Sudsofsplash
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That's not guilt tripping however, that's misuse of the word lol
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As someone who has both made an entry fee tip and has said "tips are necessary but not mandatory" I think no one should feel pressure. Is it nice to get a tip? Yes! Do I expect it or cry when I dont get it? No. I know there are people who do not have the funds for a tip and thats okay. I also think that if you can tip, its nice to do so. I always tip (execpt once when I forgot to :c ) and I treat it the same as tipping my waiter or Uber. I think its even more important to tip (if they dont ask for one!) when you go to an island with a good turnip price. Its just really nice to show your thanks with a tip! Thats just how I see it c:
Edit: I wanted to add that I write "tips are necessary but not mandatory" because I know some people just dont have the extra bells or NMT I do.. so if you dont then thats fine! I offer my island up to help others but if you dont tip, thats okay with me! Im not gonna sit here and say that I dont want a tip, because I do, but if someone doesnt tip Im okay with it. Sure they may just not wanna tip and thats okay!
I know its just a video game but maybe your 1 NMT could be the ticket that finds the person their dreamie, or the bells could make it so their loan is paid off or they can buy the furniture they have wanted in their cranny... just a thought
Edit: I wanted to add that I write "tips are necessary but not mandatory" because I know some people just dont have the extra bells or NMT I do.. so if you dont then thats fine! I offer my island up to help others but if you dont tip, thats okay with me! Im not gonna sit here and say that I dont want a tip, because I do, but if someone doesnt tip Im okay with it. Sure they may just not wanna tip and thats okay!
I know its just a video game but maybe your 1 NMT could be the ticket that finds the person their dreamie, or the bells could make it so their loan is paid off or they can buy the furniture they have wanted in their cranny... just a thought
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i can see how it can sound like “it’s guilt tripping” but this is a matter of perspectives and the individual experience because to an anxious person like me, it can definitely sound like one but to you it might not. i don’t think there’s a need to be calling the OP’s opinion “baity,” etc. when it can be a very real thing to them.
Yes I do suffer from anxiety IRL so I know that’s a factor in me feeling pressured.
I can see your viewpoint, but I disagree. In my opinion there are multiple forms of guilt tripping. I don't necessarily agree with the OP on this one, but when you say "tips appreciated" you do kinda put the expectation out there even if you don't mean to. If you say tips appreciated people are more likely to tip, it's more meant as a reminder imo but I can understand how it affects people too. When someone says "tips appreciated but not necessary", I can see how someone would worry because technically it's more meant for people who couldn't afford to tip.
With anxiety the ambiguity can trigger a lot of worry.
I don't usually feel pressured into tipping if they say tips aren't required, and I would leave a tip of like 10k bells, but I don't know if thats like a laughable amount or something like idk if that's a small tip or what and I never know what an appropriate tip would be, so if it says tips aren't required then I don't worry too much about if I tip/ if it's too much/ too little. If i'm selling turnips in someone's island, however, I will always tip (usually 99k) c: even if it isn't required
I like tipping anyway so I don't mind. I think it doesn't make you any more obligated for someone to put out there that tips would be nice. People taking time out of their day to help people with turnips or whatever for free makes me want to tip them regardless of whether they ask for tips or not personally.
I see both sides of this argument! I just dont see the word "guilt trip" being the best. I think the word "pressure" would be nice since the definition of guilt trip is "make (someone) feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something" but you are just saying you dont need to tip, just would be nice. I think it would be guilt tripping if someone said "you dont need to tip but my sister stole my bells/dad is crazy/ and my island is only a one star rn but its up to you!!!!". The fact that the person is saying "oh look how bad my life is help me (but only if you want not gonna make you!)" is guilt tripping. Thats just my take
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As a host: I'm one to write "tips are appreciated, but not required." I usually do so in small letters, hoping to get across that it isn't forced. I don't throw a rage fit if someone doesn't tip nor do I blacklist them--they're always welcomed back regardless of whether they tip or not.
