Would you remove someone from your friendlist for this?

[Kristea]

So, I'm usually pretty selective with my friends on the devices. I'll add you, but I'm always nervous about meeting new people.

Here's what happened:

The other day some friends and I were on my island to show a friend who just started playing what our islands looked like. It was late. Someone on my friendlist who I never played with before (not from here! from FB I believe) came in. I chatted a bit, asked him who he was, welcomed him, and apologized - because my shops were closed. The moment he found that out, he just left. No goodbye.

e.e; Am I overreacting by thinking I should unfriend him?

i drive myself nuts worrying if I'll hurt someones feelings x.x

 

[VanitasFan26]

You're not the only one I am also very skeptical and cautious whenever someone visits my Island the worst experience I had was that someone sent me a best friend request and not thinking too much of it I accepted it. What happened was he came to my Island when he wanted to visit and the next thing you know he started chomping down all the trees all over my Island. I was so angry that I just closed the session but my trees were lost and I ended up removing him and blocked him. I warned my friends on my friends list to not at this person because he's a troublemaker. It's sad that there are people out there who are like this so I would be careful.

 

[Moritz]

If you dont know who they are and they're comfortable just showing up, I say get rid of them

 

[Matt0106]

Personally, I wouldn't really care. I have to take into consideration that everyone is raised differently and especially on a game, some people just might not care to say "Oh okay sorry, bye." Was it a little rude? Maybe. But as long as they do not pick any trees, flowers or do any harm to my island, I just let them be (though this has never happened to me). But it was questionable to pop up randomly without asking through messaging, so if it's someone you don't know, I don't think they'll care if you unfriend them, so do whatever you feel like doing.

 

[Kristea]

You're not the only one I am also very skeptical and cautious whenever someone visits my Island the worst experience I had was that someone sent me a best friend request and not thinking too much of it I accepted it. What happened was he came to my Island when he wanted to visit and the next thing you know he started chomping down all the trees all over my Island. I was so angry that I just closed the session but my trees were lost and I ended up removing him and blocked him. I warned my friends on my friends list to not at this person because he's a troublemaker. It's sad that there are people out there who are like this so I would be careful.

Oh my. That is awful! I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I don't know how long ago that was but if you lost any fruit or anything please let me know and I'll help you get them back!

If you dont know who they are and they're comfortable just showing up, I say get rid of them

Yeah, never had them over before. I honestly didn't even remember adding them.

I guess I just get nervous / suspicious, because a lot of the time I'll open my gates to friends and drop stuff down for them as gifts, so to have someone I don't really know come in was unsettling. Just glad I didn't have anything down on the ground for them to pick up! I've never just wandered into an Island before either.

 

[princess.looking.for.frog]

Wow that is rude! I don’t tend to add friends unless I know them in real life or we are close online. I have 3 friends on my switch, 2 are irl friends and another is a really nice guy I met in a trade. Though, we haven’t talked since so its kinda funny. At least he isn’t being annoying.

 

[Jas]

i feel like if you are even a little uncomfortable with someone in the game, and you don't know them irl, unfriend em!

 

[Aquilla]

I get where you're coming from - I'm very sensitive and tend to overthink such things as well. I wish it was easier to just move on without nagging doubts. Here's what I'm trying to do in order to get better at not caring so much: If someone gives you a negative feeling (even if it's something "trivial") try to not waste so much energy on overthinking, being upset and questioning yourself/the situation. This person probably didn't even notice/care and you're here feeling bad while you could be thinking about something more pleasant. It's tough, but try not to allow negative energy in your life! If you would ultimately feel better knowing they are not on your friend list -go ahead and kick them out! Deleting people off of friend lists helps me not be reminded of the negative feelings the person left behind. It feels harsh and maybe a little childish at first but it's actually a relief once it's done. People who leave you feeling anxious and taking up way too much headspace are not worth it most of the time. Hope that helped a bit!

 

[The Foogle]

I only have one sentence for this scenario...

Drop the hammer and drop it HARD.

 

[Pyoopi]

I don't find it overly rude but just strange and awkward. If you didn't like the interaction, then delete him.

