What's your Sexuality?

[oath2order]

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[RhinoK]

Or you can just be yourself and be okay with that. Boxing yourself into terms and names isn't what I would call helpful in identifying an aspect of yourself. It just creates more confusion I think, with people despairing over not being able to fit into a cookie cutter definition that a bunch of people on tumblr came up with. Sexuality doesn't work that way.

Ya ok tumblr invented the terms homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual ;////

EDIT: unless you're referring to polygonromantic pencilsexual otherkin labels then yeah I agree

 

[oath2order]

Ya ok tumblr invented the terms homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual ;////

They didn't invent them but they certainly helped invent some of the others.

 

[RhinoK]

unless you're referring to polygonromantic pencilsexual otherkin labels then yeah I agree

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They didn't invent them but they certainly invented some of the others.

Took out the 'helped' because let's be honest tumblr made all these labels so people can 'find which one suits them'

 

[MisterEnigma]

Ya ok tumblr invented the terms homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual ;////

Please re-read what I said carefully. I'm specifically talking about terminology that's been coined from popular social media sites to create barriers rather than educate and strengthen people in their struggles. Your sarcasm and rudeness here isn't appreciated or needed, as I have no problems with labels if they're actually helpful.

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Ya ok tumblr invented the terms homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual ;////

EDIT: unless you're referring to polygonromantic pencilsexual otherkin labels then yeah I agree

That's exactly what I meant, sorry, I replied without seeing your edit.

 

[oath2order]

On a serious note though, I am a homosexual, homoromantic, (could also be called androsexual and androromantic if you don't believe in gender concepts), and cisgender DMAB (designated male at birth).

unless you're referring to polygonromantic pencilsexual otherkin labels then yeah I agree

Yes, that is primarily what I am referring to. Or even "sapiosexual" like.

 

[RhinoK]

That's exactly what I meant, sorry, I replied without seeing your edit.

I replied only skim read what you wrote, so sorry on my behalf.

Yes, that is primarily what I am referring to. Or even "sapiosexual" like.

I... I can't take people seriously when people use these labels, like I only ever see people use them on tumblr

Sapiosexual - One who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.

... Is... is this even a label? Is this serious? Reminds me of how John Green said this:

"Gentlemen, nerd girls are the world's most underutilized romantic resource"

Ignore how objectifying and sexist that is but focus on how a girl being a 'nerd' is romantic or crap (even tho that is the objectifying part or w.e)

 

[-Apples-]

I'm heterosexual. As a guy, I like girls. Most of the time when I hang out with someone, I hang out with females, but I'm not in a relationship.

 

[Amissapanda]

My issue with sexuality nowadays is that people put too much emphasis on it. A person is a lot more than their sexuality or gender identity or whatever other labels there are. But now you have to be careful that you don't call a biologically male person "him" unless they want to be called "him" and not her or they/them. And you're considered to be offending them if you use the wrong one. I've been told that I need more "gay friends", as if my friends' sexualities are all that should matter to me about them.

People are making it out to matter more than it should. And that isn't to belittle anyone who has had hardships because of their sexuality, as that's just as ridiculous that someone would take it seriously enough to hurt/bully them over it, but it's becoming like Hogwarts Houses or something. Only instead of four, there's like twenty and there are more being created constantly.

 

[MisterEnigma]

My issue with sexuality nowadays is that people put too much emphasis on it. A person is a lot more than their sexuality or gender identity or whatever other labels there are. But now you have to be careful that you don't call a biologically male person "him" unless they want to be called "him" and not her or they/them. And you're considered to be offending them if you use the wrong one. I've been told that I need more "gay friends", as if my friends' sexualities are all that should matter to me about them.

People are making it out to matter more than it should. And that isn't to belittle anyone who has had hardships because of their sexuality, as that's just as ridiculous that someone would take it seriously enough to hurt/bully them over it, but it's becoming like Hogwarts Houses or something. Only instead of four, there's like twenty and there are more being created constantly.

I like your comment a lot, and it was part of what I was trying to get at, but people can take what you say the wrong way all the time. Sexuality is treated like it is an entire person's being, rather than one small part of it, and I don't understand the fixation with it. And the creation of labels on sites like tumblr, to me, is more harmful than helpful, and it also comes off as extremely offensive to groups that are struggling to have their identities known. There doesn't need to be a sexual label for an attraction to pasta, for example, do you understand what I mean? That's almost mocking other people and their struggles, just so a few kids on tumblr can feel special.