As a visitor: I feel some pressure to tip, not because they write "tips are appreciated", but because they're taking time out of their day to open their island up when they could just not do it at all. I feel bad when I can't tip them an item from their wishlist (if they post one), so I usually drop them some bells to show appreciation in some form. So far, none of the players I've visited have responded rude if I can't get them something they wanted. I'm just glad a free option is there.
I don't think sellers should get any flak either (I see too many getting hate), unless the price they demand is unreasonably high. I got a lot of items through sellers that I couldn't find normally otherwise. I'm glad they're an option too.
As a visitor: I feel some pressure to tip, not because they write "tips are appreciated", but because they're taking time out of their day to open their island up when they could just not do it at all. I feel bad when I can't tip them an item from their wishlist (if they post one), so I usually drop them some bells to show appreciation in some form. So far, none of the players I've visited have responded rude if I can't get them something they wanted. I'm just glad a free option is there.
I don't think sellers should get any flak either (I see too many getting hate), unless the price they demand is unreasonably high. I got a lot of items through sellers that I couldn't find normally otherwise. I'm glad they're an option too.
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OP, I understand where you're coming from and I think most people in this thread are being a bit harsh. The way you worded the question at first (with "annoyed") probably rubbed people the wrong way/seemed a little rude, but I understood what you were going for. I feel pressured to tip too and when I do leave without tipping, I feel nervous and guilty, like I'm gonna get caught and called out on it lol. I'm from west coast America if that's relevant.
I've even heard of people who said "no fee but tips appreciated" kicking the visitor if they didn't tip, although I'm sure this is quite rare.
On the other hand, I can also understand this from the host's side. I have done a DIY giveaway and said nothing about tips, but some people brought them anyway and I felt a little weird accepting them (I thought it was too much but like I wasn't gonna refuse...) So then next time when I hosted for a meteor shower, I said no fee but if you'd *like* to tip, some crafting materials or just watering my flowers would be great. Probably a little under half brought materials and almost everyone watered my flowers. I wouldn't have minded if they didn't, but I felt like specifying it removed a layer of awkwardness and ambiguity.
So, basically... I get the weirdness and anxiety around "tips appreciated" but I also get why so many people use it. I think your original post was strongly worded, but ppl are taking it way too seriously tbh. You should be able to vent ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sudsofsplash
Pocket Egg
Thank you for putting it in word! lol im not the best at writing my thoughts out ;0; but this is why i was like "i dont think guilt tripping is the right term"
I can definitely see how pressure is the better word for this situation. "I feel pressured into tipping because the host mentioned it." I can understand how someone can develop negative feelings towards that because they feel like their choice is being taken away.
Yea! After reading all this it has opened my eyes on other people’s opinions, so thank you for sharing!
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Of course! I can see the word choice of guilt tripping and honestly I might have said the same thing too! Just when I googled it I realized it didn’t fit in my opinion c:
Am I the only one who actually prefers people not saying anything? Lol typing in-game is so annoying, so I feel awkward responding and writing similar things a lot, and it's another thing that interferes with people trying to get in/leave. I'm also extremely introverted, though.
Sudsofsplash
Pocket Egg
I apologize to anyone (Including OP) if I offended anyone with my words. I've never been the best with words, so I do know I come off...mean or sarcastic a lot when I don't mean to. I honest to god was not trying to argue with anyone LOL I was just stating my opinions, which was what I assumed this forum was for and tbh it read as total bait, even if it wasn't meant as bait - I've dealt with a lot of people baiting people into arguments (Especially on forums, discord servers, etc.) and for me I had red flags all over this post mainly because of phrasing made it seem as if it were bait, and I'm not saying it is bait! I think OP said it wasn't!
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I usually feel pressured to say something, but I prefer silence too. Maybe a "hi" and "bye" to let me know you're there or not, but other than that, typing on the Switch is annoying and tedious, at least for me.
@Sudsofsplash Aw, don't worry about it! The forum is there to discuss things and talk them through. 
This is why I caved and downloaded the Nintendo online app so I can type with my phone.
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