Mickey said:
Society deems it necessary to base who you should go out with based on their looks. If not, then society finds ways to humiliate or pester you about it. It's how things work.
However, I have to agree with your opinion. You should really go out with someone based on their personality because you want to be able to spend your time with someone who shares the same opinions, thoughts, and feelings. You could be going out with a celebrity, however, you wouldn't be able to stand him/her for more than a second because both of your personalities clash.
It's a matter of how you view things and how you're raised. If you view things like everyone else in society, then you're bound to make horrid mistakes in which you'll regret later in life. If you're raised according to what society hates, the same thing will happen. Except, in addition to that, you'll find that you'll fear a lot of things that other people fear because of the fact that people simply don't know anything or enough information about it (i.e. Homosexuality).
It isn't society that caused an obsession with looks, it exists just as much n the animal kingdom. Don't get me wrong though cause personality means just as much if not more. But to deny that looks affect people is incorrect. If you had two people with everything on a resume exactly the same, the one that was perceive as better looking is most likely to get the job.
In a perfect world only personality would matter in my mind, but if you really look into what makes a person look good there is a biological reason for it. Mainly they are most healthy on the outside. Acne is normally unattractive if I am right and why? because it is a skin condition, I had horrible acne at a time and still have a little, I hate it. But it shows that something in my skin is less fit to handle it than someone with clear skin, this could be genetic, could be habit, could be an artificial product that makes the difference. Being too fat or too thin also isn't normally viewed as attractive, though recently there has been an odd tilt towards thin, though this is a recent thing. Part of it could very well be social I suppose. Another thing that is normally seen as beautiful is something that you don't even recognize consciously right away, but symmetry especially of the face is analyzed by your mind to a really high level partly to allow recognition of individuals. But symmetry shows that a person's genes formed well, and this is picked up by your mind.
Point is how you look will matter to people on a subconscious level. Is it fair? no. Is it controllable? not normally, though make up can help sometimes.
Sometimes I wish only personality mattered, if only because of what some people who are good looking can get away with, while someone who looks a little weird would be ratted out on the spot for the same thing. It isn't as bad as it always was though, people did think that your beauty on the outside was your beauty on the inside at a time, so if you were ugly they might burn you being a witch or something. Why do you think the stereotypical witch has warts?
Both.
