Dating for fun?

[Aronthaer]

Another discussion I'd like to strike up: Do you think it's acceptable to date someone just to have fun for a while, even if you wouldn't want to marry them and know you're going to break up? A lot of people do this nowadays and I wanted to hear your thoughts. I personally think it's not acceptable to date someone if you have no interest in a long-term relationship, but hey, my opinion.

 

[Aquari]

a long as both of you know that its all going to end then ye its fine

 

[Corrie]

As long as both sides know it isnt going to last, then thats fine.

 

[Aquari]

ive actually wanted to try dating someone for long enough then all of a sudden drop 'em just cuz

 

[Aronthaer]

a long as both of you know that its all going to end then ye its fine

Ah, but wouldn't just going out for a bit to hang out be better than putting yourself "in a relationship" with someone who you never planned on going out with long-term? it just seems to me that if you don't want to date them, you should just go out and watch a movie and enjoy their company, without branding it as a "date".

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

People can do whatever they want, I know people who are plenty happy just meeting dudes and sleeping with them occasionally, and I know people who only do serious relationships. I am a serious relationship person but I honestly wish earlier in life that I would have been more adventurous and had a few more "hook ups" and dated more, but I was a pansy for one and I can't get intimate with someone who I don't feel deeply for. I envy those who can date for fun. So yeah it's all personal preference so I voted for my personal preference, not as advice of what someone else should do. =]

 

[Chicha]

I don't think you need to have a reason to date someone as long as both parties are consensual and stay healthy. If you want to date someone for fun, go for it! If you don't, then that's okay and perfectly valid as well. You set your own standards. It really isn't our place to judge because we're not in their shoes and it's not our business anyway.

 

[MorningStar]

Personally, I think dating is meant to lead into intimate affairs, which may or may not lead into a serious relationship (which, to most people, also comes before the intimate actions). I don't think I'd date someone I had no physical or romantic interest in. Dating should be for the purpose of getting to know someone better, not just a set-up to a potential booty call.

 

[That Zephyr Guy]

Is dating not supposed to be for fun or am I missing something key here

 

[Fleshy]

I think it's completely fine, as long as it's mutual and everyone involved is aware that it's not serious and just for fun.

On the other hand, if one person is super into it and wants a long term thing and the other/s don't but agree to date anyway, that probably isn't the best and will just end in people being hurt.

I don't see why the type of relationship someone wants/ is in should bother someone not in that relationship (unless it's super harmful I guess)

- - - Post Merge - - -

Is dating not supposed to be for fun or am I missing something key here

I think they mean "for fun" with no intentions of it developing into a long term, serious thing.

 

[That Zephyr Guy]

I think they mean "for fun" with no intentions of it developing into a long term, serious thing.

So friends with benefits lol

 

[Fleshy]

So friends with benefits lol

Yeah, I guess that's what they mean lmao

 

[etsusho]

I think if you are actually "dating" someone, that implies a relationship, and should be assumed that all parties involved are taking it seriously unless some other arrangement was agreed upon.

Personally, I have always preferred dating for the purposes of a serious relationship. If that's not the objective, then it should be called "hooking up" or labelled as an open relationship.

 

[MozzarellaSticks]

Um. Do you normally go on a first date expecting marriage?

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

Um. Do you normally go on a first date expecting marriage?

Yes, roofies in my pocket and a cab to vegas waiting out the door.

 

[Celestefey]

I don't see what's wrong with going out with a person just for "fun" I guess. If you're both happy with it.

Me though, I'm not sure. I think I would, looking at myself now, I'd feel slightly overwhelmed knowing I have to remain so commited to one person (not saying I'd cheat, it's just, I feel like sometimes I don't always want to be in a relationship), but at the same time I can be really dedicated to people and if I'm happy with someone then I don't see why things have to ever change.

But yeah I guess I'll have to wait and see until that day comes. If it ever does. I'm not too fussed. But I wouldn't judge someone if they did just date others for fun.

 

[Mr. Cat]

Any is fine, it depends on the person. I picked the 2nd (for myself).

 

[boujee]

Nah. I'll only get attached.

 

[visibleghost]

as long as both ppl know what is expected there's nothing wrong w being together but not wanting to stay together for a long time.

 

[Tao]

Do you think it's acceptable to date someone just to have fun for a while, even if you wouldn't want to marry them and know you're going to break up?

Isn't dating supposed to be fun? Isn't knowing there's a possibility of breaking up essentially just part of the 'dating period'?

I would be pretty creeped out if on a first date they started making marriage arrangements and looking for a nice country cottage to move into with absolutely no self awareness that we might discover a few months down the line that we're not right for each other.