Coming out stories

[keef_kogane]

Coming out to my family was an absolute disaster. I was 14 and almost got kicked out. Coming out to acquaintances and friends is easy to do, just because the majority of my acquaintances are queer as well, lmao. I do still freak out a little when it comes to coming out to those older than me, just because of how my family reacted to the fact.

 

[Buttonsy]

While I guess you could say I've "came out" to strangers on the internet and had them throw slurs or derogatory things at me, when it comes to how people I actually care about have responded, I luckily haven't had a bad coming out experience so far, although I'm still closeted to most people.

Since I'm considering medically transitioning within the next few years though, I probably won't have a choice to not come out starting relatively soon...

 

[visibleghost]

Since I'm considering medically transitioning within the next few years though, I probably won't have a choice to not come out starting relatively soon...

lol this is part of why im not super into medical transition. having to come out to people and deal w that all the time would suck and i would probably Die. i hate how cis people think youre supposed to be as a trans person and bc im not very masculine i know i would get a ton of annoying and rude questions ha ha

 

[moonford]

Coming out is a concept that came from Straight people so they know who the "freaks" are and who to stay away from, I'm not coming out because my sexuality is personal to me and at times I revert to being asexual so I cant put a label on it.

I don't really see the point, I don't need support because I'm perfectly comfortable and I know my family are extremely accepting so life is good in that department. If they were the opposite I would disown them, it's a simple as that.

 

[Weiland]

I can't remember when I came out to my mum, but I remember at first she was concerned and thought it was just a phase. Years later, I'm still bisexual and she's become more understanding.
Can't come out to any of my other family, though. They're all very homophobic.
A lot of people at school know that I'm bisexual. They're okay with it.

 

[primandimproper]

My mom cried and my brother threatened to stab me.

 

[honeyaura]

I'm just wondering what happened when everyone else came out of the closet (if you're not out and just want to chat thats okay too)
When I did, my mother cried. Like a lot. Just like if i was dead or something. She then lashed out and started questioning a lot of everything I said or did, asked if I had asked for god's help and suggested many, many psychiatrists specialized in "sex identity help". She also went and told every single one of my family members, so I don't really trust/feel comfortable around anyone in my family. Hope some of you had better luck.

I'm so sorry this happened man. No one deserves that, and no offense to the parents but I despise people like that. It's not a disease or disorder. It was really brave of you to do so, so that deserves a thumbs up

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

i forgot what i said on this thread a while ago but i'll say some things now
i hate how people are like, "YOU CAN COME OUT TO YOUR PARENTS OF COURSE YOU CAN EVERYBODY IS ACCEPTING NOWADAYS" my dad is homophobic towards men. his best friend is too worried about his son being gay as he's quite feminine. a guy i know is shamed by his dad as well for it. those are only a few examples of people i know in my life. you don't know what life is like for the person who says their parents hate it and you're like "well they'll accept you they're your parents right" like it's not always that simple
i told my dad that i was bi and he said "oh okay, i have a problem with the boys. (it's the flamboyancy i think, i guess that's stereotyping though lol) but (guy who's shamed by his dad) doesn't give a **** and i respect him to go against an older man like me who can't change my views. i'm just a less extreme version of my dad."
i'm glad my dad is like that. not glad he's homophobic of course but he doesn't care about what people want to do with their lives and he admits what's in him is bad.

 

[glass]

i came out as nb and pan last year to my family ಥ_ಥ

i think how terrible the whole ordeal was for me that i decided to make such a drastic move to live so far away TT_TT for the majority my mother was in shock and could only cry and question me over and over again. even my brother who had always been on my side decided to turn on me suddenly and of course my father was no different

i wasnt allowed to leave the house for a month during the summer holidays as my father had grounded me. he said he was protecting me and allowing me to 'heal'. those weeks were the worst of my life ... i was alienated from everyone in my house and i wasnt even treated like a human anymore. my father did some unspeakable things to me during that time that scarred me forever and i am unsure if i will ever have the courage to speak properly about them properly //sigh// sorry to be so serious


the only person who supported me was my girlfriend who i still love dearly to this day v-v if it werent for her i may have done something a lot more drastic than just moving away ... which is scary thought



however! i managed to get through the hard times and here i am! hellooo ^-^ canada is a place where people are more supportive of lgbtq plus so i am hoping to form some good and supportive relationships here. ill be seeing my wonderful girlfriend in a couple of months too so i am happy and content with my life

just to add on that i am no longer in contact with my immediate family (who i came out to) as i am glad about that. my old school friends do not know that i am nb or pan and after the terribly bad experience with my family i dont suppose i will ever have the courage to come out to them

 

[Apriiil]

I am 25 years old, and I came out only four months ago. It's crazy to think that i've kept my truth in for so long. I told my friends first. We have a group chat, and I couldn't type it so I actually sent a 5 minute video of me crying in my car leaving my University one day. It was so over whelming. I could not keep it in any longer. The messages I received back from my friends were so great, and then I drove home and went and told my mom and sisters. My mom was kinda like "are you sure" and my sisters were so excited. I think they all knew....

