?
Any you're very welcome~
 
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you do realize calling me that turned me ten shades of red and made me squee like a schoolgirl, right? fanks for the snuggles <3




pffft, sounds like someones a bratbutt more than a Princess! we can both be Princesses sillybutt! what kinda tiara do you prefer? :P

Rude xp
Also...
I prefer diamond encrusted tiaras with pink glitter
Are you new here? x3
 
Rude xp
Also...
I prefer diamond encrusted tiaras with pink glitter
Are you new here? x3

I'm not that newwwww pssshhhhhh
and here you go Princess of pink!
Argyle-Pink-Diamonds_011.jpg
 
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