EpicGamer12
Senior Member
I agree with Bacon Boy. 
Ask me about it if you want an argument.
Ask me about it if you want an argument.
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Double Standard of Promiscuity
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Prof Gallows
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I feel that if someone close to you is having a difficult time you should help, and if a stranger is looking down you should politely try and help. But forcing your way into someone else's problems seems rude to me. Asking and gentle nudges are the best way to get into helping someone who feels like they don't need any. Any forceful behavior risks making the situation worse.
edit: My previous quoted stuff was a misunderstanding.
edit: My previous quoted stuff was a misunderstanding.
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As long as the sex is safe and consensual, it isn't hurting anyone. I know a lot of people who don't want to get married. Should they never get to experience sex just because they don't feel like being tied down to one individual?
Nobody is addressing the fact that sex isn't just a procreational tool. It's a very intense and spiritual thing. Sex can make relationships grow and can give a moment of euphoria that cannot be matched. It can be a very beautiful thing when it's safe. Not having monogamy allows people to refine themselves. They can find out what they like and don't like, and can learn things from other people. That way, when the two enter the relationship they are both able to please each other. Many marriages end because of incompatibility during intercourse. Promiscuous sex has advantages, even health benefits. Whether you want to admit it or not, sex isn't evil. It's a very beautiful thing, and people should express it however they want whether it's with your husband of 30 years, or a guy you've known for a day. It isn't anyone's place to say which is right or wrong, because they are simply different ways to express the natural part of our psyche.
Nobody is addressing the fact that sex isn't just a procreational tool. It's a very intense and spiritual thing. Sex can make relationships grow and can give a moment of euphoria that cannot be matched. It can be a very beautiful thing when it's safe. Not having monogamy allows people to refine themselves. They can find out what they like and don't like, and can learn things from other people. That way, when the two enter the relationship they are both able to please each other. Many marriages end because of incompatibility during intercourse. Promiscuous sex has advantages, even health benefits. Whether you want to admit it or not, sex isn't evil. It's a very beautiful thing, and people should express it however they want whether it's with your husband of 30 years, or a guy you've known for a day. It isn't anyone's place to say which is right or wrong, because they are simply different ways to express the natural part of our psyche.
I love you for all of this!
There is another thing as well. People who end up getting married without any other previous experience can often feel like they are "missing" something later in their marriage. My parents are a great example of this. They got into a committed relationship when they were 16. By the time they were in their 30's they felt they needed to experience other people sexually so they split up. They eventually got back together but they still needed to go and see what was out there besides each other.
With myself and my partner we both had a lot of experiences when we were younger. I know what is out there and I know what I'm missing and he feels the same way. So we are completely ready to settle down with each other and that is a very reassuring thing to me.
I think, in this day and age, it is almost impossible to not know what you are missing out on with sex. That's the catch is finding someone that you fit with that is also on the same level sexually as you. I don't mean experienced, I mean into the kind of things that you're into and being willing to compromise for each other. I don't believe that sex should be a deciding factor in dating or marriage, though. Yea, it'll be great when I get married, but that's totally not the reason I want to be married. It's just a bit hard finding someone that shares interests with you, sexual and non. (I know I'm not alone on this... maybe on the forums, but outside there are a few people I know that agree with me)
I know for a fact that you are NOT alone on this. There are a lot of people with similar beliefs in this world. I just happen to not be one of them. So on this subject good sir, I agree to disagree
Yeah, I totally see where you're coming from. I might have different ideals on what sex is and isn't, but I can understand your views on the whole thing. I honestly think sexual openness is just something that's different for everyone. You can't really find a right or wrong, it's all subjective.
monochrome
Senior Member
sl*t shaming is just a tactic to pit women against women, and the world as a whole against women.
anti-feminist groups smile and cheer when two women are fighting because one cheated with the other one's man. sl*t shaming is just another tactic to focus women on destroying each other rather than destroying oppressors and propelling themselves to a level of equality with men.
its a shame that it exists. its a shame that women across america buy into it.
anti-feminist groups smile and cheer when two women are fighting because one cheated with the other one's man. sl*t shaming is just another tactic to focus women on destroying each other rather than destroying oppressors and propelling themselves to a level of equality with men.
its a shame that it exists. its a shame that women across america buy into it.
Most of my close friends know I can be (and have been) pretty sexual. Not really a hidden fact, but I just don't flaunt it. I see nothing wrong with sex. The problem for me is finding someone into what I'm into (it's an awkward "if you know what I mean"). I know a lot of people struggle with that. The biggest thing is that, especially at my school, if people found out about the fetishes and sexual escapades of everyone, then they'd act repulsed, when in reality, they're just as bad. (I'm trying to keep my descriptions relatively tame here, as this is still a forum youngins peruse.) I know people that condemn some others for what they're into when they're into some pretty kinky stuff as well. People need to stop acting like sex is some disgusting, disturbing thing. We all (maybe even secretly) want it and we're all into some weird stuff.
Wow, I've never thought about it in that light. Thank you, that was a very enlightening post. I agree with it for the most part. However on a topic such as promiscuity that is not necessarily a life destroying trait, I still believe someone has the right to dress the way the want, have desires, act on those desires, and fulfill them without enduring a torrent of people trying to "save" them from themselves. I don't see promiscuity as something that deteriorates somebody, yet I realize it has potential to become a life-altering factor but that is mostly because of the judgement on suffers when pursuing a promiscuous lifestyle.
This is one of the truest things I've ever read. I was with my friend the other day and we were on one of our friend's blogs. As we were scrolling down the page we read something that was about sex or something. When I read it, I said "Ew," (hypocritical, I know right?) because I was afraid of seeming weird for not being disturbed by it. My friend responded with something along the lines of, "How is that weird? Sex is sex, not some nasty thing. Don't lie to yourself, everyone is curious!". She opened my eyes to what you're saying right now, how our society trains us to treat the topic of sex as a taboo and that if anyone speaks about it they are freaks of nature when in actuality we probably have thought about it just as much as they have. We're all afraid of being put into the "pervert" category, but just look at how we got here! Does that make our parents crazy closet freaks? No, it's nature!
I agree. I've never been too shy around sex and I've always viewed it as a positive thing and something I look forward too. I'm still a virgin due to a couple of factors that I won't bore you with the details of, but I think it's necessary for people to talk about sex.
My high school didn't teach sex ed, and had an enormous pregnancy problem, because nobody was willing to dispel rumors or even go into detail about how to get pregnant. They just kind of wagged their finger and said, "don't do it" and it was the kids who suffered the consequences. Most of them were in committed relationships and straight A students, so it wasn't even promiscuity. It was just the school board choosing to withhold information from their students, and I find that absolutely disgusting. I even know people who are 16 and 17 years old who can't even name parts of their genitalia, and don't even know what it does, and they're definitely going to have troubles when the time finally comes.