 

[Delphine]

My issue with sexuality nowadays is that people put too much emphasis on it. A person is a lot more than their sexuality or gender identity or whatever other labels there are. But now you have to be careful that you don't call a biologically male person "him" unless they want to be called "him" and not her or they/them. And you're considered to be offending them if you use the wrong one. I've been told that I need more "gay friends", as if my friends' sexualities are all that should matter to me about them.

People are making it out to matter more than it should. And that isn't to belittle anyone who has had hardships because of their sexuality, as that's just as ridiculous that someone would take it seriously enough to hurt/bully them over it, but it's becoming like Hogwarts Houses or something. Only instead of four, there's like twenty and there are more being created constantly.

I agree on this, I wouldn't have said it better (I couldn't say it better, anyways). I have the same feeling that now, people's sexualities are considered to be what defines everyone, and to me it's wrong.

 

[spCrossing]

Hetero.

 

[(ciel)]

Asexual aromantic.
I like all sorts of people aesthetically, but I've never had a crush or any sort of other feelings towards anyone. I'd only consider dating someone if they absolutely knew what they were getting into with me, and they knew what would make me uncomfortable.

 

[Stevey Queen]

I'm pretty gay.

 

[Eldin]

Hetero, but I get the idea if I felt a strong emotional bond with a woman then I'd be on that. So I wouldn't really call myself bi, but I guess my point is I wouldn't rule it out.

I don't know like half of the terms that are around nowadays so there's probably a better way to describe this, but eh.

 

[(ciel)]

My issue with sexuality nowadays is that people put too much emphasis on it. A person is a lot more than their sexuality or gender identity or whatever other labels there are. But now you have to be careful that you don't call a biologically male person "him" unless they want to be called "him" and not her or they/them. And you're considered to be offending them if you use the wrong one. I've been told that I need more "gay friends", as if my friends' sexualities are all that should matter to me about them.

People are making it out to matter more than it should. And that isn't to belittle anyone who has had hardships because of their sexuality, as that's just as ridiculous that someone would take it seriously enough to hurt/bully them over it, but it's becoming like Hogwarts Houses or something. Only instead of four, there's like twenty and there are more being created constantly.

It is offensive to use the wrong pronouns if you've been told which to use. If you mess up in the beginning, just correct yourself and apologize, it's no big deal. Just don't do it on purpose because yeah, that is offensive. There's a reason people want to be called with different pronouns--because it makes them more comfortable with themselves. That's a completely different issue than needing more "gay friends" though. If you have none, whatever. Don't make friends just because of their sexuality, make friends because you have stuff in common.

That being said, as someone who has struggled with my sexuality and gender identity, it can be a pretty big part of someone. Worrying about if people would accept me, feeling uncomfortable not being able to come out and be myself, getting uncomfortable being asked out and not understanding why I didn't want to date someone, not knowing why I never liked anyone....it can cause a lot of stress, and things that cause a lot of stress are usually a big deal and a big part of a person. It can be a connection, too. I finally met a few other asexual people, and though we have other things in common, we became friends because we understood each others struggles.

I do think people are getting overboard with the labels, though. It's fine to create labels to fit you, and those labels may help other people, too but there can be a point where people definitely won't take it seriously, and that's not okay because it detracts from real issues.

 

[Hyoshido]

If there's a term for every other little nitpicky attraction thing, I'm surprised there isn't one for this.

I'm shocked too, I wouldn't even begin to know what to call it though!

 

[Fawning]

I am attracted to men but I'm really attracted to women, but not sexually i think, just i think women are gorgeous.

i say i'm straight but idk i just like who i like

 

[Alice]

I am attracted to men but I'm really attracted to women, but not sexually i think, just i think women are gorgeous.

i say i'm straight but idk i just like who i like

You remind me of this girl I like in that sense. Straight, but still likes to look at women. My poor heart.

 

[Amissapanda]

For an actual answer to this thread, I'm generally asexual with a side of hetero-romantic. I don't really feel sexual attraction to people. But it's not a big part of personality or anything like that. If I'm not interested, I'm not interested. And the labels for myself don't even matter much to me, so I'd rather just say I'm "me" and if someone ended up being attracted to me or vice-versa, then I'd explain where I stand with sexuality, but on a day-to-day basis, it's no cause of stress for me and not something I need to walk up to anyone and start conversation about. I don't need a niche to fit into, personally, and it doesn't make me uncomfortable with myself. If someone doesn't accept me over something like that, I don't need them anyway.