A week later I came out to my dad, who said he definitely already knew, and I told all of Facebook. I had to let it out. I needed EVERYONE to just know. That's just how my brain was working at the time. I received even more messages from aunts and cousins who said they already knew I was gay, and it was freaking great. It felt so good.

Fast forward to now, I am happily dating my first girlfriend who is everything I could have EVER hoped for. She is just amazing and takes such great care of me.

For anyone looking for coming out advice, do it only when you're ready. Do not let anyone rush you. We are all here to love you before and after you come out. Reach out if you feel the need for help.

 

[primandimproper]

Yea, but when I say I'm bisexual people are annoying and always ask more questions.

Same.

I am bi and whenever I tell people, they always want to know how many girls I've been with (because I'm a woman), how old I was when I realized I liked girls, and whether or not I have a preference.

Like why is that any of your business?

It was especially annoying with my ex, who insisted that I was not actually bisexual because I don't like watching porn.

 

[carp]

was watching naked attraction on tv with my mum and said she didnt have to pause on each gal cause im gay

then we laughed about it

 

[AnimalCrossingPerson]

I came out as an attack helicopter on here at some point, which upset the staff. In all seriousness, I have no need to come out as anything - I'm straight yet too lazy to have a relationship.

 

[visibleghost]

Coming out is a concept that came from Straight people so they know who the "freaks" are and who to stay away from, I'm not coming out because my sexuality is personal to me and at times I revert to being asexual so I cant put a label on it.

I don't really see the point, I don't need support because I'm perfectly comfortable and I know my family are extremely accepting so life is good in that department. If they were the opposite I would disown them, it's a simple as that.

i agree a lot, i really wish coming out wouldn't have to be a thing. i haven't really told anyone irl that i'm ace (except for my sister who just kinda knows, and 2 psychologists who have asked about it) because it really doesn't feel like something other people need to know. my sexuality isn't a big part of my identity at all and i really don't feel the need to tell people about it.
i do understand why people feel like they have to come out though. i just wish it wouldn't be needed

I came out as an attack helicopter on here at some point, which upset the staff. In all seriousness, I have no need to come out as anything - I'm straight yet too lazy to have a relationship.

pretty sure attack helicopter jokes have been dead since the dawn of time buddy

 

[Goshi]

Coming out as trans was probably the hardest part of coming out, coming out as bisexual on the other hand was not so much.

While simply coming out as bi it was mostly dealing with biphobic comments and misunderstandings, but trans was just being thrashed by your family and having them mock you for two years, lol. It's getting better now, on the bright side.

My biggest concern now is this hormone blocker implant in my arm and whether or not I'll ever be in a relationship I could be sexually active in again.

 

[Pop-tart]

No one knows I'm bi and I don't feel that they need to, really. It'd be nice to have it out there, but I'm too anxious to bring it to light :')

 

[Buttonsy]

lol this is part of why im not super into medical transition. having to come out to people and deal w that all the time would suck and i would probably Die. i hate how cis people think youre supposed to be as a trans person and bc im not very masculine i know i would get a ton of annoying and rude questions ha ha

Oh yeah I definitely get that. Most of the dudes I'm related to are really stereotypically masculine dudes (carpenters, hunters, fishermen, truckers, etc) and are super outgoing and aggressive and I'm just really socially anxious and like make-up and cooking and art so!! I can imagine some people won't take it well agh

 

[WordKnight]

I came out to my mom on the phone and she started crying and said that I was just going through a hard time in my life and that I would get over it.
3 years later I still like guys. My mom hasn't talked to me in awhile but we do keep in touch.

 

[seliph]

I just came out to my grandparents recently and uhhhh it was awkward as hell to say the least

 

[Haskell]

My Dad was homophobic for a long point until my Mom got him to change his mind somehow. My parents a few years ago forced me to stop going to my youth group and wouldn't tell me why. I was very confused. Apparently they thought I was gay. I'm not gay. I'm bisexual. My Mom considers me gay and won't accept me as bisexual... so when I marry a beautiful woman and have beautiful kids, she's going to be surprised and think my marriage is a lie but that's whatever. It's not a big deal, honestly. At least I wasn't beaten, bullied, or kicked out of my home for being who I am.