Do you act differently around different people?

[KaydeeKrunk]

I know I am one of those kinds of people who kind of slightly alter's my personality depending on who I am talking to and other factors so I was wondering if other people do it to!

I do it so often I am not 100% sure who I am so I mean, I do it a lot.

Sometimes it's out of necessity, like I have a "work" personality and a "family" personality and then different personalities for different friends and different personalities for when friends are acting certain ways...

If this doesn't make sense, I can be like extra nerdy around my fandom friends, and totally go off and be like a little weirdo. I'm mature around most older people and don't bring up things that would offend them. Etc.

 

[Liamslash]

If I have a crush on someone I'm with, obviously I act differently.
But I also act differently at school towards my teachers.

 

[visibleghost]

yeah. i act very differently depending on the people i'm with and on the day tbh. if i'm uncomfoetable or around a lot of people i am way more shy, but that's not really uncommon i think lol.

something that bothers me though is when i can feel my whole personality/identity changing depending on other stuff, like my feelings or thoughts or mental health. it's exhausting and a pain to try to act normal around people when i feel so different from what i should feel, lol.

 

[Aquari]

yup, im extremely quiet when around new ppl but extremely loud and talkative around friends

 

[Fleshy]

yes, 100%. It's not something I consciously do, I just do. not even like acting differently around your best friend, a distant family member and someone you've just met, because I think almost everyone does that.

When I'm speaking to someone (online) I'll change my whole typing style to match or almost match theirs, I don't want to say I "copy" people because I don't really feel like that's what I do but I often become interested in things that the person I'm speaking to in interested in even if it's not at all something I'd be into. basically I don't have a personality and i don't know who i am so it's completely molded by who I spend time with and what I see

 

[epoch]

I wouldn't say I "act" differently around other people. I was diagnosed with BPD, so my sense of self is pretty weak, and I can't tell who I really am. My personality is literally like a slot machine every time I talk to someone.

 

[Naekoya]

hm.. idk how to describe it, but I guess I am a little different based on the many group of friends I hang out with
or play games with ~ usually I'm really chill/laid back type and very open minded.. bit of a potty mouth really haha
which that get me to get along easily with people even to someone I just met! x3
I use to be very shy and quiet.. but as I got older that completely changed now I'm more outgoing than I use to be
met so many different types of people and all in all I think it's a really great experience ~

 

[nintendofan85]

Yes, but not often. Only around girls I have crushes on.
Everyone else I act like the typical grunge guy around. (My friends have noticed it)

 

[namiieco]

Not usually

 

[Miii]

When I need to, yes. For example, I reaaaaally censor myself when I'm around kids, even if they're 13 or 14. I do the same when I'm around older people because they take more offense to certain kinds of language than someone my age would. And when I'm working, I have to act a certain way; I can't just say whatever I want whenever xD

 

[lovendor]

I think it's a natural thing for everyone to do based on your comfort-level and the interests you have with those people. Sometimes when I think about it I'm worried I'm two-faced (or I guess multi-faced...?) but then I have to remember that the difference between the switch in personality is whether or not you're acting a certain way in order to mask ill intentions.

 

[Nightmares]

Yeah? If it's around people I don't know / don't know well, I'll act different....

 

[Chicha]

Definitely different depending on the type of person and environment I'm in. For work, I'm way more professional and polite. At home, I get to be myself. It also depends on the type of friends I'm around. If it's close friends, I'm more myself than with acquaintances where I hold myself back. It really depends on the person tbh.

 

[That Zephyr Guy]

Of course. It's natural, and healthy, for people to recognize to act differently in different situations.


You wouldn't act the way you do around your friends to your boss, would you?

 

[Gregriii]

I'm always an edgy *****

Well except when I'm with people I don't know, then I act "normal"

 

[vel]

yes, i can't say the crazy crap i say when teachers or strangers are around, so i act differently, more polite, etc.

 

[cornimer]

Yup, I'm kind of like a chameleon in that I act similar to the person I'm with so that we get along better.
But at the same time I'm always still me.
It's weird.

 

[amanda1983]

Of course. It's natural, and healthy, for people to recognize to act differently in different situations.


You wouldn't act the way you do around your friends to your boss, would you?

Exactly this! I work with children and as a professional educator my behaviour is very different to when I'm out socialising with peers lol. I have friends with social and/or anxiety and/or mental health issues, and the way I conduct myself with them is different to how I'll be around someone without those conditions to be mindful of. That's just basic respect, really. I'm not going to be loud and outspoken to someone I know needs more thoughtful interactions, I'll save that type of communication for a more appropriate situation.



Edit : spelling

 

[Daydream]

Yes. It depends if I'm hanging out with girls or other boys. With other guys I tend to become more "manly" (a "yo, bro" attitude xD), but with girls I'm more delicate and kind (which kinda seems to be closer to my true personnality).

Of couse, I'll also be different if I'm with my parents, family, girlfriend, etc.

I do change my personnality a little, but in the end I'm alway that same weirdo. xD

 

[moonford]

Yes I am, I need to get to know people & trust them before I act like myself around them.