Hell, I deleted someone off my friends list because they started getting too friendly. You gotta go with your gut.

 

[SpaceTokki77]

to be honest, if this were my situation, i would remove him. to just show up at someone’s island, with no messages or anything seems a little...sus, for lack of better words. that’s probably just my anxiety talking, but if this were someone else, they probably would have probably starting picking flowers, picking up things, etc. if you feel even a little bit uncomfortable, i say remove him. he could join back since he knows that you open your island.

 

[King koopa]

I personally wouldn't unfriend that person because the closed shops couldn't have been the only reason why the person left. It could be internet, maybe the person's battery died, etc. But if it bothers you that much, unfriend that person.

 

[Foreverfox]

Don't feel bad, you're most certainly not overreacting! It would miff me if someone did that to me. I mean, it's common courtesy to say bye, or at least some waving reaction or something that acknowledges departure. It would make me feel like they were only there for my shops. Which is fine, if that is the stated purpose. It clearly wasn't the case here.

If you're worried about hurting their feelings, don't unfriendly them maybe, but don't let them back in and maybe make your trusted friends best friends. I would probably just unfriend them, but that's just me. You also shouldn't have to alter how you play to avoid hurting someone's feelings who doesn't even have enough courtesy to worry about yours. Hope this helps!

 

[SpaceTokki77]

You also shouldn't have to alter how you play to avoid hurting someone's feelings who doesn't even have enough courtesy to worry about yours.

this exactly, couldn’t have said it better. if they didn’t even bother caring about your feelings by at least saying bye or somehow letting you know that they were coming, i wouldn’t think about how their feelings may be hurt if you unfriended them. they were kind of asking for it...

 

[Marshmallows]

I'm not too familiar with online and leaving the gate open... but my cousin sometimes plays with her friends and I get the "I'm online!" popup. At first I thought it was a direct message to me... but now I think it's just that the gate is open.

Anyway, they could have thought you were inviting them over and then realized they were intruding so left without saying anything. Just a guess.

In any case, if you're not actually friends and don't communicate at all, it's perfectly fine to unfriend them. They may not even notice.

 

[juneau]

I personally don't find it too rude either, but I also would have no qualms about deleting them from my friendlist if I were in your situation, since I have never played with them before. I would usually only add people I know and chat with regularly anyway, so if there was a weird interaction and I don't even really know them in the first place, then I'd delete/not friend them in the first place.

But yeah, I agree with what cocoacat said, they could have just also not wanted to take up more of your time with the awkward in-game typing. But like also that they won't notice or be offended if you unfriend them, since you are virtually strangers.

 

[stitchmaker]

It could have been a quick visit so mail can be sent. I belong to a group by rarely visit after I'm able to send mail.

 

[Hype]

If they are just gonna use you for your shop I don't see the point of being friends, but id still let them come. I guess being upfront is best in this kind of situation.

 

[Valeris]

So, I'm usually pretty selective with my friends on the devices. I'll add you, but I'm always nervous about meeting new people.

Here's what happened:

The other day some friends and I were on my island to show a friend who just started playing what our islands looked like. It was late. Someone on my friendlist who I never played with before (not from here! from FB I believe) came in. I chatted a bit, asked him who he was, welcomed him, and apologized - because my shops were closed. The moment he found that out, he just left. No goodbye.

e.e; Am I overreacting by thinking I should unfriend him?

i drive myself nuts worrying if I'll hurt someones feelings x.x

For me it's easier to just communicate on here, so if I left abruptly I'd probably toss you a line saying thanks or something similar. At the least I'd give you a positive reaction before I left. If they just left, it comes off like they were just using you for your shop. They sound like more of a Dodo Code visitor than adding them to your friends list. My opinion.

 

[AlyssaAC]

I always make sure to say bye before I leave someone’s island, even if I don’t know them. If you feel a little uncomfortable about someone, then it’s totally fine to delete them. I’m also very selective nowadays about who I add. I always got to talk to them lots and get to know them before I add them to my friends list. Don’t want unexpected visitors if you know what I mean.